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    At 5:45 tonight Frank was freed from the dementia prison he has lived in for more than two years. Our grandchildren came yesterday and each sat by his bedside and talked to him. Then they spent the day in his room visiting, laughing and loving him. Today our daughter finally came by and told him it was o.k. with her and she'd be alright. We think he was waiting for her because he began the process after that. Our sons and she were with me and he peacefully slipped away. I've sent everyone home now I'm going off to bed as the past two weeks have been so tiring. We will be going two states away by car for his burial so need to try to get some rest. As I said he is free now and in a beautiful place. Thanks to all of you for your support and I'll be checking in to see if I can help someone else.
    • CommentAuthorabby* 6/12
    • CommentTimeOct 2nd 2012 edited
     
    Oh, Flo,

    I know, at least from my experience, that the loss can be so hard. We pray for a peaceful ending but that does not mean it does not hurt.

    I congratulate the joy of release, which are words I got from mothert on my H's passing. He is free, and that is worthy of praise.

    For me, also on the 3rd (if that is your time zone) and also under a full moon.

    Wishing you all the best, you have been a wonderful help to me.
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      CommentAuthorJudithKB*
    • CommentTimeOct 2nd 2012
     
    Flo..You and your family are in my prayers. Having just lost my dh in late Aug. it is so fresh in my mind the feelings you are having and I hold you close in my heart. The feeling of peace knowing he will not be
    burdened by the terrible condition is one of relief and sorrow that he will no longer be here with you.
    Get your rest because you will need it. So glad you had your family with you..they are such a wonderful
    support and help at a time like this.
    • CommentAuthordeb42657
    • CommentTimeOct 2nd 2012
     
    Flo, I am sorry for your loss but I agree with you that he is free and to know that you and your kids were with him all day and had loving and good memory must be a comfort. Get some rest, and thank you so much for saying that you will be wanting to help still because I for one could really use it. I'll be thinking of you and your family while you travel.
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    My heart is with you too Flo. Thank you for saying you will come back and help us too. Please try to rest. I am sorry for you loss, and glad you are able to let him go., thankful his suffering is over.
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    Oh flo39...I am so sad for your loss, but as you say, Frank is now free, no more struggles. So glad you had the family there with you to support you..
    Blessings...May he Rest In Peace..
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    Flo my thoughts and prayers are with you. I also am happy that the family was able to be there. I no as you said he is free now. I pray for you now to have peace and joy. Thank you for sharing and saying you will come back and help us. I don't post often, but just reading everyone else's has helped. You are in my prayers
    • CommentAuthorJean21*
    • CommentTimeOct 3rd 2012
     
    Flo, I am sorry you have lost your husband but I am glad his passing was peaceful with his family around him. I hope you will find peace in the days ahead. God Bless.
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      CommentAuthorAnchor20*
    • CommentTimeOct 3rd 2012
     
    Flo39, I am sorry that you lost Frank. Take care of yourself. Get some rest. Take care of the things you need to, as I know you will, and then I wish for you a wonderful life into the future as I am sure he would have wanted for you also.

    God Bless You, your family and Frank

    JimB
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    Flo-a time of peace to you all.
    • CommentAuthormary22033
    • CommentTimeOct 3rd 2012
     
    Flo, I am sorry your DH has gone on ahead of you. Praying that God will give you strength and peace in the coming days.
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    Flo, my heart goes out to you. You, and he, have suffered so much! May you find the calming peace that he now has. Thoughts are with you all.
    • CommentAuthorElaineH
    • CommentTimeOct 3rd 2012
     
    Dear Flo, you & your family will be in my thoughts & prayers as you mourn his loss, but celebrate that he is now free. You are blessed that your family was there with you, now lean on them for support. You have been a wonderful caregiver, but now it's time to take care of YOU! God Bless!
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    FLO, what a beautiful passing. You did a fantastic job and Frank was very blessed to have loved and been loved by you. Please take your rest. May God grant you peace and understanding. Phyllis
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    I'm so sorry for your loss.
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    Sincere condolences
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    Flo, please know you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

    Ruth
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    Flo, my prayers are with you. You are fortunate that you and your children were able to be together at the end. May you find the strength to get through the coming days and weeks.

