Let me see if I can something right. The obituary is at www.myrtlebeachonline.com and the name is Emerson McElroy. I didn't give DH's name earlier!!! I checked early this morning and the obituary didn't have all the information I gave at the nursing home so I stopped by there and it is now correct. Went to the Clerk of Courts with DH's will along with all the papers the funeral home said I would need and DUH the only thing I need is the death certificate which I don't have yet. According to the funeral home it can take upto three weeks. I am getting so aggravated and bad tempered I don't know which end is up.
Jean, these are very stressful times for you and if at all possible, please ry to take a break. These days ahead will be filled with many tasks you have to do. In some way it's good to take your mind off of your loss, even for a moment but it will also be very frustrating because no one is going through what you are and maybe insensitive or uncaring.
It's taken me all this time (18 months) to get over my anger at his children and the health care system. I think this was aggravated by the extreme fatigue and sacrifice we've all have had to make, and very few people made it any easier for us. In other words, we had to perform beyond our endurance, and the rest of the world just went its merry way: some good, some bad, some mediocre. Please be kind to yourself in every way. This, too, will pass.
Just checking in today and so sorry to see that yet another * has been added. Jean, thank you for sharing here. We are fortunate to have such wise counsel from those who really KNOW. I'm just so sorry
Finally Got the Death Certificate, DH died from Alzheimer's, Hypertension and Pneumonia. All that's left to do is the inurment which could take a week the way things are going. I have never known anything to be so messed up by people making decisions without consulting me. They know better now so I hope it will help others in the future.