Well tomorrow will be our 45th anniversary. This was for many years, what I looked forward to. Needless to say, this one is one
Well, tomorrow is our 45th anniversary. I always looked forward to this occasion as we would go out "on the town" and celebrate. My DH doesn't remember even though I reminded him two days ago. He does not know how many years we have been married, he doesn't know what day it is, he doesn't know what season it is. Well what does everyone else do in this situation? I want it to be happy and memorable; at least for me.
mkayeb, happy anniversary! We just "celebrated" our 38th with a lunch - yes, a lunch. We can't do dinners anymore - any kind - since he's in bed by 6 p.m. But I did take him to lunch that day and told the manager when we went in our 'problem' and that it was our anniversary. They could not have been nicer to us, furnished a dessert and knocked 30% off our entire meal. People kept coming over to talk to us - and I enjoyed it - even though it was not the "celebration" that we always had had 'before'. He really didn't know what was going on - but I needed to do this for me. So...you do what you have to do to keep you both as happy as you can be under the circumstances.
Our anniversay was Dec. 4, 57 yrs and a good life until Alz stepped in. My dh never forgot our anniversary and we always celebrated with friends who have passed on. This year I asked dh if he remembered what the weather was like on the day we married. Said he couldn't remember. I said it was a bright sunny day. He said, "That figures because I wouldn't have gone anywhere if it had been raining." His sense of humour still shows. He doesn't like to eat out anymore so I fixed his favorite, small dinner and did my own reminiscing mentally. I have to dwell on the good stuff because there may not be a tomorrow.
vickie and shirley happy belated anniversary! i think your lunch was idealic for those who cant go to dinner. i hope those of you who celebrate will try to make it a happy occasion whether our spouse remembers or not. its important for us. mkayeb plan sometime nice for you both and get a card for your DH to sign. or better yet, a nice gift you long for?i have the last card DH wrote to me 10yrs ago and it is one of my most treasured things. divvi
mkayeb... happy anniversary! vickie and shirley happy belated anniversary!
Ours is 50 years April 14....I don't know whether this is the right thread, but OMG, only yesterday, Dh said, " we should get married, do you think we could make a go of it!...I'll have to find a nice church, I'm looking forward to it".." will you stay with me if we get married" I tried telling him that we were that we have kids in their 40's....but no he wouldn't have it...
thank you divvi for the suggestion. I went out and bought a small bottle of champagne. I have a nice ham to cook and of course watch the football playoffs which we both enjoy. We are supposed to get snow tonight so home will be the best place.
Congratulations to each of you and Thank You for expressing yourselves on this. We always celebrated big time on our anniversary, but, last year when I told my wife that it was our anniversary, she said 'Thats nice' and that was the end of it. Our next one is the 25th of Feb. and it will be the same.
I still haven't learned how to celebrate an anniversary by myself. That's not the way it is supposed to be.
Last June was our 50th; hb had no clue. It was a day of dementia just like others. Nothing to celebrate. This year will be the same. A granddaughter was married last July, and when females in family were sitting around a table talking about weddings, anniversaries, each was asked how long they'd been married. When I said, "50," daughter and dil both started and said, "Oh no. I forgot." We never celebrated big time anyway.