I'm wondering what this means ... is he moving into a new stage? My dh does covet his wine wayyy too much and tends to drink too much and when he does that, with the very first glass of wine, he starts asking the same question over and over again within minutes of the last time. Used to be he'd ask the same thing maybe 1/hour. Now, even before drinking anything, he is asking the same question over and over and over again within minutes of the last time. Got any ideas?
mothert, is this happening in early afternoon? My DH does very well in the mornings and right after lunch. But then goes downhill from there. Can't remember anything and asks the same question all afternoon and into the evening. He has one glass of wine around 4 p.m. and we eat around 5:-5:30, then he goes to bed around 6. It starts often before the glass of wine, so don't think that's the problem. Sundowning at its worst!
Based on my experience, I would say it's just the progression of the disease. If I look back about 6 years, Sid used to ask the same question from one day to the next. A few years later, it was in the morning and the evening; then from one hour to the next; now it's one minute to the next.
My DW is having that problem continously now, but, earlier she was bothered with sundowners syndrome in the afternoon/early evening. When we started using the psych drugs, the Dr said no alcohol. It would adversely affect the medicine. Just a thought. You might want to check out the connection, if any.
Dean, I have to say that I can't wait for dh to "forget" about his alcohol, but I don't see that happening any time soon. And, that is probably going to cause some problems when it becomes necessary to go to heavier drugs. Not looking forward to that battle.
My husband has been asking the same question within minutes or saying the same comment within minutes for a long time. Drives me nuts trying to act like it is the first time. Like others here have suggested I don't always answer.
Ditto for my husband,asks the same thimg several times an hour,shows mw the samw newspaper article over and over,and late afternoon starts saying,"Let's go home now" ,"You ready to leave for home".I have to explain that we live here,this is our home. He wants to go to his childhood home,he left there 55 yrs.ago.I chalk it up tp sundowning.Also, he is not sleeping much now.Will ask the Dr. for something when we see her this week.
I've referred to this as the 'Groundhog Day' syndrome. All day long, not worse in the evening, my wife will ask me the same question or make the same comment over and over again. Been doing this now for 3 years.
I remember those days. They drove me nuts or as some would say nuttier. I found the best way to overcome it was to answer with a question or to change the subject. DW doesn't talk much anymore, a word or two every day or so. I'm not sure what drove me nuttier the same question repeated over and over or silence.
Do they actually get over the stage of asking the same thing over and over, or commenting on the same thing over and over? What comes after that? I am asking in earnest, not being silly.
Sherizeee...my dh did that about 2 years ago and drove me crazy...then he stopped doing the question thing for a year or so...now he is back at it, but not as bad as the first time. Can't figure this out at all.
Continue....Forgot to say the first time he did the question thing it didn't make much sense to me and it seemed more like a release for him...difficult to explain, but this time he doing it, it really seems like he can't remember the answer I gave two or three minutes earlier and he really wants the question answered.
In addition to the constant question thing (which, interestingly enough he hasn't done all weekend), I find that he is having trouble now formulating what he wants to say. I have to finish his sentences for him more these days. I used to let him struggle for what he wanted to say, but I've read on this forum that this is only frustrating to them because they have really lost the ability to remember what they wanted to say. Poor baby, I have the usual menopausal lapses of memory and they drive me crazy, I can only imagine how difficult it is for him; and still he is sweet most of the time PTL (much more so than I, I'm afraid).
Sherizee, in my DW case she asked fewer and fewer questions to the point where she is almost completely silent. Apparently happy from the giggling and laughing but not much else.
I think I can post this here..Dh's sharp nosedive. He went to DC yesterday, didn't want to go, but with a few gentle pushes he went. Came home around 3.30pm...smiling all happy as he got off the bus Inside, he's started telling me about the lovely trip he had on the plane, but was upset about the stewardesses was not handing out drinks. The planes pilot did a great job of landing the plane smoothly...broke my heart, I was speechless..what do i say to that? As for me, I missed him felt lost all day yesterday...today, here we go again.. I can't wait for the next Dc.
Julia, could the daycare maybe have taken them on an imaginary trip and it seemed real to him? The things they do in my DH's daycare is so much like children's activities. I thought he would never do some of those things but he's declined to that state.
Dazed, I have a list of the daily activities...They do child like things there too, I guess that's all their brains can deal with now. They were supposed to make paper chains, and have a three word quiz. Who knows what else they get up to! Seem to me like it's a bit more of his decline.
I think when your dh was on the bus coming home from daycare he thought he was on a plane. Hence all the complaints. Delusion happens without warning. I think I am faced with it from my dh at least twice a week. I just listen and accept it as factual. Their minds start wandering and only God knows what they are sometimes thinking.
Julia, as long as he's happy...who cares what it takes. mothert, Lloyd used to smoke like a chimney. Then he quit. Then we went to Florida and the grown grandkids would take him out to the lanai and let him smoke when they did. When he came home, he just quit. Thank God!!! It's like he just forgot he smoked and I will never remind him. People would ask if he smoked anymore and I would say "Heavens, no. If he did, we would be living in a pile of ashes". Maybe you could pray for him to forget that he drinks. Ya never know!
Linda, funny you should mention smokes...the other day Dh was going through everything and said "where's my smokes"...he hasn't smoked for around 30 years, he gave cold turkey, he has great will power, only wish I had his willpower now to get through this.
Today DC are taking everyone out to lunch...I wonder what he comes home with today...I must add, I missed him the first couple of times ,but now, by the time DC comes around, I'm ready for the break..
Julia, thanks for asking! I called last week & the lady who I have to talk to was off all week. I left a message for her to call me. So far she hasn’t called so tomorrow I will call her. I’ll let you know what the next step is after I talk to her.