There have been several comments in the past on this subject, but, after placement, I have had some new and different situations inre my DW's underpants. First in that they disappear. Nobody seems to know where they go, but, all of a sudden we are down to one of two pair. So, it is my job to replace them. Boy, do I have a lot to learn. First is that I go to our nice dept store (Macy's) that sells Vanity Fair. I didn't dream these cost as much as they do. Second, I go thru the dept looking for her size and style (I did some home work). Third, some of the women that were shopping that day looked at me like I didn't have any business in that dept and that maybe I was just entertaining myself. (This would not happen in Victoria Secret). I finally found a sales lady and told her what I wanted to buy and Why and she helped me.
Next time I went to Walmart and bought a package of Hanes for her. Whole lot cheaper and served the purpose even tho Mama would never have bought her undies there. But, what she doesn't know won't hurt her.
Another little incident is that when she first went to the NH, I brought her panties home and laundered them and took them back. A time or two, I could only find one pair, so I just put them in my pocket and came home. All of a sudden, I realized that if I had a heart attack on the way home, the ER people would think terrible things. So, I didn't do that anymore.
Thanks to all of you for your encouragement on this journey.
Oh Dean, I almost choked on my coffee about the panties in the pocket. I can think back to a time or two when something I did would not have looked right to the rest of the world. Don't worry about the Hanes, that is all my DD will wear and she is a fussy thing.
I think you are doing a great job. Thank you for being so kind. ((hugs))
Did you check out the resource on the left side of the home page labled "Help for Male Caregivers"? You might be surprised at some of the topics covered that have men stumped.
Also, once you find out your wife's size, just go the online route. There are countless sites where you can buy women's underwear.
I like to think I dress very welll (otherwise known as a clothes-horse). I only purchase Hanes panties. I love their cotton ones and the different colors they have. I don't feel so lywhen I want to throw them away because they are faded or the elastic gets loose.
Dean, it must be a facility thing. When DH was admitted to the psych hospital, they advised me that I needed to bring at least 2-3 weeks worth of underwear for him, so I did. Shortly after his admission for med adjustments, I noticed the staff had put him in pull-ups. I inquired why and where was his underwear. I was told the staff probably did it out of habit. The next time I saw him he was "commando" (no underwear) and I asked why. No one had an answer. Then I started taking his laundry home and doing it myself (the facility thought he was allergic to their soap). I noticed there was NO underwear of any type-no briefs or T-shirts. I was never given an explanation. However, when he came home he was not toiletting well and his white briefs were stained. There was nothing I could do to remove the stains (I used so much clorox that the fabric was disintergrating). So I assumed the hospital laundry was just throwing them away because they couldn't get them clean. Doesn't explain the disapperance of the T-shirts, tho.
Your dear wife is lucky yo have you and hanes are just fine.
Nursing homes are notorious for clothes disappearing. The 9 years my FIL was in one and the years my mom was - their clothes always disappeared - clothes, shoes, slippers, glasses, false teeth. the staff's response: they go into each others rooms and take things. Even with their names on the stuff they still disappear. Lesson learned: buy cheap
Thanks to all of you for your responses and suggestions: Joan: No, I didn't go to the website like you suggested. This was during my sabbatical. Charlotte: You are right about things disappearing. We just say that they travel. The other day, my wife had on another ladies blouse so I don't complain much about them taking her stuff. LFL: We are also, recently, experiencing the 'no undies' situation. One day, DW was not wearing a bra and I ask her why. She sad that her Mother didn't wear one so she didn't have to. This was not true, but, I didn't argue with her or try to correct her.
To Everyone: Who is buying Vanity Fair at $6,00 per pair? Of course, my DW was and I didn't even know it. To bad for me. But, that is past like so many other things. It is not important now.