Just had the worst two days ..DH has been sundowning all day. Starts as soon as he gets up, can't find his hair brush and comb, or his shaver, or his watch, we hunt around and find them in his undies drawer...of course he didn't do it! Every day he askes what we do tomorrow...I told him, he goes to day care tomorrow, while I go shopping with DD and grand daughter for wedding dress fabric to make her a wedding dress, he says to me, "So are you taking Julia too". I said who do you think i am, he looks at me,thinking hard and said "I don't know, a distant relative?" I asked him "what's my name" he said "does it start with a J..Jenny, Judi..I don't know". I tell him, we have been married nearly 50 years, "no he says, that was my other wife", He says "if we have been together that long, we should get married, would you stay with me if we get married!" For two days he was so lost and in a fog, worst he's been so far, said he thinks he's losing his mind. Breaks my heart...
So sorry, Julia. I know what you're going through. Mine has been doing the same thing - but off and on. Guess it goes with the territory. It's a hard road to travel.
Thank you for your words of support..hopefully today will be a better day, Dh's old boss and wife are visiting today, that should help pass the day...of course he will be on his best behaviour today. They haven't seen him for about 8 months, so it will be interesting to see what they think.. (hugs )
Oh Julia, I'm sorry to hear about your DH's decline. Mine went through that losing things & blaming me stage about a year ago. Not happy memories for sure. The real sad part is that in order for it to level off it usually involves another decline. My DH is also going through one now. ((HUGS))
Please try to not get too discouraged. For months my dh had forgotten my name including my relationship to him. He would whistle when he wanted me. Like you, I cried at the memory loss but would laugh at the whistling. Well, now he calls me by name again. No meds involved. Sundowning happens here at all times of the day. Yesterday we had an appt. with the tax man. Poor dh just sits there, can't contribute or understand a thing. It was a long ride and a departure from his normal. As a result in the evening he could hardly talk or stay awake. Any upset in the routine hurts. Hang in there. We are here for you.
Shirley that must have been so heart breaking for you too.
Coco..same here, I really can't work out what stage he's at, sometimes i think maybe 5 going into stage 6
Thank you everyone..it's amazing how so much of what they do is the same for many of us. I guess we have to laugh off some of the things they do just to keep ourselves sane. He knows who I am again. Yesterday his old boss and wife came to visit for the day, it was lovely, they chatted. Every now and then DH would go off into 50+ years ago, couldn't make much sense of most of what he was saying... but they were so nice and just let him talk while they listened. Not even half an hour after they left, he had forgotten they had even been here.