Recently learned of a website that might be helpful to those of you with volunteers to help with things you need as a caregiver. It is a web-based calendar where you can list needs and friends or family can sign up to provide same. Keeps track and eliminates duplication. Now wouldn't it be nice if we all had an abundance of people offering assistance. Might be a useful way to take that first step and ASK for help. Anyway, wanted to share for what it's worth.
I just asked my son if he would be able to take over from one of my PSWs on the day that I have my colonoscopy. I mentioned that the doctor had been doubtful about dealing with an AD person while doing the preparation the previous night. I said that perhaps I would have to pay someone to come and watch his Dad. No response. I guess I will be paying.
Sometimes hints just don't work. You have to use a sledge hammer as in "I will expect you to be here while I do the prep for my colonoscopy or will you be paying someone else to come?"
We have tons of friends who offer their support. I just don't know what to ask them to do. I have an aide here 12 hours a week. Someone comes to clean every so often. DH is not eating so what is left?
Wish all of you were here to get the support I have but it still gets lonely.
In the past I've recommended making a list of things needing doing,. That way when someone does say, "if you need anythng..." you can respond with, "Is there anything here you could help out with?" Combined with the Calendar I'd think you'd have a real tool for capturing some help. Those blind offers are so frustrating to me because I don't know what expertise they may have, and don't have the time to find out.