I have given information on several incontinent sites but I forgot to talk about how I use the Depends adjustable. I found (my husband is bed bound) that separating the disposable before putting it on is so much easier to handle. After opening it up (there are perforations on each side), I have my dh on his side and pull the front part through his legs and attach with tabs one side and then turn to do the other side. When I have dh on his back, I undo the tabs and insert the liner across his front genitals and replace the tabs. This way I can replace the liner without replacing the whole Depend as well (unless it gets wet) and is easier on both of us.
I hope this helps someone.

The other product I found that is really helpful is VIVA paper towels as they are so soft and absorbent. I use them to dry the butt area.