hospice dr just left. another recert. she made my day and said he was the best cared for patient she has had. awwww. its good to hear we do a good job at least.
hes dropped lbs as well. sigh.. This is part of a message from divvi
aww. dang you bluedaze. cant tell you a thing!.. but yes it is very sad that all of our spouses are in decline, sometimes its noticeable sometimes it comes so slowly we tend to overlook the signs. all of us have a one way ticket out of this disease unfortunately and sadly it will mean we must lose our spouse to gain that new beginning at some point.
thank you all for your much needed support and like all of you i would be in a much worse situation without this site and many friends who care. love you too!!
Divvi- you certainly deserve the compliment and you have been the pioneer in expert caregiving. Your words of wisdom and your courage in action has given all of us a lot of motivation and excellent direction in dealing with this disease. You handle the crises with dignity and grace, and yet you remain our "Rock" when dealing with ad. If I ever develop dementia, I hope that you will become my caregiver.....
Divvi: I remember when when I first came on here and you were talking about your dh who had just peed over the railing from the second or third floor to the lower level of your house. You had such a good sense of humor about it. I was amazed...but, then I soon learned to always be amazed with how you handled any situation that to most of us was something we either didn't know how to handle or hoped we would never have to handle. You are a blessing to your dh as well as to all of us.
And I bet that doctor has seen a lot. Her complement to you is well deserved! Divvi, I have always been impressed with your messages. Everyone who posts here is also impressive with their unbelievable commitment to their love ones. They are all great advocates and caregivers. But I guess it was the "poop dialogues" that grabbed my attention. You have made this journey for all of us less frightening, more joyous in seeing the humor in this horrific disease, and serve as a great role model as the quinessential caregiver.
Sorry to hear that your husband is losing weight....more important than ever take care of yourself
Whenever I save one of your posts so that I can keep it at hand, it's so good, I put "--Divvi" after what I write in the subject line. That way, I am alerted to the quality, knowledgeable person who wrote it. Thank you so much, Divvi, for all of the wonderful help your posts have given me through the years. I value you so much.
Divvi, I am sorry your husband is having problems but I know you will be your usual self and handle whatever comes with caring and love. You have and will continue to be an inspiration to all of us on this site. Take care of yourself and know we are with you. God Bless.
Ditto, and double ditto, everything everyone has said. I'll never forget your help to me, especially in legal and family matters. You are the divine Divvi.
The divine Divvi also introduced me to getting things that shine, vibrate, light up, etc. that my husband could hold in his hands. They love watching the lights and love the vibrations. My husband, when I took him to the hospital for respite, always had his vibrating toothbrush in one hand. I took plenty of batteries as well. By the third time he went to the hospital for my respite, the nurses asked ME if I brought his toothbrush!!! They suggested this to other AD patients' caregivers as well...
Divvi's advice spreads and does good things for so many...Her sense of humor and intelligence are fantastic!
thank you thank you all for all the wonderful accolades friends. its overwhelming. i am no different than all of you, trying to find ways to work with this devil of a disease instead of fighting it all the time. we cant change the outcome, we can only hope that our hard won work and ideas may come to help someone else who is alone, scared out of their wits, and in need of a shoulder to lean on when the going gets rough. and it does as we well know. i think one of the most important threads we have here is the one about what we wish we had known in the beginning years. all of our collective efforts are here for the future folks who will stumble their way just as we have. hopefully when they get to Joans place they will feel as we do, that we have truly forged a family of friends who know how to support caregivers! and yes i do still have my squirrely friends whom i feed daily. they are such a hoot. bless you all- divvi
Divvi, when I came here 3+ yrs. ago it was your comments I looked for first. You had just become the "Poop Queen" and I would laugh and think, learn from her.
divvi, so much has been said that I don't know what else there is except that you are an awsome woman, caregiver, and mentor. I have also looked at post and looked to see what you posted. Your wisdom is an inspiration to me to do the best I can when I don't really want to. Keep doing what you are doing and take care of yourself. We do love you and your guidance is invaluable. Hugs.....