I see all these other threads, all of us having awful issues, and now I NEED AN ANSWER!!
DH does not have a urinary infection, he was just checked out by the doctor.
Last night, which is the night we leave here at 5:30 a.m. to drive 2 hours to my market job, HE GOT UP EVERY 10 MINUTES ALL NIGHT LONG! This is new, he does the pee thing like that in the day, but this was ALL NIGHT> and it scares me because that is what his elderly Mom used to do when we watched her. She would keep ME up all night, yelling she had to pee, and wandering constantly.
There is never really any pee when he goes. And he has just had a Prostate Biopsy, no cancer. Even so if makes no sense..
Less than 2 hours sleep last night, after a really really hard week working to clean yard make coconut clean house go to doctor clean car etc etc.
SO>>>!!! Today we are gone for 9 hours, and just got home. He DID NOT even barely go to the bathroom the whole time we were gone, even though I stopped at every one he said no he did not have to go. I mean, if he had an infection WHY did he not have to go all day???
So now we are home, AND HE IS DOING IT AGAIN!!! $$#!!***** Just laid on his bed and is up and down every 5 minutes
I have cut back on his Aricept about 2 weeks ago, and so now I am going to up it again, it seemed he slept through the night better. Forget side effects I need some rest!
Either that, or I am going to give him one of those valiums I have, oh God I can't stand it I am SOOOOO TIRED!!!
I HAVE TRIED SO HARD TO BE KIND AND PATIENT AND I AM LOSING IT!!
Coco he may have an enlarged prostate. Did the Md just do a urinalysis or did he also do a digital exam, finger in butt, and a PSA test. if the md just ruled out infection, but not other possibilities have your husband seen by a urologist.
He does have that, he saw everyone. Got it all checked out and he does have enlarged prostrate.....BUT_____ what I don't get , is WHY DID HE NOT HAVE TO GO ALL DAY< AND NOW THAT WE ARE HOME HE IS DOING THIS AGAIN??
I just left a message with an on call nurse, the one I talked to on the phone was very demeaning. He goes EVERY 5 minutes, but before we got home, he went maybe TWICE in 9 hours.
I am over the top, may have to take him to the hospital or something I can't take it. so tired so tired
I tried to talk to him about it and he has no answers says he feels fine.
Ok So as I wait for the nurse to call back, I called the small local hospital and the guy said, if he had a urinary infection it would not be sporadic, and that he would have had peeing issues all day long. Not just after we got home.
That is what I mean. However if this gets worse I am taking him to emergency.
sometimes it just becomes a neurosis for them to want to run to the bathroom every few minutes. the bladder/brain connection is broken early on and causes these strange sensations that they cant void or need to 'go'. if infection has been ruled out and he did go 2/in 9hrs i would not suspect infection. unless he has a prostate infection of sorts. the enlarged prostate can cause urinary retention and then lead to uti. we have had this ongoing for years. i deal with uti, every 3 mos now like clockwork. treating for one as i type since 2days ago. DH also have enlarged prostate. sounds like you will need a med adjustment sooner than later coco for him. some of us have used over the counter melatonin to get some rest at night. its not a narcotic and no prescription needed. you may want to ask the nurse if you should try that or something else for some rest.
hi Divvi I use melantonin and we both took two doses last night, no help as he kept getting up.
This is my suspicion, what you said. That it is all in his head.
I am freaking sobbing right now what a nut case. Oh I so hoped for relief after all this doctor stuff and home visit this week, and it seems worse than ever. So disappointed.
I am so sorry everyone I know this does not seem serious, but it is like extreme agitation and it is driving me bananas. I was a wreck at the market today, and he relaxed in the car and did his usual pacing around it, but no extreme peeing. I had to drive the two hours home and had hope it would be ok.
well if you wind up taking him in make sure they do a urine CULTURE on him and this can take a few days for bacteria to 'grow'. and they may say its not an infection if the priliminaries dont show positive right away. many times i have been told in the ER that its not infection only to have the dr call me back after 4days to say yes it did grow a culture and there was infection. or if it was an infection the right med was not given in the ER . if the culture shows bacteria a specific antibiotic for that particular bacteria must be used or it wont kill the bacteria and it comes back within a short time. the strains of bacteria now days are becoming more resistant and harder to kill. at any rate, maybe if you dont take him in, the nurse can call in a med to help him get some rest. ask for it if you talk to her and have her call it in to your closest pharmacy. hope you get some rest soon.
