The family service is coming next Monday to assess him!?! I don't want them to hurt his feelings so I worry about that. But he is in such a fog that there probably won't be any problem with that. He's at the top of the list in the nursing home facility. So there shouldn't be a problem as far as getting him in. But such a huge moment in our lives. Financially too. I don't understand the proceedure yet or whether I will have enough money to do any traveling or if I will want to. There are so many unknowns.
midwestmn, it is important that your dh is not all"spiffed up" for the evaluators. Keep him dressed in what he would normally wear. Don't coach him or answer any questions for him no matter how embarrased he might be or how uncomfortable you might be. You want the evaluators to get an accurate assessment of your husband so they can make a sound decision on the next steps (like placement). Yes, this is a big moment but please take my advice....you don't want them to tell you he's not ready if he really is.
Also, you probably have thought of this but just in case you haven't make a list of every thing you can think of that makes you believe he would qualify and tell them how he has progressed. They will have no idea what he was like before he had AD.
I will make a list. Just from yesterday to today he's lost ground. Is eating hardly anything, and losing interest in most things - if not all. It's just so sad. I would like to sleep with him to comfort him, but he's up and down and asking questions when I'm just getting to sleep. Things like "How are you doing?" I've closed the door to my bedroom the past several nights and he seems to respect that. He appears to be so sick. Dark circles under his eyes and very pale.