Not signed in (Sign In)

Vanilla 1.1.2 is a product of Lussumo. More Information: Documentation, Community Support.

  1.  
    Although I don’t post very often, I have been a daily consumer for over four years. I have gone with many of you on your nursing home placements and the trauma of watching a loved one slowly die (Phranque for one) and wondered how I would cope when my turn came.

    This morning was my turn and the experience was just as unique as each of yours that I have followed. My husband was in the later stage six—incontinent, walking with much difficulty, confused talking. The last several months he had been sleeping straight through the night without getting up to use the toilet. Last night he woke up shortly after five and wanted to go to the bathroom. With help he made it to the toilet but then was unable to stand up. I called my son who lives nearby for help. He’s had EMT training and the first thing he did was take his blood pressure. His blood pressure and pulse were normal. My son had to literally drag him back to bed. Ten minutes later he had stopped breathing and was dead.

    He had no pain and no trauma—it was so peaceful—but very unreal. My daughter-in law and sister-in-law came over. We spent several hours with him and then called the authorities who then took over—police officer, coroner, funeral directors—who each one did their thing.

    So when we say that each Alzheimer patient is different, their way of ending things is each very different also.

    FYI: My husband was 82, diagnosed as probable Alzheimer's 12 years ago, so we have been on this journey for some time.
  2.  
    Dear Lori - So sorry to heard about your DH, but he had you and his son with him and things were not prolonged. My DH also just stopped breathing, for us it was 10 years. You have my condolences and blessings that you have family around. Betty
    •  
      CommentAuthorJudithKB*
    • CommentTimeDec 8th 2012
     
    So sorry Lori that you have this grief to face during the holiday season. There is no season that is right but you seem to be expecting the end and you sound like a very strong person. Just know my prayers are with you and may you have the comfort of knowing that you will be in our thoughts as many come here to read your post. Hugs.
  3.  
    Dear Lori...please accept my condolences for the loss of your dh. I know you will miss the good years with him very much.
  4.  
    Yes, so sorry for your loss. I hope for such a peaceful passing for mine when the time comes.
  5.  
    So very sorry for your loss.. I can't imagine what you went through...but you were with him every step of the way. He knew that...
    Wishing you peace.
    •  
      CommentAuthormary75*
    • CommentTimeDec 8th 2012
     
    Dear Lori, you've had a long journey, and I think that you will have peace knowing that you were a blessing to him. I will keep you both in my prayers.
    •  
      CommentAuthordeb112958
    • CommentTimeDec 8th 2012
     
    Dear Lori, I very sorry for your loss.
  6.  
    So very sorry for your loss Lori....take comfort that it was a peaceful passing and you was with him till the end.
    Prayers and thoughts are with you and family.
    • CommentAuthorandy*
    • CommentTimeDec 9th 2012
     
    Lori, I am saddened by your loss and praying for you and your family as you honor your loved one. Thankful that he passed peacefully knowing you and family were near. May that be a comfort to you in the days ahead.
  7.  
    Lori, I am sad and sorry for your loss, but it was a blessing that he passed so peacefully. Sending thoughts and prayers for you and your family for strength and comfort.
  8.  
    Lori, I am so sorry. I hope and pray that you can find peace in your heart. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
  9.  
    Lori, Please accept my condolences on the loss of your dear husband. How wonderful that your son and family were able to spend some calm time together before all the officials bustled in.
    • CommentAuthorSusanB
    • CommentTimeDec 9th 2012
     
    Lori, I am so very sorry for your loss. May you and your family find peace in the days ahead.
    •  
      CommentAuthorCarolyn*
    • CommentTimeDec 9th 2012
     
    Very sorry for your loss. Even harder at this time of year. Keep in touch with us.
  10.  
    Lori* my heart and prayers your way today. I am so sorry for you sadness. Thank you for sharing the way it happened, oh how I would wish that for my guy too. Hugs to you, peace, and healing.
  11.  
    Lori, my thoughts and prayers are with you. May you have the strength you need in the coming weeks and months ahead. (((Hugs)))
    • CommentAuthorAdmin
    • CommentTimeDec 9th 2012
     