I just got off the phone with a VA nurse. Of course, she agreed it is not likely an infection after all I told her, especially that he did not have to go all day. HOWEVER she said I need to take him to see somebody to rule it out. Oh and the home nurse was just here two days ago..arrrrgggh.....why was he not symptomatic then??
I have calmed down so sorry. Giving him some aspirin, cranberry juice, melantonin, and will take him to doctor Monday if we can wait till then . There is no pharmacy within hours of here, I would have to go back to town.
And will have them do a culture.
There is some gin in the fridge, I don't usually like it but going to make one with tonic.
coco, i know you are distraught over all this but as you reflect on all that is happening, you may want to sit down and rethink where exactly you are living. i know you dont want to hear this, but with this disease living far away from drs, hospitals, pharmacies, home health care, and all this disease entails and all the years it can last. and with your livlihood and cash flow attached to alot of driving back and forth to town every weekend---moving is always such a stressful ordeal to contemplate, but it may become something you may need to think about moving closer to town in the future. ? you can see from what you are dealing with now, its a hard row to hoe when they become ill or you for that matter, and need medical attention asap. or an ambulance or for that fact placement. over the years, i have been to more ER's than i care to think about. and always on holidays, weekends, or middle of the night. it never happens on convenient terms. hopefully he will settle down some with the aspirin and melatonin.
the gin/tonic will probably do better than the melatonin:) get some rest if you can, tomorrow is another day, hopefully better.
You are right divvi, I know. When we moved here 7 years ago, we were so excited that we could afford to buy our own home, and did so much to beautify it. Dado surrounded our property with the most beautiful rock wall you ever saw, it is the most beautiful thing. He landscaped, built a garage and a little "menehune" house out of scrap wood, and people just marveled at how much he did.
oh God the hurt of this disease, and each new level of acceptance. That is why, beloved divvi, when we had the home visit the other day and all that stuff, I did not feel "happiness", perhaps relief, but not happy. I felt like I was on the outside looking in, that I was imagining it, that we were faking it.
I love you for all you do, and I so need you all. you are the only ones who understand, I have yet to talk to anyone in the "real world' that is going through this like we are.
oh and divvi, I am so sorry for all you go through too...(((divvi)))
Coco there are Rx meds to shrink the enlarged prostate Avodart is one, there are others. Another less expensive alternative is to use a urinary anesthetic such as Pyridium or Methylene Blue. either drug will sooth the irritation causing the frequent urge to go but are not cures. Pryidium will turn the urine bright orange the other blue. you can also get a collection. bag that is like a condom with a tube leading to a bag strapped to his leg. avoiding the need to get out of bed
thank you Nelson , thank you so much. I doubled up a dose of this prostate medicine I used to give him , and will continue to do so until we get to the doctor. (It is an herbal thing I ordered, called Prostavar)
WIsh I had one on those bag things, and shall get one next chance I get.
I do feel bad for my freaking out, but I think you all know what I mean. The tears and sobbing have stopped now.
saw palmetto is a decent herb for the prostate coco. its whats in prostavar. my brother is a pharmacist and recommended it to me for DH as well some years ago. its got relatively few side effects and seems to work ok. like nelson says some of us have also used the rx meds as well. they tend to have a bit more side effects, esp if the system is already compromised as with AD but for short term they do reduce enlarged prostate, the worse side effect DH had was a fast drop in blood pressure so we took him off them. some here use the drugs without issues though.
freaking out is part of this disease. if we didnt go that route now and then we would suffer much harsher internal problems i suspect. crying, and venting is a valve that releases the volcanic steam:) its ok and you never need to apologize, we all understand perfectly here. even after 12yrs of caregiving, i still have crying jags and weepy days out of the blue. its ok to let it out.
divvi I know you carry the "Poop Queen" crown on here, but I would like to crown you with one more, and actually hope you can get rid of that poopy one.
I crown you the "Queen of Caring" on this site, and your crown is loaded with rare jewels, so many in fact that you could sell it and live in a palace.
I have encountered this bathroom thing as well. Some days it seems like a pattern a "normal" person would have. Other days it is up again (from his bed) to the bathroom, back to the bed, back to the bathroom, over and over and over and over.....
The house is not large, I hear the door opening and closing and sometimes, okay, most of the time just want to scream. The interval seems like ten minutes, up/down, up/down. I can't offer the medical expertise divvi can, I can only say how exasperating I find it.
I want to say- to be blunt-just stay in bed until you have to go!
