Dear friends, just in case you haven't noticed- those "touching" commercials on TV are letting us know that Valentine's Day is coming. For most of us there will be no wine and roses, or candy or flowers or someone to hug with understanding. We can either cry reactively or treat ourselves with kindness proactively. Nothing will ever be the same. Lamenting losses won't change anything. If you will really miss the material things-then treat yourselves to what you want. (I'm getting wonderful chocolate). Try to remember what you had and be grateful for the memories. So many much younger spouses are going through the same agony without ever having the chance to collect those memories. Believe me-I know how much it hurts. For just this year can we try to cheer each other along instead of compounding the misery.
I agree bluedaze*, or maybe I’m just getting numb to the holidays. It’s been a while since I’ve received gifts for the holidays. My daughters used to take him shopping to get me things, but I told them that they didn’t have to do that anymore. I think we will celebrate by going out to lunch & not to a fast food place either (for us that IS a celebration!)
We never celebrated Valentines Day, so that doesn't bother me. Our 33rd Anniversary is February 10 and we he hasn't understood what that was for at least 3 years. I'll do something for myself on that day. It's a Friday so that's a day care day for him.
I think I will take my dh to See's candy store....we will each pick out the kind of chocolates we like (of course I will have to tell him which kind he likes) and I don't care if we spend $50.00 on chocolates. We are going to have some fun....and then we are going to come home and eat them until we get sick. Of course, he will get sick before me, because he has't built up the tolerance like I have for chocolates since I am a chocoholic. (sp). and can eat a pound at a time.
Then, when he gets feeling kind of sick from eating too many chocolates, I will sneek into his box and pick out my favorite ones and put them in my box...hehhehe. Then, if and when he asked where all his chocolates went, I will tell him he ate them. And, of course he won't remember so he will believe me.
Myself, I think it would be appropriate for all of us to send Bluedaze boxes of chocolates, cases of wine, truckloads of flowers, and a million Valentine cards...she certainly deserves it.
I will send you the empty boxes from my $50.00 worth of chocolates and you can fill them and send them to Bluedaze. I wouldn't want to totally steal your idea. She surely needs something very special. Also, maybe you can get someone to send you their empty wine bottles and you can fill them and send them with the chocolates. But, we can all do the Valentine cards....haven't figured the flowers out yet.
Just left hospice for a break,my LO is winding down,held her hand all nite as I sat in recliner next to her bed,just before I left to come home to let her dog out she squeezed my hand,that was better than a Valentine from her,hard to see when I tried to drive
WEll I think Phranque is on to something....let's have a Valentine Party... Someone bring the flowers, we need those Sees Chocolates..we California types can bring that....fresh from here..oh and how bout some Sheri's Berries...those are really good and so pretty. I'll make a Valentine cake and we could do what the Marine's do on their Birthday..the oldest and youngest present get the first slice of cake..and we can add tons of cupcakes with red sprinkles on em....and grub, we need grub..any ideas?
OlDon your story is so sweet..they do know somehow don't they....and they try the best way they can to show us how they do love and trust us in all things...what a lovely thing....Bless her.
Mimi...Love how you are the Party Girl of this site. We need that every holiday and when ever you want to throw a party most of us will be there. I'll bring the Sees Candy.
Ol Don. How sweet you are to sit and hold your DW's hand all night. Been there and done that. Those first few days and nights have to be so difficult for both of you....Hugs..Hugs.
Judith, Thanks for the complement and the idea..I added Party Girl to my screen name so for everyone who thinks this is someone new,,it ain't it is just me!!