I sit here still in a state of "he's gone in a week" It was just a week ago he was trying to pee in the living room to GONE. But that is what happened, we were in Stage 5 and getting medications adjusted and then "terminal aggression" He pass away this morning at a Hospice facility in the most peaceful way. At every breath that he took at the end I held his hand and told him I love him......I sat by his side for 6 days and watch a beautiful healthy body deteriorate before my eyes. For he was healthy outside of the Alzheimers. (Ok and yes 6 days no shower, just bathroom breaks, i stunk). I slept in a chair next to his bed holding his hand. I didn't want him to be scared. That was my fear, coma doesn't mean the alzheimers is cured, I was afraid he couldn't find his way and I couldn't help him. I hope the sound of my voice, my telling him i loved him so many times that he could find his way home to heaven. I believe that's where he is he's rid of this disease and knowing how much my heart is broken. The house is quiet I await the family who are now on there way but my sorrow is bigger than then anything I could imagine. The love of my life is gone and my heart is broken.
Dear, dear Terry. My heart, prayers and love are with you and your family. Please get some rest - you must be totally exhausted. Peace to you - he has found his peace now.
Terry I am so shocked and saddened to read this this morning. I wish you lots of love from your family when they arrive, and yes please get some rest and eat something. Well done as Mary75* has said, God bless you.
Oh Terry, so fast you didn't have time to prepare. Maybe better for him, though. He didn't have to spend a long time suffering. May God give you peace.
Terry, what a shock for you to have him go so quickly,my prayers are with you.Mat you find peace and comfort knowing you were a great caregiver to the end.
Terry sending our condolences to you and family. yes what a dreadful shock he passed so quickly. he is now at peace and i hope you find yours soon as well. hugs divvi
I am so sorry Terry. It is a terrible shock when they go. I wish you strength as you start this new journey.
This thought sort of helps me at times. At the funeral, my most wonderful PSW looked at Gord and said to him that he must be so happy. He was whole again and had all his capabilities back.
The loss is always terrible but somehow, when we have some weeks to see it coming, and by that I mean a month or more, some how some place there is an inner buffer of sorts to help us when we are reeling. But for this to be so sudden the way it was is just more than a heart can hold...our prayers and sympathy are with you..
Terry54---Two weeks ago today My DH passed. Be comforted that your DH is now safe and whole. May God's Peace enfold you and your famly as you celebrate his life.
Dearest Terry, I cannot imagine the shock and immense sorrow you're dealing with after the very sudden loss of your DH. My prayers are with you both; know he has gone to heaven after fighting the fight and hat you have been a wonderful wife and caregiver. Difficult days are ahead....I will keep you in my prayers.
What a shock to read that you have lost your husband so suddenly,Terry. But that was a wonderful thing that you did, to stay beside him for all those days. He would have known that you were there and right up to the very end, you kept him safe and unafraid. Wishing you strength for the days ahead.
Terry, may you take comfort in the fact that when he fell asleep here he woke up in the arms of Jesus & he is whole again. God bless you for saying with him until the end. I hope you can find some peace now.
Terry, tears as I read your post... I am so shocked and saddened to read this this morning. May he rest in peace now, and you find comfort in the days ahead that he is safe with the Lord..
Terry - Know that we are with you and send our sympathy & support. A peaceful passing, that's a blessing after all, I felt it was for my DH. I send you strength. Betty
Terry, I know exactly how you feel today. I, too, knew my DH wouldn't survive the illness, I understood he would eventually die, but when the moment came..all I could think of was. NOT NOW., please, not NOW.
I said that over and over, .. yet I knew there was no better time for HIM, I just wanted him with me a little longer.
My thoughts are with you., and I wish you peace and comfort in the forthcoming days..
I fear when that day comes for me. I think I won't be able to handle it. But you and I know that we can handle anything after handling what Alzheimer's has given us these past years. I'm so sorry for you. As others here say, take comfort in knowing he's whole again.
My husband went from an unexpected hospitalization late in April to snf for rehab then to alf then to hospice.
On a Tuesday afternoon he was admitted to hospice and Thursday visited by his nurse and by the hospice md. I was not thrilled by the alf and once hospice was certified I was relieved because I could then pursue moving him.
I never had the chance. I received the call on Saturday evening; spent overnight with him and he died Sunday morning. Despite having been told (well, different things but more consistently than not that there would be four months) it was five days.
You were wonderful! I had watched my husband's brain die over the last years and then watched his body die oh so fast.
Terry, I'm so sorry for your loss, but I am happy for your man being in the arms of Jesus - death is hard on those left behind but must be total joy for your lo who no longer has to suffer with this dreadful disease. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you begin the process of putting your new life together. You have all of us to help you thru.
Terry, sorry for your lost. Get a rest and take care of yourself now. He is at peace now - rest knowing you were there so he didn't go alone. I believe they do know when you are there.
I am so sorry for your terrific loss. You don't have to worry about him finding his way to Heaven.....he was carried there by the most amazing and loving arms. God's peace and comfort to you!
I am in tears as I read you lovely message of love for your spouse. I know it is hard but just know that it was the way it was supposed to be. As you go forward just know that you were where you were supposed to be doing exactly what you were supposed to be doing. Your love and loss is obvious. Go forward in the love you shared. God will bless you for all you have done. All my love in Christ Bruce D*
Terry, my heart grieves with you but rejoices with your dear DH. He is certainly in heaven, whole and happy. Take some time to spend with your family and regroup. You did an excellent job, he was truly blessed to have been loved and cared for by you. May God grant you peace and understanding in the next days and months.
May peace and comfort be with you. You were comforting him to the end, and I'm certain he was aware you were there. It is a shock to "lose" a loved one so quickly even tho' we know the ultimate outcome of dementia. I'd been by my hb's side as he ate supper, and he told me "okay; bye" when I said I'd see him in the morning. At 4:18 the next morning, he'd passed.
Hugs and much love sent to you, Terry. Yes, your dh is definitely in Heaven, in a body that is no longer sick. His ordeal is over. I wish you much healing as you start on your journey to recovery, Terry. As was said, "Well done."
Terry, I feel your sorrow. You are never prepared no matter how long it is. The shock is always there. Thank God you were with him. It is as important for you as for him. You got to say goodbye. Bless you.
Terry, I am so shocked. I pray for you. Thank you for sharing yoir private moments and thoughts. I feel that if I were to be aware of that "time" of DH last days or moments I would do like you. I would not want DH to be afraid. God Bless you, Nellie
I am so sorry things were so sudden but that must have been God's plan. Please know that your dh is whole again and you did a wonderful job of caregiving which included easing him into his final resting place. May you and your family be consoled with all our "hugs" and thoughts.
Prayers for you an your family,tears in my eyes too as I read how your LO passed,only five months ago since mine passed very quickly too,altho we know theres no cure its a shock when it happens
To all a huge and grateful thank you for your sympathies and support. The service was beautiful and touching filled with lots of laughter and tears. Now I will begin a new life ........the pain in my heart will take my life time to heal if ever. I don't know what the future holds but I need rest and sleep now and then the next chapter ......... I always said if I get to the other side there's work to get done for us.....I will find my voice again once it is rested and begin .........thank you all again