Coco...poor baby....your day sounds worse then mine. Amazing how these actions of our husbands can drive us crazy. When you say what they do out loud...it doesn't sound like something that would drive a person crazy but it is so stressful.
Hope you can get the pee problem under control real soon. Do you think having a urnial near the be so he doesn't really have to get up and go to the bathroom would help and if you don't have on right now maybe you could use a large jar of some type.
Keep the faith dear sister in stress....maybe tomorrow will be better for both of us. And, I totally agree Divi is the Queen of Caring and so experienced in all phases of this condition. Such a blessing to all of us.
I really do not think my day was anywhere near as bad as yours JudithKb....but awful all the same. And I thought I was doing so well..
Abby, so your guy does that too, and does not have an infection? You know, I think I may have counted roughly 40 times in about 2 hours that Dado went the other day. EXTREME AGITATION is what it seems like. It does not seem to bother him all the up down up down, I guess he does not even know what he is doing.
I gave him some Prostavar, some cranberry, some aspirin, and he seems ohhhhh I hope he seems to be going a bit less. I also gave him his Aricept which I have been neglecting lately, that may make him sleep better. I gave myself a gin and tonic.
If he does a repeat of last night, we are going to the hospital tomorrow. It is absolute insanity.
coco, try to keep a steady keel on the aricept as far as giving everyday. if you miss doses or even days. sometimes it can screw them up and put them into a state of aggitation or even worse cause some unwanted side effects. to get the best effects from them they need to be given on a constant basis. it could even be this what you are experiencing -or a related type sundowning effect thats focusing on a particular obsessive compulsive nature. ie bathroom and peeing. i have heard alot of folks even from other sites saying their loved ones do the same thing. up/down, constant pacing. it can be whats called obsessive compulsive disorder *OCD)related to the sundowning. but thats just a guess on my part. always guessing:) 'Queen of caring"... awww. i'll take that anyday over poop queen friend. :) you are so sweet to even say that. indeed a precious jewel is your outgoing and sweet nature.
Coco...my Dh has an enlarged prostate,he was having trouble going to the toilet, doing just little bits at a time.... he is now on Minipress 1mg (prazosin hydrochoride) tablet cut in half, a half in the morning and the other half at dinner time, and it works well for him...ask about it to your Dr or the hospital...does lower blood pressure, so check it out first...Google it! All the best...♥
Coco--lots of experience here with AD and enlarged prostate. Avodart put my husband into delirium--that and the other meds for shrinking the prostate are bad for men with dementia--they only increase the confusion, agitation, bigtime! As Julia said, there is a blood pressure med--Prazosin HCL--that empties the bladder as a side effect. This is important because enlarged prostate causes urinary retention, and urinary retention causes the feeling of needing to urinate, hence it works them up!!! Since my husband was already on BP med, the Prazosin HCL 1mg is given at night so if his BP drops, he'll be asleep. This was prescribed by his neuro who specializes in AD; when he was in the geripsych ward they did bladder scans every day and the Prazosin worked. The urologist who gave him the Avodart apparently had no clue about the problems in dementia patients. I wouldn't give any OTC or herbals either, until you talk to a specialist in AD about the Prazosin.
Coco--I also want to comment on Divvi's point about moving closer to services. The only thing that saved my sanity while my husband was home was adult daycare, good home health aides, the Alzheimer's Association, and an excellent AD neuro. We live in a major metro area, so all of those things are readily available. And there was a wide choice of ALF's available when the time came. If you live in a remote area, it will make caring for your husband so much harder. A move isn't pleasant, but may be worth consideration.
I had the same experience as divvi w/my spouse. It became part of a routine for her to use the toilet every 15 mn or less...but not needing to pee. She became chaffed because she thought she needed to pee. In time, the habit stopped...and was replaced w/eating microwave pancakes 6 time a day and frequent trips to the refer to drink juice out of the bottle. The ALF admission has greatly improved her diet and overall health.
My husband takes Proscar and Flomax for enlarged prostate, but he still doesn't empty his bladder well, so it may still be fairly full after he goes. Both those medications are fairly dementia-safe (and Proscar can reduce inappropriate sexual acting out), unlike many medications for urinary issues. He has recently started having urinary tract infections every few months. Given that he has old urine sitting in his bladder, I'm surprised that didn't start sooner. I'm giving him a supplement called D-Mannose, which is the ingredient in cranberry juice that is most helpful in preventing infections. Cranberry juice may or may not be useful depending on whether the bacteria involved are acid-loving or acid-hating.
