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    My sister-in-law will be observing the first anniversary of her husband's (sudden) death later this month. My first thought was to send her flowers (I can't be with her that day, she lives across the country). But then I thought someone here might have a better idea, especially those of you who have already lost LO's.
    • CommentAuthormary22033
    • CommentTimeFeb 4th 2012
     
    I would call her and tell her you were thinking of her, and give her an opportunity to talk while you listen...
    • CommentAuthorangelb
    • CommentTimeFeb 4th 2012
     
    For a sister in law I would probably send something more personal something like a keepsake instead ie vase, a picture frame, jewelry dish..something she can keep forever, candle holder
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      CommentAuthorJudithKB*
    • CommentTimeFeb 4th 2012
     
    If she is a person that has every thing or is difficult to buy for....if you know what I mean. How about
    sending a contribution to her favority charity or the foundation of the illness that took her husband's life.
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    Personally, I would rather have a phone call.
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    My brother was married on my birthday. When their anniversary came round which was almost 6 months after her death from lung cancer, I sent a bouquet of her favorite flowers with a note that said " We Remember"..and nothing more.. I had the florist put the flowers in a container suitable for the cemetery.
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    I agree with Imohr* about a personnal phone call. In my faith we light a memorial candle on the anniversay of the death. I have asked non Jewish friends if they would mind if I lit a candle in honor of their loved one and every one of them felt honored that their loved one's passing was remembered.
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    I, too, would have preferred a phone call or a visit. My granddaughter drove 200 miles to be with me and take me to dinner at a place that she remembered was OUR favorite place. The evening was filled with light chatter, happy memories of him and the day went by quickly. I wanted to talk about the good times, and we remembered his good years. It was all good.
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    All good ideas..my brother lives in TX and I in CA and he is never able to be reached by phone or email much..so...flowers it was...he did take them to the cemetery just as I thought he would.
    • CommentAuthorFayeBay*
    • CommentTimeFeb 4th 2012
     
    Speaking from experience as a widow, I agree with the others about the phone call.
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    Thanks to everyone for their good ideas--I will be out of town on that day but will certainly call her and I'm taking a memorial candle along with me to light. Bet that's something the TSA folks at the airport don't usually see!
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    While not my H, I have lost a beloved one.

    If a visit was unplanned, that would not be comforting to me. I'm not one for phone conversations either.

    What I appreciate most is a card; as Mimi above said, it only needs to say "I remember" because so many forget, or don't care, or cannot remember.

    Although the loss was some time ago, I still look at the cards and think, well, I think, "this mattered".

    If, in addition to that card, someone said they were going to light a candle I would be moved beyond tears.
    • CommentAuthorandres
    • CommentTimeFeb 10th 2012
     
    A phone call would be comforting. It's sad to find out how infrequent, even this , something so simple, occurs. I know in many cases it might be impractical but a visit to sit and talk and be with me would help me feel reconnected to the world outside of AZ.

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