I know I don't post here often, but I do read daily. So I wanted to share with you that my spouse died suddenly Friday afternoon of a heart attack. Other than Stage 4/5 Alz, he had been the picture of health. I will miss him terribly, but I am also relieved that he died while he was still happy and enjoying life, instead of going into the later stages of Alz. (We are a same sex couple, by the way.)
My condolences, BLN. It would appear the Lord was merciful and quick. I know that I almost envy you that. Now you can have memories of when he was Alz-free.
So sorry to hear of your loss BLN,as others and yourself have said although we love them, this is what we would hope for instead of the later stages of Alz .Sincere Condolences ,God Bless , Rosie
BLN, I am so sorry for your loss, but as others have commented many of us would wish a swift end to the prolonged and terrible journey of dementia. You are blessed to have good memories of him since he was not to far along the dementia journey. I know the days ahead will be lonely.
My deepest condolences to you. I hope you can find comfort in the good memories. I do agree that it is a blessing neither of you had to suffer through the end stages.
please accept our condolences on your loss BLN. its bittersweet to lose them suddenly without notice but knowing what we do lays ahead i guess we can be thankful it was quick and no suffering. may you find peace. divvi
BLN, my thoughts & prayers are with you as your mourn your partner. I also agree that it is a blessing that he was taken quickly & that he (& you) didn't have to suffer through the end stages.
Condolences on your loss and blessings that you were able to support him throughout it all. I hope that you will come back and let us support you in your grief.
BLN, please accept my sympathy. I agree with you about relief in having avoided the cruel hard road that lay ahead, but I know it's a hard loss all the same. Condolences.
BLN, I am so sorry for your loss, but as others have already commented many of us would wish a swift end to the prolonged and terrible journey of dementia. Take comfort in your beautiful memories together. Blessings
I pray you find peace and comfort in the knowledge that he was graciously spared the worst part of this disease. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
I am so sorry for your loss. Hard to understand but I know that God is looking down on you and saying, "He is mine to take care of now. Your job is over."
I'm sorry for the loss of your spouse. It's very hard to steel yourself up for the journey that you have read others going through here and then lose him suddenly so early. It must be a terrible shock. I hope you recover with time and are left with the memories of the love you had for each other. I hope that for all of us.
Thank you, all. Now that my spouse has passed away, I don't feel the need to hide his name. If you'd like to see him doing what he'd loved most in life -- he was a pro drummer -- copy and paste this link:
http://youtu.be/5jf1FQpdx2s
(Nikki: Being from New Hampshire's Lakes Region, you probably have heard of Barry?)
I find your attitude about your loss through a sudden cardiac death very healthy. It is something I hope for myself . . . May your grief bring you continued personal growth and not further losses. Jim
That's a mean drum solo and I noticed he touched his heart at the end. We all have our time and with any luck we lived well. Hopefully in time the grief lessens and the memories remain.
I am new to the forum but have been on this path? journey? road? task? for almost 13 years, depending on how it is counted. Six years since first dx.
Sending you affirmations and blessings. Regardless of how it happens it can hurt; then again, there can be relief as well. Wishing you healing from the hurt and comfort in your blessings.
My condolences.. People sometimes say that "he triumphed over alzheimer's" when some one dies after years and years of dementia. I don't see that at all! But maybe your spouse DID, in his way.
BLN, I am so sorry for the loss of your spouse but so happy to know ya'll escaped the horribly long grasp of the final stages of Alz. Even tho that is a blessing in all of this, the pain is still horrible. Praying for you to find peace and comfort in your time of loss. Hang in there and know we are here. God Bless.