My husband uses a condom catheter and leg bag if he is doing something during the day where he doesn't want to have to keep going to the bathroom. It is tricky to set up at night because the bag is supposed to be lower than the bladder. He uses a portable urinal--just a plastic jar with an appropriately designed top. He does stand up, but he likes not having to go to the bathroom. Another way to achieve that is a bedside commode.
Good luck! Does he need your help when he gets up, or could you sleep in another room for a night to get caught up on some sleep so you can cope better?
He slept through the night and so did I..so weird. Perhaps it was the combo of his pills, or tiredness or I don't know. I am going to certainly certainly MAKE SURE to give him his meds on a firm schedule, especially the Aricept remember I had been wavering on that.
I love you guys, I think I may have told you that before
such goodnews to hear you both slept well. yes it may make a difference all on its own to give the aricept on a strict schedule. today is another day and yesterday is forgotten. :)
Coco, glad you both slept thru the night-well deserved rest for you both. About the incessant need to pee-my DH was in a phas where he had to pee every 5-10 mins. It drove me crazy because no sooner than he peed before leaving the house, when he got in the car he had to pee agan. Of course nothing came out. DH does not have an enlarged prostrate or a uti. The urologist he saw did tests, an ultrasound to determine if his bladder was emptying (it was) and determined his need to pee incessantly was due to the dementia AND he antipsychotics (seroquel) he was on. He advised that there wasn't really anything that could be done about it. His desire to pee every few minutes has gotten better, but we still have to stop frequently just in case.
Regarding the lack of meaningful sleep-we have tried everything-3mgs of Lunesta, trazadone, klonopin, melatonin, right now nothing works and he is beginning to sleep days and be up nights no matter how active we keep him during the day. I pray we can find something so he'll sleep.
Coco sorry you had to experience the bathroom issues. We have days here where Paul will go 20 times in an hour and do nothing.But since he can not go by himself it can get very stressful on me. And I do not handle it well. This does not happen daily but just let me try to take him to the store for any reason and the bathroom becomes all that he wants to do.
We have the bathroom issues here as well. Sometimes he can get up and go on his own - we keep a couple urinals by the bed. Other times he is too weak and has to wake me up to help him get up.
I don't know the last time I had a really good night's sleep.
Coco, I hope it's been a little better today. My husband has FTD and we go through periods of this. It's a compulsive behavior with him. There have been days I just turned off the water to the toilet since he would flush every single time he went in there even though he didn't to a thing.
OMG that is it. that is what he does...goes every sometimes 5 minutes, (no urine), and then flushes. We have "water catchment" here , from the rain off our roof. So water is wasted.However I just stopped telling him to stop, I was wasting my breath. This is really new, it was not long ago that he knew not to flush.
betty same yes could be 20 times an hour. I don't handle it well either, because, I just KNOW, he does not have to go and it is all in his head. Today, he only goes once an hour and there is a small stream, so it is for real.
deb I really don't know what they say Dado has. When I questioned the DR. the other day, as to medical records and diagnosis, he said they just have called it dementia and that's it.
I don't know what has made it better today., why he is quiet and not doing that.
and I am so sorry, ms. magic, and all of you, that do not get sleep and have it so much worse than me.
Been reading a lot of posts here today, and I just don't know, if I will hold up like all these troopers. I am going to go see about some counseling maybe meds soon, now that I have medical.
And I am so sad too, that my work is being affected, who knows, how long I can work. ? how long any of this, I can't see how people do it I must not be as strong.
Nora, you are too kind. And I do put myself down a lot, I don't know why I always have. Thank you for your loving words. Thanks to each and every one of you that posted here with your invaluable words and caring.
Oh Coco, my heart goes out to you. I was working full time & I finally realized that I would have to quit work. I told my boss & he asked if I could work part time, so I did. Then when I realized that I couldn't leave DH alone I told my boss that I would have to quit & he asked if I could work one day a week ( he was so kind). My daughter said that he could stay with her the one day I worked so that lasted for about 6 months & then my daughter got pregnant & I didn't want her to hae to deal with her father & a newborn so I finally did quit & that was a year ago. The only reason I am able to stay home is because DH gets a pension & Social Security & I sarted collecting Social Security last fall (but I racked up some bills from the time I quit to the time I started collecting SS, so now I am playing catch up with those bills. i always say that the people who work & go home to caregiving are my heroes!
