I know there are many poop threads from before, I thought I would start a new one that we could add useful information.
We are new to the the poop war. However, since it started only early last week, it is a constant.
I have two great tips I have learned, maybe our poop queen Divvi has shared these before, but if not....(and no, I am not competing for the crown, unless Divvi abdicates)-
#1. Even if he says he does not have to go, I told him this morning, just go sit on the toilet. We are not driving down to the store until you try. He grumbled but went. Well..hello..immediate movement and he really did need to go, he cannot tell anymore.
#2. I have a bottle of mostly water, with just a splash of apple cider vinegar, perhaps an eighth cup vinegar to a quart. When he is finished, I make him lean forward after he has wiped the best he can, and I wipe with a tissue soaked with this solution, it is like a mini bath. Otherwise I feel like I need to shower him right after. It works really great, you can even just pour the liquid down his behind and wipe after.
How about calling you the Poop Princess?? We know Divvi is the poop queen and she is not about to give up that title to a newbie.
What I would like to know since my dh is not incontinent yet, but I am sure will be before long because he is most everything else to various degrees listed in the various stages: Does a person that has a long experience with being constipated still have that problem if and when they become incontinent?? Or do you think it would delay becoming incontinent with regard to the bowels?? This question probably is for the Poop Queen since the Poop Princess has not had enough experience to answer the question.
Judith, can't answer your question. Coco, thanks for the water & vinegar tip. I too make him sit on the toilet right after he gets up to avoid any issues. Sometimes it's a fast process, other times it takes 45 min. But, I want him to be in a routine and we don't go anywhere until he poops.
I am so very honored to be the Poop Princess, and hope that you all will allow me that title. And, as the Princess, in response to your question Judith, add a little something, and let the Queen give the BIG answer. Give him coconut oil, just a teaspoon a day, to conquer that problem .
Wait till I tell my sister my new title. Who knew?
back to edit...I am willing , to sit at the feet of the Poop Queen, and learn all the skills, and humbly listen. To go where no poopy girl has gone before. Poop Princess Patty, it is almost as nice as Coconut Patty
Coco & LFL, I learned that if I didn't have him sit on the toilet before I got him in the shower I would be cleaning poop out of the tub. He gives me such a hard time when I try to get him to take a shower, but once I get him in there he can pretty much wash himself. This week he gets a reprieve because I am getting a whole new bathroom & laundry room. Both rooms were striped down to the insulation today. My contractor says he hopes to have us back in the bathroom by Friday. (We have a half bathroom in our bedroom so we didn't need a porta potty!) I will go across the street to my daughter's house tomorrow to take a shower, but I won't make DH because I know that he will get angry & I don't want the grandkids to see that.
A tip for odor. When a soiled Depends makes it into the trash in the bathroom, I put a Bounce sheet in with the Depends, tie up the trash liner, and throw it into the big trash barrel (mine is in the garage). Then I put a Bounce sheet in the big barrel, and another one in the small trash in the bathroom. Instead of everything smelling like Bounce, it just seems to absorb all of the odor.
Wow Joan great tip, especially in this warm climate. And you know what, I could not believe it!! I had a feeling, (no I did not smell it), to check my laundry basket that is in our bathroom closet. AND IN THERE WAS A PAIR OF HIS UNDERWEAR TOTALLY COVERED IN RUNNY POOP, NOT EVEN RINSED A BIT!!!
obviously this was on the part of my home Care person on Saturday. I mean, I appreciate her, but MAN is it not obvious to just throw it outside if not in a soapy bucket?? I will certainly have a bucket ready next time, I really thought this was lame.
Congratulations on the new bathroom Elaine, ohhhh that sounds nice I am jealous in a good way. And please, no curtseying until I have received my tiara from Divvi, that is, if I earn it.
I am always amazed at the lack of common sense outside caregivers can display. You wouldn't put a dirty baby diaper in a laundry basket so why would you put a soiled pair of underwear? Coco, let her know how you expect her to handle it next tiime, don't just assume she'll use the bucket.
I JUST FOUND THE THREAD ON POO CONTENDERS!!!!! SOOOOOO FUNNYYYYY!!
My sister said, seeing as a lot of the crowns and shower caps are taken, as I will only hopefully be the princess, that instead of a throne, I get the Port a Potty.
Oh oh oh who would have thought poo could make you laugh so much!
i crown thee Poop Princess Patty!!!! now its official! from the poop queen herself. i have annoited your dear head girl. ok, about the question of does being constipated illicit relief from incontinence? well 'depends', haha. *yes that was a wee bit of humor! --- once that constipation unlocks and it will at some point, you may be dealing with a worse case scenario you know. when flood gates open, beware. the coconut virgen oil works very well for constipation but you should give in small doses to see how it affects the person. my DH can get one teaspoon and it goes for several days from one dose. my philosophy is give til they go then STOP./ haha. patty yes there are many funny threads here on this topic. its the one most disgusting topic so we had no choice but to get some humor involved or we'd all gag ourselves to death. :( i will gladly relinguish crown to any deserving soul, newbie or not!! my reign has been long and no contenders in sight. hehe but i am keeping my eye on some of these poor souls. divvi
sorry divvi I don't think you could give up or abdicate that position as Royal Your Highness Poop Queen, all bow, so easily. People would be really disappointed and could rebel. Poop could fly.
