In another discussion I mentioned that I had advertised our 5th wheel well, today I sold it along with hitch and truck tailgate not the truck, or course.. I think maybe I came out o.k. money wise as I got almost as much as I had asked in the ad stating I'd take the best offer and this was that. I had the 5th wheel at the camper shop that has done all the work on it and also the other r.v.s we've had. They were nice enough to store it with a For Sale sign on. I had paid them to wash it and it looked like new. Well, I went to the 5th wheel to be sure there wasn't any of dh personal tools left in the storage compartment. It hit me so that not only was this the first big decision I've made entirely on my own but selling this was the end of another part of our life. We've been campers for more than 40 years. That 5th wheel witnessed part of us that will never be again. I completely lost it then and I'm still torn up over it. Reality is hard to take. I had to leave my truck there so the hitch could be removed and the buyer of the 5th wheel brought me home. I then had to tell my first real "fiblet" to dh. I told him our son had borrowed the truck. DIL went along with this as they do borrow the truck often. I think in time they will buy it. But that won't be as hard as this.
Oh Flo, I am so proud of you. I know that the emotional part was hard but that will pass. Two first in one day!! way to go... You are woman, hear you roar!! WE GET IT DONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Love you Phyllis
So true...getting rid of what "was" but is no more is difficult. I got rid of my dh's cell phone connection this morning. I hid his cell phone a month or so ago since he never got any calls, never sent any calls and can't carry on a conversation. Verizon is our carrier and they said it was best considering the number of calls I get to keep the family plan and if he gets any calls they will be forwarded to my phone. His phone will not ring...but, I can call out on it if I want to. I also changed the account into my name.
I'm proud of you Flo, I sold our Class B Roadtrek this spring. I took it to the dealer where we bought it and they sold it for me. Had to take my daughter as she has the Power of Attourney and to bring me home. We bought it in the fall of 2009 and drove to NH in November and then to Florida in January. We were going to spend a month of more visiting friends, go on a cruise and camp in between. We were there for a day and a half and he woke me up saying he was going home with me or without me. So we left at 3 am. Summer of 2010 we went to some nearby campgrounds near Amish country in Lancaster,Pa. Each time he wanted to go home after a few hours or the next morning. Summer of 2011 we went nowhere but he wouldn't agree to sell it. In early March this year I called the dealer and the asked if any had POA.. I told Ron he didn't have to sign because it was in both names. Once it was gone he never said a word about it. They sold it on my birthday, April 24th. What a relief!
Linda: My dh walks very slowly and has never wandered at all. I think he is afraid of being away from me He has never been left alone for the past two years. He would be missed immediately and couldn't go that far. If I don't have someone to watch him I don't go away from this house without him. Not even to the mail box a half block away.
Flo39 - I can feel your pain. I want to cry with you. I know the time is coming when I will have to hang up the keys, let the bank have it back and move into an apartment. I am fighting that thought cause neither of us are ready. If I can't be workamping or working we can't afford the rent to park it anywhere - at least not until the house in Mass. gets sold. That is being worked on which will free up the money spent on CC payments. Yes, never said I would run them up again, but there was always something that needed fixed or his SSDI ran out before the next payday (5 week months are killers).
I get upset when I have to drive down streets we used to travel together on a day outing..all the memories come flooding back and the loneliness leaves me feeling hollow...I am finding new routes to get to a given destination..it is better than feeling those hurt feeling each time. I find I can hardly look at pictures of him when he was robust and strong... and now to see how thin his arms are, to notice how is hair is different and how his general neat and tidy appearance is now a thing of the past and he looks like a hobo unless I pester him to shave, shower, comb hair, etc...
Mimi: Have you contacted the VA social worker in your area to get some help to come in to help you out so you can leave him to do somethings you like to do. The VA is now providing us with a helper that comes in on Monday and Friday for 4 hours and probably will start coming on Weds. also. They are trained aides. And, you don't have to pay anything. The gal I have is wonderful with my dh. They will shower, shave, etc. him and do dishes, laundry, etc. anything you ask relating to your dh's care.
He was already gone the day I sold the Nomad, but I still had to turn away, could not watch its being driven off by a stranger. His keys, however, still hang on the key rack next to the back door where he last left them.