This morning driving to work and having a low emtional moment ( 24th Annniversary today no more need be said) I saw a Turtle crossing the road. I drove around him only to think it's only time that this slow moving creature will be hit by a car and die. And I thought to myself, thats Alzheimers, moving slowly, being dodged by everyone trying to get away from it only to eventually being killed/die. What a bright cheery Monday discription hugh? I keep thinking of those 1000 steps Wolf describe. I have accepted this disease and my fate in it. Just wish I didn't have to have the crappy down days of things lost. I do remind myself that not remembering this Anniversary doesn't negate the beautiful ones that proceeded it. And he's such a good man and I still love him so......
Guess that is one of the heavy loads of AD, Phranque! Terry54, I understand what you are saying...the things we have lost along this AD journey are so difficult to think of...glad you can focus on the good memories on your anniversary.
Terry54 -- I am wishing both you and your DH a very happy anniversary. I know it's not the same, but be thankful that you still love him. I have to honestly say that I don't really feel a lot of love for my DH, just because he's such a stubborn son of a gun (even before the AD). It's taken me a long time to accept that I have to make my own happiness now and to stop dwelling on the negative aspects of this life.
Do something special today for yourself and your hubby -- maybe buy a special dessert and if he asks why, just tell him it's because he's special and you love him -- I bet he'll be very happy and you'll feel good too!
First to you sweet dear Phranque, with all your going through your amazing to make me laugh during my pity party this morning. But ya know I am thinking that's not really what the turtle is saying with Cars whizzing bye :) And Ladies thank you, I do cherish all memories with Hubby, when he does something like forget or make a problem ....I look and say "but your still good looking" and his response "of course" :) His humor for the most part is still in tact, that is my blessing. When his anger appears it's born from fear and a work in process to get resolved. This weekend he told he was sorry for getting sick, he was sorry for what my life has become. We both cried and I reminded him I was hear because I wanted to be here, he is my life and I am not leaving him. I am not looking forward to whats ahead, I am staying present to the day. And today is my Anniversary and some wonderful people (you guys) have been kind enough to acknowledge it......thank you :)
Terry, Happy Anniversary! We will be celebrating our 27th this Thursday. I have mixed emotions about our day - I remember how in love we were, how beautiful the day was, our guests, etc. And now I am the one who holds these memories for us both. Ironic because it was Rich who wanted the big, formal wedding, not me, but now I have this beautiful memory about the start of our lives together.
I have decided that I will continue to celebrate our anniversary with joy and love as long as Rich is around. So I buy us both anniversary cards (his for me, me for him), make dinner reservations at a restaurant we both like and perhaps buy a small presnt for him o give to me. Of course it's not the same but it does give us something to celebrate together.
Happy, Anniversary, Terry. Enjoy and celebrate however give you joy! Our 50th was in June; hb didn't know it, of course. Kids didn't acknowledge it. Did I feel down? Yup because kids didn't call. Church friends DID recognize the day. My mantra now is: "LIfe is not always what one wants it to be, but to make the best of it as it is, is the only way of being happy." I'm working on it, but I don't think we have to be happy 24/7.
Well I made it through the day but Mr. Turtle did not :( At least I didn't cry all the way home. No special dinner but that's ok I didn't feel like making one. Thank you all for your kind thoughts it truly got me thru the day. Ziggy I like that "don't have to be happy 24/7" My funny moment when I got home, Hubby in Spongebob boxer shorts (grandkids bought for him) in side out......I looked at him and said "Why is Spongebob kissing your butt" He looked at me and said .....well at least the hole's in the front.... we laugh. Happy Anniversary Honey :)
So glad you could smile and laugh with your dh on ya'lls day....... I tell my dh the same thing when he does not remember something or gets something wrong....... As long as he stays handsome I will keep him around...... He can't vocalize much so he just puffs his chest out and struts around like a peacock...... Proud of what I say....... Gotta love them,,,,, My dh is more like a child in his actions and thoughts but I still try to make him smile. He laughs alot but it is usually at the wrong things........ Anyway,,,,,,, Happy Anniversary even if it is late, so happy you made it thru with some degree of happiness.....
Zibby, I feel so sad that your 50th went by with little fanfare. To be with the same man for 50 years is such an accomplishment it should be acknowledged.
Your right Mammie their smiles are so beautiful. Zibby, 50 years is amazing congratulations. My son didn't call Monday either. But the acknowledgement from all of you and my family and my dearest 2 friends is more than enough and Spongebob provided the laughs.