Just a thank you, a mahalo, for the hope and joy that so many of you bring here. When I joined about a month ago, I thought I would not make it. Now, I am a changed person, for taking so much of this good advice, and yes, tough love.
I was so lonely, was believing that all that life before was just a charade, and it was meaningless. Not now.
This week, I disowned my dh sisters on another island, long story, but after 11 years with my mate I have had enough. Enough of racial prejudice from them, from accusations that dh is possessed by a demon because I do not take him to church enough, enough of them looking at me like some wild hippie from the mainland. (everyone else knows, that I am the hardest working, and yes smart...little business woman this side of Canada)
There are 4 of them, I disowned 3, they were fighting about who the hell was going to "watch him" when I sent him there for a visit. Oh how good it felt to tell them that, that I have had it, and I will take care of their brother without their help.
So much beauty, knowing that people DO care. Of course we are really alone, but I can see that many want to truly help.
God bless each and every one of you each and every day, when you are feeling down and hopeless, may a butterfly land on your hand, or the sun shine on a drop of dew on your favorite flower.
We are blessed in some way, to be in this position, oh how glad I am to have seen that.
But..of course, I will still come here to vent and freak out...
Coco...I can tell by the way you write your dh is in good caring hands. Yes, it is going to be difficult and is right now, but you will survive as all of us will...at least I hope so. You have friends here and we all want to help each other.
its been said before that this experience as bad and horrible as it is, will make us stronger in character faith endurance and tolerance. i am sure after all is said and done each of us will have something to be proud of as a caregiver- to know we are better persons having endured the hardships, pain, and perserverance needed to come out on the other side-and still able to believe in the beauty and love of life ahead of us.
Coco--there's an old thread I'll try to find and bring to the top for you--I think it's called Slap Fest. Many of us have experienced disappointment with how family/friends have reacted to our situations and that thread is a good outlet!
Like nellie said, Bless you Coco. I am so proud to know you. And the hard times are better if we look for the beauty. You brought a tear to my eye, in a good way. I wish you the best in all of this, I really do.
Is it not amazing, that we forge this strange kind of friendship, and that it is REAL? I mean, highly unlikely anyone would want to pretend on this kind of issue.
And it is so amazing, that we really truly help each other. I mentioned on another thread how I was not sure when I first came to this site, I seemed to glom on the sad, hard stuff at first, so amazed to see my exact feelings and actions written down.
But then, the hope starting to sift through, and now, I feel like I can help newcomers that come here with the same issues.