    Lori - my deepest condolences to you and your family.

    joang
  12.  
    My most sincere condolences to you and your family.
    Nancy B*
    • CommentAuthorWolf
    • CommentTimeDec 9th 2012
     
    Lori, I'm sorry for your loss. Twelve years is such a long time.
    • CommentAuthorAmber
    • CommentTimeDec 9th 2012
     
    So sorry for your loss. He is now in a place where he has peace. I hope you find it as well.
    • CommentAuthorLFL
    • CommentTimeDec 9th 2012
     
    Dear Lori*, I too am so very sorry for your loss. I am however glad that his passing was so peaceful after 12 years of the Alz sttruggle. Prayers for you and your family.
    • CommentAuthorElaineH
    • CommentTimeDec 9th 2012
     
    Lori*, I'm so sorry to hear about the passing of your husband. He had a quick & peaceful passing. Now I hope you can find some peace in the coming days to help you through this difficult time.
    •  
      CommentAuthorBama* 2/12
    • CommentTimeDec 9th 2012
     
    (((HUGS)))
    • CommentAuthorscs
    • CommentTimeDec 9th 2012
     
    Dear Lori....may all your happy memories and the knowledge that you where there for him throughout his illness sustain you in the coming days and years ahead. Peace.
    •  
      CommentAuthorol don*
    • CommentTimeDec 10th 2012
     
    Welcome to the exclusive club noone ever wanted to join,my prayers are with you an your family
  13.  
    Lori*---Your DH was blessed with a swift and peaceful passing. Be comforted that you did your very best to see him through his journey to a far better place. Peace be with you and your familky as you celebrate his life.
    •  
      CommentAuthorAnchor20*
    • CommentTimeDec 10th 2012
     
    Lori*

    I prayers are with you and your family and hope things go good for you all during this time of loss.

    JimB
    • CommentAuthordivvi*
    • CommentTimeDec 10th 2012
     
    our condolences Lori* on your loss. he is free and will be your guiding light. peace to you and yours.
    divvi
  14.  
    Lori*, our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
    •  
      CommentAuthorm-mman*
    • CommentTimeDec 10th 2012
     
    Peace be with you.
    Know that your sharing of this moment has helped us all prepare.
  15.  
    I am so sorry Lori. I wish you strength for the days, weeks and months ahead.

    Jan
  16.  
    Love and prayers to you.
    • CommentAuthorbriegull*
    • CommentTimeDec 11th 2012
     
    So sorry, Lori, that it had to happen now, but it sounds like it was as peaceful as it could be. Glad your son was with you.
  17.  
    My deepest sympathies Lori, take care of yourself for now a power greather than thee is taking care of your loved one.
  18.  
    Blessings and heartfelt condolences, Lori!
    •  
      CommentAuthorNikki
    • CommentTimeDec 12th 2012
     
    Lori* I am so sorry. I pray you find comfort and peace ((hugs))
  19.  
    Thoughts while waiting to be picked up for my husband's funeral: I've lost my husband but, when I concentrate too much on that, I tend to overlook the fact that my children have lost their father. My daughter-in law and one son-in-law lost their fathers at a young age so my husband has also been a father figure to them. They have all been so helpful in things you don't think of--making CDs of the music for the sound people, putting together a powerpoint presentation of his life pictures, arranging a photo display for the viewing, arranging child care for the 11 great-grands under the age of 5 and on and on.

    This all feels so strange-----and I'll post it quick before I think too much and delete it.
  20.  
    Sending you (((Hugs)))
  21.  
    Prayers coming to you and your family. So sorry for your loss.
    Bruce D *
  22.  
    Lori* thank you so much for letting us know what is going on. Thank you for posting it. Prayers going up right now for you and yours.