Coco I am with you --I do not think I will ever be able to live up to the REAL TROOPERS on here-they seem to take things calmer and I bet their house is a more pleasant place than mine. I have always been quick to fly off the handle -and this AD just proves that I have not gotten better with AGE. I have never worked away from home for an extended time so Home was always my place of peace. Now it is like living in a prison without enough guards well maybe not that bad but some days it seems like it.
bak, I am with you I do not have the patience I should have to handle this disease. When my DH was dx'd I thought 2 things..."God you didn't give me any kids when I was young, why are you giving me one now". The other was " I have prayed for years for you to give me patience, this is not how I want to get it". I get less as the disease progresses.
It seems I have more patience now then I have ever had in my life. What drives me craze is knowing as much as I do about this condition by reading here and everywhere why can't I get a handle on what is happening. One day it seems like he is better and then "bamb" he seems worse...today it was a change very hour. Why does this crazy condition keep changing?
Long ago I knew I could not stand up to what others do on here. I am ready to take my failing grade and it won't even bother me too much. It just seems impossible that the worse they get...the easier this might get...or do you just get use to bad meaning bad all the time?
i agree with mary75*/ you are in the worse stages in my opinion, when they are aggitated, paranoid, hallucinating, delusional, shadowing your every move, half incontinent-wont wear depends /uncooperative to shower change clothes, wanderers, and MOBILE/ once they move into a latter mid stage some of these things just went away but were replaced by a much LESS active, talkative, mobile, aggressive/aggitated, sweeter dispositioned spouse than before. they get more dependent on you for their needs, and its more like caring for a child, then more like an infant. you will grow into the needs and learn how to care and adjust. give yourself some credit friends. i know for a fact, many of us, myself included, went thru just terrible times in mid stages ranting raving and losing my mind plenty of times. like you i never saw myself where i am today. it was NOT easy but we get thru it. you will find the will and learn how to cope. just like we did.
Edit, divvi you posted as I was posting, thank you makes sense you rock. SO my post was written before I read yours.....
My take on that, that as they get disabled, bedridden, it is easier as you don't have to run around after them.
What my concern is, can I really do this? (we) I mean , I see the troopers here, that are getting through it, but I do not know how they survive with no sleep, abuse, constant poop issues. Look what just a couple of days of obsessive compulsion on his part has done to me.
And I am pretty sure now, that is what it was , and not an infection. I did not take him to the doctor or emergency as he has not done the pee every 5 minutes, I am not kidding , just goes, lays down for a second, then goes back to the toilet.
Now, since that night, he is normal on that issue, maybe once every couple of hours...
What stopped it? Then only thing I did different, is to give him larger doses of the natural herbs for prostate, and....made sure to give him the aricept every night, and have been giving him the 10 mg. not the 5. Could this be it? Does the aricept cut way back on obsession and compulsion? It seems so. I hope it continues to work.
JudithKB, I am thinking too, that there is NO SENSE in it, and the analogy of shorting out wires is the only truth. Sometimes the wires are conducting the messages fine, and then BAM, the plaques or whatever the hell it is cuts out and there is a "short"
You probably got that right, the thing about the wires and then there is a "short". Here is a funny kind of thing my dh has been doing that I keep forgetting to mention. Most of the time now when he shaves (about every 3 days) he only shaves one-half of his face. It looks so strange and I never mention it except if we have to go some place.
the aricept is probably helping more than you give credit for. it may be a question to ask dr if they would add the namenda to his aricept as well. they work well in combo. its so important to not miss doses. its my opinion the aricept does help with all these issues but saw a more dramatic improvement on namenda too. but my DH grew intolerant of them both and had side effects after YEARS on them. so many here decide to keep them on them forever or until its not doing anything anymore in latter stages.
as far as getting some sleep, i also know some of us, me included opted to deadbolt the bedroom door and make the bedroom wander-safe at night. this allowed them to get up do whatever and i knew he couldnt get out of the door into trouble. i could hear him messing around the room but knew he was safe and i could get some rest even though i had one ear on him. like we do with an infant in the room. you learn to adjust to the situation. not ideal but it can work if you are creative and work to find solutions to your specific issues.
when you are unprepared for the dramatics that come with this disease and all the turmoil, it makes for very hard adjustments. as time goes by you manage to find ways to make life easier. all of us made it, you will too- one day at a time.
