Frank left us on the first day of autumn. It was a bittersweet moment as we watched his last breath and knew he was finally free of this disease. I still can't believe how quickly he declined. He lived in very nice facility for only six weeks. I was just getting into the rhythm of visiting him three times a week and it was over. Honestly, I think it was for the best for him to have it end quickly yet I am so saddened by the memories of his decline. Each time I see his things around the house or pictures of the old Frank I realize what a hole this has left in our world. There is still so much to do. Two days after Frank died my brother died suddenly when an oak tree he was cutting down fell on him. He was the oldest and funniest of the five children in my family. His sudden, shocking loss is so different from Frank's, yet there is so much that is familiar. It has been a hard couple of weeks. I dread going back to work tomorrow.
My deepest condolences to you on your double loss. Yes, it may have been the best that your Frank did not linger in the last stages of AD. I hope that the good memories with replace the AD memories with time and healing.
So very sorry for the tragic losses you are suffering with. You are in my prayers for comfort and peace through the days ahead. We are all here for you.
I am so sorry to read of the loss of both your husband and brother. May you be granted some peace at this difficult time. Going back to work and being in a routine is wise, I think, and you will heal.
I am very sorry too but I am glad that he is not apart of this disease anymore. I also hope that your good memories would eventually replace the bad ones.
He has been released and you will see him again when you are released from your earthly body and given your much deserved reward. I know things will be hard, just keep reminding yourself how good it is for him now. God bless you for all you have done - you've been a good partner and caregiver. Keep yourself busy and try to remember the good ole days.
Sorry for your double loss. As painful as it is Frank's is a blessing for him as he has escaped this dreaded disease. But your brother is a tragic loss. May you find peace somehow in the midst of all the sorrow.
My heart goes out to you in your loss of both your DH and brother. Double losses so close together make it more difficult to even comprehend, as I well know. May you be given peace during this time and in the days to come. My thoughts are with you.
I am so very sorry for your losses. I am sure Frank is looking down, now able to remember all the care and love you showed him. My prayers are with you and your family for both of your losses.
I am so very sorry for the loss of both your dear Frank and your brother. I know your heart must be so broken. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers.
I am so sorry. The death of one loved one is bad enough. To deal with two has to be almost beyond bearing. My thoughts and prayers are with you in this difficult time and in the days ahead.
I am so sorry. To lose your DH after the long decline is so hard, but to lose your brother so soon after, and unexpectedly, is even harder. May the blessing of time and the caring of family carry you through. Peace be with you.
So very sorry. My family lost a brother the very same way. So sudden and shocking. He was only 45. You have a lot to adjust to. I agree with you that it was probably best for your husband to be released. Still, the loss for you is unmeasurable. Please be gentle with yourself as you begin your healing from this process.
Thank you, friends. I have been pretty numb and not feeling much like crying but your caring words made me cry. What a bond we share here as we travel on this long and winding road. Mothert, your comment "just keep reminding yourself how good it is for him now" was just what I needed to hear. I will keep that thought close.
So very sad about your brother. Sad about DH too, but I know he is at peace and you can grieve his passing instead of the grieving we do while they are with us but not. Be well.