My hb was diagnosed almost 2 yrs. ago. He doesn't like loud noise, like the vacuum. Also bothered by kitchen noise,like when I empty the dishwasher or moving pots and pans about. Anyone else experience this?
That would be a big YES! My DH hates any noise that is louder than a person talking. Even clapping is irritating. It is a good thing we don't have small children around, I don't know what he would do. I have a terrible time trying to find time to vaccum. LOL I feel for ya! I have no idea what it is but I also know that his tolerance level for just about anything has changed. I can't even tickle him without him getting upset.
Just thought of another thing....we were visiting churches and the preacher was to loud,so we never went back. Said he felt like he was being yelled at. He used to like everything loud...go figure, glad to know I'm not alone.
i think the damaged parts of brain circuits can magnify sounds and distort them. things feel intensified. heck loud noises disturb me:) even clanging dishwasher unloading. ha.
sometimes if its a real problem just wait til after they sleep? divvi
LOL Divvi I was going to say the same thing! Loud noises do bother Lynn, but yes they bug me too. I can just tolerate them better than he can. I think now more than anything it just startles and frightens him.
Yes to some degree. If I drop something my DH is worried I got hurt..he is so sweet..but it does get kind of old when it is every little thing. Right now he is interested in court room shows..
Mimi, same here, any noise & he asks me if I’m alright. He told me he is worried that something will happen to me. It DOES get old, so I try to be very quiet, but it doesn’t always work. He also gets startled easily & lights bother him sometime too.
DH also asks me if I'm all right if there is a sudden noise. It doesn't even have to be loud. Vacuums don't seem to bother him. It is more the suddenness. Pots and pans are the worse offenders.
ElaineH, there is also something else he does, which is sweet, and that is how much more often he tells me how glad he is he married me and how he wonders how he would be or where he would be with out me... This is his way of saying thank you...while he can though he doesn't mean it that way...or at least I don't think he intentionally means it that way but it is how I take it because while he would say this at other times too, there is something different in the intensity...I think they are aware on some level of the changes in themselves at this point and want us to know now that they do appreciate us and what we do and they are also fearful of what might become of them if we were not here to devote our time, energy and last drop for them...and it is sincere,,
Thanks to all for your input. It always feels better to know you are not the only one with this experience. I wasn't sure if it was a dementia thing or just part of aging. We seem to be at a place where he is noticably lossing ground. Yesterday he put on his comfy clothes at lunch time and said, "this means I'm done for the day". All he had done that morning was blow off the sidewalks and patio after I mowed and trimmed. I really don't expect much anymore, he prefers to watch the birds and squirrels and do his word search.
Mimi, my DH also “tells me” in different words how much he appreciates me. I also agree with what you said about them realizing that they are aware on some level of the changes in themselves. My DH never acknowledged his early dementia DX, but I think in his heart of hearts he knows something is wrong. We had a rough morning; he was very belligerent when I told him to take a shower. After he was finished he was very apologetic & he told me he was sorry. When I told him that it was alright he said, “You are too good of a woman.” My heart is breaking, because I see him disappearing right before my eyes (As everyone else here.)
Andy, very surprised to read that others have loved ones who are upset by any noise: emptying the dishwasher, placing a pot on the stove, even the television. He prefers watching the television with closed captioning - C-Span the favorite.