In response to Terry's thread mothert said that while this is hard for those of us left behind we must think of the joy experienced by our loved ones who are now free of this (not exact but this is what I got from her comment).
I thank all of you for your prayers and condolences. Just so you know...there is no family, it was just DH and myself. My closest realative is in Scotland and DH's sister is in Alz. facility in Ohio.
Jean, I'm so sorry for your heartbreak. Your dh is at peace now. I pray for peace for you, and for recovery from all of your hard work. Many blessings sent your way.
Jean, I know this has been so difficult for the past few months and the agonies you have suffered trying to do the best for your husband. I am so sorry there's no immediate family to help you thru this but your "virtual" family will be here to support you during this difficult time. My sincerest sympathy to you and sneding heartfelt prayers your way.
Again I thank everyone. My time is spent between crying and not believing how fast my DH went. I think he was already gone when I got to the hospital, a machine was helping him breath so I never had the time I thought I would have to talk to him, not that he could respond but maybe I would feel a bit better. I told the doctor DH had do not rescusitate. I think they must have tried in the ambulance because the doctor asked me to wait for a minute and I am guessing he went to remove the life saving machines. It's a good thing I had all the paperwork with me. Hospice never even had a chance to get involved. My DH doesn't want a service either he just wanted a prayer said over him which our Pastor did last night. Tomorrow I have to go to the funeral home and have an obituary put in the paper. We pre-paid our funeral arrangements years ago so I don't have to go through that and he will be cremated as will I when my time comes.
I may be wrong, but I do believe that even with a DNR, the EMS guys are required to attempt rescusitation on the way to the hospital. It's been several years since I lost my DH, but I think I was told that by my Hospice people.
Dear Sweet Jean, I am so very sorry, we all know the path of this disease but still when it happens suddenly it takes all the breath out of us. I will keep you in my prayers and wish you strength for the days ahead. Wishing you peace of heart.
Just got on and read this Jean. Sorry for your loss but glad he is free of this disease. Now get some rest, relax knowing you did the best job ever for him.
Well I took care of one thing this morning. I went to the funeral home this morning and took care of the obituary. I thought I was doing pretty good until I got there and lost it. It will be in tomorrows paper www.myrtlebeachonline.com. Obituaries are second from left under the banner if anyone is interested. It isn't a long winded one, my DH didn't like having a big fuss made over him so I kept it short.
Nancy B*, I don't know how it works everywhere, but in Ontario, the ambulance people are required by law to do everything in their power. We were warned at our support meetings that here, we require a confirmed DNR. I had this for Gord. If I had called an ambulance because he had stopped breathing or something like that, I would have given them my confirmation number and they would have come for comfort measures for Gord and support for me. I am glad that I didn't have to go through that. I guess it is something that should be checked into for each individual person.
I could scream! The obituary doesn't have all the information we agreed on yesterday. I don't know what else other people can screw up for me but I am getting close to having a screaming fit. I will stop by the funeral home later and ask to see a copy of the original.