Today I was on my once a week hike with my GF, who by the way, is the one who told me if I repeat things often enough my DH will learn..will do what I need him to do..will remember it..hahahahaha..well today we were talking about the Kindle and books..she said she could not get through a day without reading books...said how much she loves to read but that I don't strike her as someone who likes to read..if she only knew!!!! It is not novels I read..I do read political sorts of books or and do like spy books but when dealing in the world of ALZ I told her I don't have the luxury of time to read to which she said, that I don't make it a priority! My God it never ceases to amaze me how little non caregivers get it..We read..we read all sorts of things that have to do with educating ourselves with this disease...how to cope with it. Each situation is different and when our LO is at home and we have all the responsibility we are lucky to get out for a hair cut or manicure with all the other obligations and errands just to keep hearth, spouse and home in one piece...and be just this side of seeing the health dept come in can declare our homes a disaster zone.
Mimi! What kind of friend is this. You don't seem like a person who likes to read??? Over the past few years I have dropped even some of my closest friends. Too little time for conversations such as that one. You deserve better, as you well know.
Amen to that,,,,,, you definitely deserve a better friend than that. You might should take a priority moment and un friend her. My opinion only..... but she seems to be very insensitive to the world around her. Hope you don't mind my saying but I know you have more to do than waste time and energy on someone like this. Just saying...... hope you have a better day tomorrow......maybe bring some reading material of your own,,,,, about Alz. so she can read it and educate herself about what you are going thru and how your priorities are decided...... have a good one friend....
Actually my GF is a really loyal friend. We kitty sit for each other and she has been one of the most helpful of all the people around. It is just she and her sister live really near their mom who is 93+ and they both work and so have great caregivers for their mom on a 24/7 basis. They do stress over their mother but they do not have the day to day responsibility for her care, or care for her house etc. It is just they are both very nieve about what this involves..but to be told it should be a priority!!! She really doesn't get it, she doesn't mean to be unkind. I just find it astounding. She tried to identify with my situation using her own mother's case and there are some areas where she does understand but because they are wealthy, work and have all this outside help they just don't get it. The idea of loaning one of the ALZ books is a good idea..maybe I'll loan her my 36 Hour Day..for a starter. I told her one time that the difference between a little kid and a spouse with ALZ, is that at some point the little kid will learn whereas our LOs learning and retention buttons don't work..there is so much that society as a whole does not understand.