Somedays it is hard to tell if dh is truely having a worse day or if I am just having a rotten day!!!Today we have butted heads ALL day.But I am wondering whose fault it really was. I know I am tired and stressed and am worried that I might have made more of the little things that I usually handle better. He did seem to have more sundowning today early on,I wonder if it is because of all this rainy gloomy weather we have been having. Whatever it is Bedtime can not come soon enough tonight!!
bak, maybe it is nobody's fault....consider the situation fate has placed us all in with this illness. Don't be so hard on yourself. It is so difficult to control our feelings and frustrations, and we cannot always keep them in check...that is truly impossible! Gloomy, rainy day here too...and it gets dark way too early...the evenings just drag sometimes, don't they?
My DH has had a terrible time adjusting to the time change and all the dark rainy days. Around 5:00 PM, or sometimes even before, he starts talking about going to bed. I try to keep him up until 8:00 but I'm thinking about letting him go earlier. Just want to make sure he sleeps all night. Most nights he does sleep 10 or 12 hours.
I, too, think this time change and dark, gloomy winter weather is a bitter pill for us all to swallow. It's too cold to go outside and do any real walking or anything that resembles exercise. For us, here in the northern Puget Sound area, at least we've had sunshine days (at least more than we usually get), although it is very cold. My dh has been pretty easy for a few weeks, not drinking too much (makes him very aggressive) and, generally very sweet. Today, we waited all day for the Sears repairman to arrive which he finally did just before 5:00. He was here for an hour and dh drank at least 3 glasses of wine in that time and became a bit of a terror. Anything that knocks us off our schedule is an excuse for him to hit the bottle stronger than usual and becomes a bit of a nightmare for me. His asking the same question, ad naseum, steps up to overdrive (drives me out of my mind), and he forgets his limitations and thinks he's superman. Grrrrrr, wants me smack him. However, he's much bigger than I and probably wants to smack me, too., so I just grind my teeth and try to get through it. Right now I'm praying that he falls asleep and gives me some space. He has been sleeping 10-12 hours at night since the time change.