    Hugs,
    Mary*
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    Many hugs to you and your family. I am so sorry and pray you find peace in your heart.
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      CommentAuthormary75*
    • CommentTimeOct 3rd 2012
     
    Dear Flo, I'm keeping you in my prayers. It's been a long, hard journey with heavy burdens. I urge you to be kind to yourself and get as much rest and relaxation as you can. It helps the healing.
    • CommentAuthorLFL
    • CommentTimeOct 3rd 2012
     
    flo, you both have been through so much these last few weeks...I am glad Frank's passing was peacful and your family was with him. Sincere condolences and get the much needed rest you need and deserve after these last weeks.
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      CommentAuthorjanny*
    • CommentTimeOct 3rd 2012
     
    Flo, sincere hugs to you and your family. How wonderful for them to be there with you. Please take care of yourself, as healing is a whole new trial. You have done so much and now need to rest and be with family. We are here too.
    • CommentAuthorscs
    • CommentTimeOct 3rd 2012
     
    May all the wonderful memories of your life together bring joy to you and your family. May these memories sustain you in the days ahead.
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      CommentAuthorm-mman*
    • CommentTimeOct 3rd 2012
     
    May all your daydreams be happy memories. . . .
    • CommentAuthordivvi*
    • CommentTimeOct 3rd 2012
     
    flo its all our wishes that our spouses pass peacefully in the wake of their loved ones. may you have peace and comfort now.
    divvi
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    flo - My thoughts are with you and your family, blessed with a peaceful, loving passing. Betty
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    Heartfelt condolences, Flo.
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    So sorry for your loss. I am so glad that you have your family with you. I pray for His comfort to surround you all in the days ahead. Get some well deserved rest!
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    Thankfully he is in a better place now than any of us!Prayers to you and your family.
    • CommentAuthorWolf
    • CommentTimeOct 3rd 2012
     
    I'm very sorry to hear he's passed Flo.
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    What a blessing that you and your family were with him and his passing was peaceful. Rest now and celebrate his life, knowing you did your best nd it was "good enough". Knowing you saw him through in dignity and love and you are a survivor are the only "wins:" we get on this road. Peace be with you and yours as you now celebrate his life.
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    So glad his suffering is over and so sad for your loss. How wonderful that you were all with him as he crossed over. Things are as they should have been. Well done. {{{Hugs}}}
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    Most sincere condolences.
    Love,
    Nancy B*
    • CommentAuthorAdmin
    • CommentTimeOct 3rd 2012
     
    Dearest Flo,

    My deepest condolences to you and your family.

    joang
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    Dear Flo:

    Please accept my most sincere sympathy for your loss. I know you will miss Frank very much. Your ages reflect my and my dh's and also the stages of dh's disease so I have followed your posts very carefully. You fought the valiant fight and did a remarkablel job. I hope to continue my journey following your footsteps.

    May you rest in the love of family and friends.

    Shirley
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    flo39*
    Sincere sympathy to you and all your family. I know how hard it is to say good bye. It was wonderful that all the family could be with you and him.
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      CommentAuthorBama* 2/12
    • CommentTimeOct 3rd 2012
     
    Praying for a feeling of peace for you and your family and for the strenght to get through the coming days. (((Hugs)))
    • CommentAuthorCharlotte
    • CommentTimeOct 3rd 2012
     
    Praying for rest and peace, safety for the trip across state. Take care of yourself now.
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      CommentAuthorNikki
    • CommentTimeOct 4th 2012
     
    Flo, my heartfelt condolences to you and your family. ((hugs))
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    Please Flo accept my deepest sympathies....may The Lord bless and keep you. Bless you and your family. The next phase of your journey will begin, please be kind to yourself and take great comfort in knowing your love one is rest in the hands of God.
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    Hi Flo--So sorry for your loss. Please know that many kudos come your way for your great care of your dh. He is free now. You are entering the new phase of your life. I pray for your inner peace. Much love and hugs to you.

    Hanging On
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    Flo, I have been away. I was so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.
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    Flo, my Frank died on September 22, the first day of autumn, symbolic I think. I too feel good that he is finally freed from that crummy disease and I am comforted to know he is ok now. We held him and loved him and said goodbye. He left us so quickly and now there is hole in our world. My wish for you is needed rest and good friends and many blessings. -Marcia
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    Thank you to everyone. My sons and I had a quick trip to Okla. I was making funeral arrangements on the way and talking to the minister. It was a bitter cold day with the Okla. wind "sweeping down the plain" there were more people there than I expected because we haven't lived there for 46 years. He was buried in my family's plot where our first child (stillborn) was placed. So now begins all the "after" days. I am lonely but I would never wish him back as he was the past two years. He really is at peace now and I will survive I know. My own mother was a widow longer than she was married. But we had 60 years. What a great life we had and I am thankful for everyday.
    • CommentAuthordonna L
    • CommentTimeOct 7th 2012
     
    Marcia, said it so well ,rest and know he is free indeed.