Patty Princess of Poop. Patty the Poop Princess. Princess of Poop, Patty. However you say it, is says it all. Really really who ever knew? I have had a lot of names, that one beats them all. And I would never had thought I would have contended. I accept divvi with great humbleness, and only hope, I do NOT graduate to the President of Poo.
The Hail Poop King Bill thread is the craziest thing of all.
This title seemed to be right for this morning's experience.
Well this morning was my most challenging poop experience yet. Yes, I've had to get jeans and underwear off him and claen him and swish the poop out of the clothes. This morning I guess he forgot where the bathroom is and went into the office and pooped in a wastebasket and down the side. Also hit a printer and the floor. From there he went into the hall bath and had poop on the seat and floor. He must have put something in the toilet that shouldn't be there because its blocked up and had a plastic bag floating on top. I plunged but it won't clear. Guess I'll be calling the plumber tomorrow. From there he went in our bathroom off the master bedroom and got the seat, floor and wall. Good thing I discovered each mess in order after I cleaned up the previous one. If I"d seen them all I would have screamed.
Oh Mary, sounds like a bad day for both of you! I had an experience last week that I totally was NOT prepared for. DH got up from the couch in the family room and walked back and forth to the 1/2 bath off the kitchen, saying he had to pee. I didn't follow him (I should have!). When he refused to come back into the family room, I asked why. He said he had something, but couldn't bring it into the family room. I insisted that he come in and show me (I am only partially mobile), so he came in with what looked like dirt on his hands. I got suspicious so I smelled them...yup, it was poop. Then I asked him where he put the "thing" he was holding and couldn't bring in to show me. He pointed to the kitchen, so I went out to the kitchen and found a large pile of poop on the kitchen counter top and along the edges of the counter. Apparently he had scraped his hands on the counter edges before coming into the family room. So cleaned the entire counter with clorox and then dh, his clothes, etc. He's like a2 year old in a grown man's body fighting the clean up all the way.
lordy lordy, ladies, you are definately in the running for the title. unfortunately it happens, nothing to do but get out the gloves clorox and get to the issues at hand. not fun for sure. but yes if it helps someone else we know that there are many of us who handle this with flying colors. :) good work gals. divvi
After a while you just put on the gloves and get busy! I STILL gag as I do it and altho it is not often------even ONCE is enough. At this time in our lives I am sure none of us expected to be cleaning up POOP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Been thinking all day trying to figure what he flushed down the toilet. It sure isn't moving. The only thing I can think of is one of his "Depends Guards for Men". I found one floating in our bathroom a few days ago and it had swelled to 10 inches long, 4 inches wide and about 3 inches thick. If that is it, no one is going to get it out. Going to tell the plunber to come prepared to replace the toilet.
Mary, in another post a while ago I gave the account that DH shoved everything on the bathroom counter into the toilet-a small flashlight, a toilet deodorizer, razors, sponges, etc and clogged the toilet so that I had to call a plumber ($100+) because we couldn't clear it with a plunger. Thankfully I didn't have to replace the toilet...yet.
bak, I gagged all the time it took me to clean the counter...the only reason I didn't vomit was because I didn't want to clean that up too. God his sh*t STINKS!!!!!
My husband is in the hospital for dehydration due to explosive watery diarrhea and vomiting . It started at day care on Friday. He had three episodes there and then one at home. Seemed to be better with no problems overnight. Then Saturday morning be started vomiting. That calmed down until I gave him some plain rice at dinner. All hell broke loose. He vomIted, had diarrhea and passed out halfway into the tub.. Lucky he didn't cra his head. Took him to ER and he was admitted.he's doing much better and hopefully will going home tomorrow. I miss my bed.
Doctors think it's viral. Bruce had been very cooperstive as long as I'm with him.
I know this was written several years ago, but this is a relatively new "class" of poop solvers. Policemen and firemen put a smear of vicks or mentholatum on their upper lip/nostril area.. and that kills the smell of dead decaying or burnt bodies. It helped ME cleaning up poop.. if I couldn't smell it. Of course, you are smelling that awful vicks.. "Choose your poison!"
Another hint I have not read lately, that worked for me, was to use foamy shaving cream to remove the poop from their legs. It even works on my little dog when he gets poop stuck on his bottom. Must be the oil in the moisturizer, but it really makes clean up quicker and easier. Got that trick from an RN in a hospital. It's very mild, since it is intended be used on a face. Of course you will have to stand them in the shower and spray away the foam, but it's easier. That's what counts.
Coco - I'm confused or, probably, I've just missed this - I thought your dh had been accepted into a VA facility?? Now I see he's still at home smelling up the place?:-)
I don't want to even think about the poop problem again. Coco, you must be really easy-going, I can't think of anything that I hate more than cleaning up poop, especially a grown man's. My husband tends to hide his soiled undies; I find them in the garage or the furnace room. He's tried to wash them out and pretty much clogged his bathroom sink, I have to call a plumber to come out and fix it. He does try to take care of it himself, but sometimes it's just too big of a mess and he just can't do it. I feel bad for him, but I still hate to clean it up.
Well, I called the plumber at 8:10 this am and he was here at 8:45! How's that for fast service. He pulled out a nice thick facecloth and replaced a flapper valve and was gone in 15 minutes. Glad something went right with my day. The rest hasn't been great.
Lloyd hasn't pooped his pants for a while. The first thing I learned to do was throw aside the contour mat by the toilet. Figured I had enough to wash...didn't need to do the rug, too. Also bought a second set of rugs just in case. The hardest part of the battle is getting him to let go of the damn poopy Depends!