I have been gone for almost two years, but, I see that many of my friends and helpers from the past are still around.
To make a long story short, my wife's dr and our children made the decision that I could no longer care for her and she was put into a 'Memory Care' (Altz unit) on Feb 10, 2010. I had to sell our house and move to where she and the children were and you could probable say that I didn't handle it very well. I bought a house and quit the world. Just sat in it and?????. Withdrew from friends and family. Not good and not smart. Won't bother you with all of the details, but, I am trying to rejoin the world and I have chosen this website as the place to start. Thanks for still being here.
I'm new here, dean. I joined a few months ago but only started posting a couple of weeks ago and have received so much support and encouragement. To say nothing of wisdom, I've received so much wisdom.
I hide too. Sometimes it seems like there is no other way. For me it takes a lot to put myself out there and say "here I am".
Hey, I was worried about you. I even went on Facebook and ask your grandson if you were okay. We miss our friends when they stop posting. Glad you are back.
Oh, Dean, I am honored that you chose this site to help you rejoin the world. We are all here for you. And when you are ready, I have some suggestions to help you join the "NON Alzheimer" world, as I have slowly been trying to do.
welcome back dean. I have always been sort of a hermit, even my best friends agree but now that my dh is always underfoot so to speak I crave getting out. It is only good to be a hermit if you are happy and in a good place, mentally. Being depressed or escaping sadly into hermithood is too lonely. I am glad you are reaching out. If you want to go out to a non-threatening place, the public library is a good place...you can read newspapers or magazines you usually don't purchase for free! Plus they are usu. clean and calm,friendly sometimes have programs or local boards with notices of activities.
Glad you're back; a good move. Sorry you've be going through difficult days and pray the sun now shines brighter each day. My hb has been in a "special unit" of the local nursing home since October. He's just like he was at home; so he has one-on-one attendant; I have mixed emotions.
I wasn't here when you went on "sabatical" from Joan's place so welcome back. And don't beat yourself up about thinking you didn't handle things well. After all you had a life changing event, placement, and trying to fit into a new location where perhaps you did not have your old support network of familiar faces....who wouldn't be reluctant to " be out front" so to speak. We are glad you are here and your insights will be welcome and valuable. As said earlier, some have lost their spices and are dealing with this change, others have moved on with new adventures and some have even found new relatiohship and some have had wedding bells.. So welcome welcome welcome home. You were missed.
Dean, you probably can be a big help to many of us that are probably going to be making the decision regarding placement within this next year or two. Your expereince will be of a great help to us. Glad you are back.