DH was ready to back out from going this morning but I used Vivkies fiblet and told him I would like for him to go because I need to see out doctor about a problem I am having. I told him I may need to have tests etc. so he got up and got ready. Thank You Lord and Vickie. He seems to be okay but I won't go for a couple of days and see how he is then. Thanks for all the support.

Good news.

Jean, I am so glad he went. I'd stay away for a few days and let him settle in. Good luck!

Great news Jean...hope he settles in OK...that's a good little fiblet to remember..

I keep sending up prayers that DH is doing okay in the ALF and that he doesn't have a "melt down". I worry how he will be in the morning when he wakes up in a strange place. Lord please be with him and help him!

This is surely one of the hardest hurdles - good news that you've made it.

Thanks everyone. I can't believe I slept until 7.30 this morning. I did get up twice to go to the bathroom but that is normal. It was also normal to have a hard time getting back to sleep but not last night. I have been getting up between 5.00 and 6.00 without an alarm clock! Looks like I will have to buy one!!!!

Hi Vickie, I called the ALF a while ago because I couldn't stand it any longer. Apparently DH is doing fine, at least so far! Lord, I hope it continues, the nurse with spoke to referred to it as the honeymoon period! I'm not sure I needed to hear that...it makes me think things could go downhill! I will go to see DH on Friday, tomorrow I have to take our "stuff" to our tax man and get that out of the way. Hope you have a good day.

Jean how wonderful to hear he is doing well. We had no honeymoon period so I really know nothing about it. I hope he continues to be at peace there. How about you Jean, how are you holding up? ((hugs))

Oh Jean, it is so tough isn't it..... I will be praying that you have a lovely reunion and that your days is filled with happiness ((Hugs))

I went to see DH this morning and the best I can say is.....he was okay. It really bothers him that there are people in wheelchairs, using walkers or just sleeping in chairs in the lounge. He asked me twice how long he would be there and I told him we would have to play it by ear. I am not looking forward to going again and he asks how long he will be there. I am sure he will, eventually, get angry if he has to stay there much longer. BTW not ALL the people are disabled but I guess they are the ones he notices. Today was our anniversary (46 years). Of course DH had no idea, I took him a bag of Lindt chocolates.

Jean21-hope you bought yourself some good candy, too. Your husband will likely forget he ever lived elseshere and stop asking. It will take time and it may be better if you don't visit everyday. I used to say I had to go shopping and would be back later. Much later. Much much later. Get the point?

I was surprised, actually, that the people who were more physically impaired did NOT bother Jeff. One thing I say to him when he asks if it's "an Alzheimer's place" is that "Alzheimer's is becoming increasingly common, so some of the people around do have it."

Although, clearly, I have not headed off every disaster since he's now in the hospital for med adjustment. Today, in the geri-psych unit, he persisted with his notion that he wants a job. So I told him that when we go back to "where we live," our job is cleaning up outside. He thought this sounded like a fine job. So I hope I can pull that out of my bag of tricks and use that when we take a walk. We'll be doing our job. (not that there's much trash...but maybe that will be because we're so good at our job...hey, yeah, maybe we'll even get a raise!)

I do use candy and apples as "feel good" treats when I'm there. I keep apples and chocolate in his ALF room fridge. I can't wait until we're back...and I'm hoping for the best.