Just to take an example: instead of wanting to pee every 5 minutes and requiring supervision, or mop up, he'll be in a Pamper that can be changed as needed ( 5 mins. work every 2-3 hours). Instead of rage, or paranoid accusations, or losing his wallet, etc., he'll be sitting in a chair, or lying in bed, staring at nothing for hours. Or another way of putting it, instead of a 2-year-old running amok and fighting you all the way, he'll be more like an infant to be fed, wiped, turned, and he'll sleep in between. You give up wondering if they're getting worse, or maybe better; they seem to be more on a plateau, then suddenly on a much lower one, and so on. If there is any improvement, it is that they can become more in tune with you, seeming to know and appreciate that you are there caring for them. It's as if they have accepted it, and you have, too, and it's more peaceful. At least that's the way it was for me. And you're more tired, so you don't try so hard looking for ways to halt the process because it's not going to happen. You try to keep him as comfortable and as happy as you can, and you finally realize that since you don't know how long you have yet to go, you cut yourself some slack in order to stay in the race and see it through. The end is in sight, you see it, you ration your energy accordingly. You no longer fear it or fight it; you go with it.
You probably explained that better then every thing I have read and heard from others. And, you should know and are probably very correct in how the condition goes from one stage to another. I do think as they are slowing getting worse we almost become frightened because it seems so bad now and I am stressed how can I handle when it gets even worse. Thanks for your post.
Divvi I was feeling apprehensive about giving him the Aricept, and had cut back....I guess that was really bad. Sometimes we just have to trust in the drugs and not fight it because of "some" of the side effects, if they are not really bad. I just cannot see any other reason that he got better so fast.
I really want to believe you that we will be handle this , my fear is that the freaking out can cause a heart attack or some insane behavior..
mary75* that was a beautiful way to describe the process, I really really appreciate that, and understand what you are saying. Us guys in the earlier trenches I think, still have a little denial, and it is all so confusing when they seem ok sometimes.
Truly it seems like a dream sometimes, like one day he will be back to the old guy, that it was all an act.
And I also have this deep rooted fear, remembering what it was like taking care of his elderly dementia Mom. She did the pee constantly thing, all day, all night, and I know for a fact the family did NOT get her diagnosed, and DID NOT have her on any medication. They denied what she had to the very end.
We had her every weekend for a year , both nights. It was hell. Never a word of thanks from the sisters.
She hit me and screamed and threatened and pooped her pants, and laughed. She was a mean woman all her life, and it really came to a head at the end. Dado used to get SO upset when she did not know who he was, he would look close in her face and say, "MA, WHOM AM I?" and when she said, I do not know, he was really upset, even when I tried to tell him she could not help it.
You see, how bad it can be when nothing is done. Now, that his sisters KNOW he has this, I believe they now ADMIT that she did too.
Love you guys.
oh and, as I write this, he has gone to the toilet three times in 10 minutes oh no...where are those pills...
you just have to admit to yourself that everyday he will lose something of his self. the old way of being is no more and will cease to exist. hard words to fathom, but the faster you accept this and try to not change the evidence, it will get easier. and the freaking out over things will become less. the freaking out happens because we are losing control and nobody wants to live without some sort of stability and control over our lives and actions. with this disease it leaves early on. we just take too long to admit it and seem to want to work against the tidal wave instead of with it.like in a rip tide themore you fight it the faster you are dragged into the abyss, relax and go with it and you surface to breath.. we are novices learning every day.
mary well said.
can you try to close off the area to the bathroom toilet? like put a chair or two infront of the door to distract him.
ok . Face it face it face it. It is NOT a dream. How very true about losing control, yes, when he was doing that thing, I COULD NOT STOP HIM, yes, I lost control. Thank you for making me see that.
If this happens again soon , I will try the blocking the door. I just gave him his pills and he went to bed. (I sleep in a separate room , he thrashes too much, no way we can sleep together)
Funny divvi, when we had the home visit the other day, I could truly tell that the nurse was not too educated on the ways of dementia, my GOD this place and all of you are deep pools of wonderful wisdom.
So true Divvi...what next. My patience is just about nil today...he was so angry with me this morning, all I asked him to do is get the little step ladder out of the cupboard for me...he just could not get it. Asked again, and he said i was shouting at him...which i wasn't, with that he picked up the ladder and threw it down hard on the tiles, missed me by just a few inches. Just now he made COFFEE but used Paprika pepper, he thought it was coffee...swears back and blue he didn't, but there was the jar on the counter... All i can say now is that I'm feeling less and less guilty of my thoughts and wanting placement soon...fogive me dear lord!