i have been marry to my husband for 25 years , and i am 20 years younger than him he is 64 and i am 46 . well , i am tired burned out many other motions right now. by the way we have twin girls that are 24 yrs old and one lives in denver col. springs and the other lives in tallass. florida. well my story starts like this when my husband and i marry he had a ilestomy already. and 3 years in to the marriage he got really sick he was in the hospital for 2 months and we found out he was a dibetic and he lose his leg , he was vit. defins. he also has a liver dease call primary billiy choso. then we also found out he had nerve damage well we got through this, and may it home after 2 months. later my husband got his fake leg and started walking again , soon he return the highway patrol office where he worked for 28 years . he was not getting any better so he retired and he got sick again now he has nerogenic bladder and has to cath. every 3 hrs. shortly we found out he has alzheimer and its the short term memory . and i have nobody to help me ,i dont expect the girls to put there life on hold . my husband can still stay by himself , but i dont know how i am going . to get him to remenber to cath. his self i have made a chart for him to check .each time but he will forget . and he keeps getting uti infections ends up in the hospital . well. i just got terminate from my job, so i am mad , i am tied , i am longly and alone . i am his caregive , his nurse and he always saids he love me appicates me for everthing i do and he couldnt do without me , and gives me a hug and kiss . but we have no sex life its been gone for years , i just wish i had some body to talk thats been here before help !!!! sorry about the spelling
Sarah, you are welcome here. Sorry to hear of so many difficulties in your situation. Keep checking in as others will be along to welcome you and offer encouragement.
So very sorry to hear of all your difficulties over the years. Welcome to a family of people who offer encouragement and friendship. I haven't had to deal w/all the problems you've had; so really can't comment on them, but others with wisdom and experience will be along. My hb has had vascular dementia for year and now calls "home" the memory unit of a local care center.
hi sarahlynn. welcome, so sorry to hear of all you and your DearHusband, DH are going thru. this disease has no mercy. we have many may/december marriages here, meaning lots of years between spouses, myself included. my DH is 18yrs older than me too. he suffers vascular/ad dementias and we are in late stage AD. i am hoping you have already applied for SSSI benefits long ago with all the medical your DH suffers. losing your job on top of it all makes for anxious times but you will get thru this too. if you have been caring for him all this time it shows your strength and determination and a sound marriage. we find many of our family friends and even children, are not prepared to offer any help and so we form and recieve support and new friendships here among those who are going thru the same things. there is much info here and if you have questions much wisdom and support. divvi
sarahlynn, I am so sorry. You have been though so much. My heart brakes for you. I am 8 years younger than my DH and we still have a 15 yo (soon to be 16) daughter at home. I feel you are much stronger than you think. My dear you have done more than you realize and need to be kinder to yourself.
Sarahlynn, I'm sorry that you have such a load to carry and at your young age. Divvi' s post, as usual, is worth reading more than once. I can't add to its wisdom; I can only add you and your husband to my prayers. And yes, you will get through this. Come here often, you will find much help.
Sarahlynn, you have been through so much at such a young age. My heart breaks for you. You have landed in a soft place here on Joan's site. A place to tell your story, to vent, rant and rage - whatever you need to do. No one will judge you. I do hope you can get some help. Have you contacted your Office on Aging in your town/county? Hugs to you today and everyday.
sarahlynn48 welcome. Listen, you have come to the right place. Not only will you find comfort here, and new friends that truly care, but just look in the "search" option for just about any question you could have. I am thinking there is NO place that has so many answers, including our doctors. So much heart, soul, and research to be found.
Welcome, Sarahlynn, you have been through so much at such a young age.You will find comfort and any help you need here, with these loving, caring group of people...we understand.
Welcome ,Sarahlynn-sorry you are going through this horrible disease with your husband,I for one believe this is the WORST illness that can happen to a husband or a wife. But we have no control over that BUT HERE WE ALL HAVE EACH OTHER to lean on. Feel free to come here and vent,cry,scream or whatever you need to do.We are here for you always!!
Welcome to the family Sarahlynn. Your story is so heartbreaking.... too much for one couple….I am sorry for all you both have been through. You have all kinds of wonderful people to talk with now :)
Welcome! I am pretty new here as well- having only started to post late last year.
What I found, and I hope you will find too, is a forum full of wise and wonderful posters who will support you, listen to you, provide guidance and that almost intangible feeling of community.
I was close to your age when H was dx with MCI.
I am tired and mad and don't feel alone here. I hope you stay and the same happens for you.
sarahlynn48, hello and welcome to the best decision you have ever made! You and I have so many things in common. I am 20 years younger than my husband, I am 54 and my DH is 74, I have twin boys who are 25 years old from a previous marriage. All I can say about being tired or depressed or stressed out as a caregiver is to keep talking to your new family at anytime day or night we are here.