HI guys, please do not feel the need to respond, there are so many more important threads here. But I do know by posting this I will get support in the form and well wishes, and prayers.
This past 2 weeks, struggling with a darn flu, feeling achy and tough, made me get moving on this.
I am sending in the papers, March 1st, for State Medical for ME. I have not had medical for over 15 years. And certainly not in an income bracket to pay for doctor visits. For dental I simply save up as it is so necessary to take care of those teeth.
I have been working on this for months, putting it off..don't know why. I guess in some way I do not want to feel like a "welfare case"
The one I am applying for is limited , however it is pretty darn good, and I can get my skin issues checked out, any important tests, and even maybe some counseling.
Trying not to get my hopes up, but, we are in the income category.
Waiting for our latest banks statements and I should be submitting by the end of the week!
There is a motivational book on the market entitled, "Eat That Frog". The message is : tackle that looming, unpleasant, ugly frog of a thing first and the day will be easier. I confess that there are several frogs on my plate right now- we all procrastinate. Good luck with the insurance! Eat that frog and mail your application ASAP.
I was just sitting here in ER with hubby wondering what this will cost and reading ur thread. Yes well wishes and prayers .....it's the least the government can help u with !!!
Good wishes, prayers and lots and lots of cyber ((hugs)). Please, don't ever let the world beat you down, or make you feel less than the magnificent person you are. We ALL need help at some point in our lives. ♥♥
Coco- good luck,there is nothing wrong in asking for help when we need it.You work hard and now have your DH to care for so you NEED to be able to care for yourself too. I will keep my fingers crossed for you.
Putting things off?! I am a champion at not wanting to get out of bed. Some crying and some praying before I usually can.
You are wonderful! You are so kind and compassionate.
I think all of us are beaming thoughts and affirmations to the medicaid people in your state. I will not get on my government rant, (unless anyone insists :)
I can't say much more than has already been said here: blessings and prayers!
My thought is IF I even get it, to get all the overdue checkups done, tests, eyes, etc., and then I should be good. I don't think it will cost the government much just to keep me on the program, and hopefully, my income will pick up again.
The TRUTH of it is, because of having to be a full time caregiver, I have had to cut way back on my business, he cannot help me anymore with the agricultural end of it. I make half of what I made before. I love to work, and when the time comes when I get some HELP, perhaps I can get back in to it more.
He is on the VA medical, and with the type he gets I am not covered, sadly. Thank God he receives his SS check each month, but that is it. And I am so grateful for what we have, and that I seem to be healthy.
I loved to work too. One, just one , of my mistakes was giving up my license with H's advice and encouragement. He did that with all good intentions and I bought into it because I was scared and depressed.
I envy, but am glad for you that you have something you can do! I hope this is reading as I mean it to read....I've had a bunch of jobs but no career. Now I have neither and am too old to hope to find one or the other. I never had a talent.
Not just the paycheck, which never came close to H's but that feeling of having someplace to go every day; as much as I *******about it, it was mine.
I just sent in the papers to the State Medical today...having a nasty day today, so I really don't want to get my hopes up on it too much. I certainly qualify though..
Just fired off a memo to the Big Fella upstairs for you, Coco. I pray that you will qualify for this program and that your paperwork will sail through without a hitch and that your paperwork will fall into the hands of a "worker bee" and not the usual "snoozer" who doesn't really care about others needs. You need to take care of yourself.
And, Abby, darlin, you sound like you could use a friend and hugs and kisses. I'm sorry, but I'm unfamiliar with your circumstances, but you sound more than a little depressed to me. I just asked the Lord to send you your own personal sunshine, just a little bit of joy. I like what Joan said in her blog the other day about finding something each day to be thankful about - it lifts one's gloom. I tried it and it really, really does work. In addition, I am sending you all the good vibes I have to send. Try it, you'll like it! Prayin for you.
thanks for all your wonderful wishes. Just to hope, that even if I did not use the medical much, it is like a bit of a safety valve if I have to give up my work and stay home. At least then, if something came down with me, I would not have to sell our house to survive and pay bills.
I also felt deeply about your plight Abby, and at the risk of sounding cliche, I believe you ARE talented, and have MUCH to offer. When I started getting in to my graphics and art 25 years ago, I could barely draw,,,used to be talented as a kid but lost it. I plugged away and now, !!!, people actually buy my work and order it too..lol..you have talent Abby , we all do, you just don't have the energy to do it. Praying for you too.
My main business is the fresh coconut candy. I used to bring in $25,000.00 a year in my combined things, now, having to cut back cause he cannot help with the coconuts, I barely scrape by about $9000.00 a year.
I am trying to hang on to at least this semblance of work, even that is tough as he is always with me.
Waiting for that recipe Phranque! Did you get the $50 that I was over to qualify for medical? ha ha I sent it to "The one and only Phranque" Somewhere that he is In the U.S.A.
coco good luck in getting what you need. its such a stressful situation when we have to give up our livelihoods to care for our spouses.. sending good karma your way. divvi
Yes Coco, the post office has notified me of the $50, and I may pick it up at the Honolulu post office anytime between 9am and 5pm. I just need to make the time to go over and get it.
Thank you for the support and kind words. Sometimes I feel so overwhelmed that H's personal, professional and civic life are over. He got so much joy from not only his work, but I think, even more from his volunteer life. The RonaldMcDonald House, wilderness and other environmental causes, animal welfare, the elderly and disabled. What I feel most gratified about is that in his 20 or so years in the community, he made it matter.
Coco- yesterday I saw this sign " COCO'S YOGA COMPLETE CARE GRAND OPENING!"
I am taking that as a sign.
You are so kind. Really, I have a lot of initials I can put after my name but can't really do anything gainful. I can't blame H, I can't blame dementia, I can only blame myself. My foresight was 00.00.
PS After edit- you are so right! Yoga, exercise, supplements, meditation, affirmations, etc and my energy is less than zero!
Hey Coco, have you ever been to the beach with those great big waves in Hawaii? Someday I am going to come to Hawaii just to see those waves. I grew up in Key West and the big waves there are only a couple of feet tall. I heard those waves you have are 30 or 40 feet tall. Is that true?
Maybe we should all just have a huge party at Coco's house in Hawaii!!! Sorry Coco-did not mean to invite everyone to your place,it is always nice to think of a nice vacation SOMEDAY. Love you Coco!!!!
Everyone is welcome, how I would love to meet you all! I love you too Miss Betty!
Who knows...I mean,. Hawaii for a caregiver respite, somewhere down the road. Maybe Phranque will make enough money at his Froot stand and can pay for everyone!
so...on the medical front. It is supposed to take up to 45 days for them to decide, however, I did send it a lot of the papers that I knew they would ask for, like income, bank statements etc. I am so on it , I make myself sick..lol..