This is so small compared to what so many of you are going through but I still wanted to share. This is a good example of how our spouses' problems can just make us crazy. And also how we need to avoid any confrontation.
DH: honey, how many rows do you need to save for planting other things and how many should I get ready for potatoes? Me: I need 8 rows for onions and carrots and the other things. DH: I didn't ask you what you are planting. Why do you always mess my mind up? I just want to know how many rows to save. Me: Let's go out and look and I will make sure that I need 8. DH: I can't believe you don't know. you were the one who bought the seeds.
(Both in the garden, me counting rows)
Me: DH, I only need 7 rows. get the rest ready for potatoes. DH: I'm glad that you made up your mind. ME: Me too.
(may be 30 seconds later-still in garden)
DH: Which end of the garden do you want me to save the 8 rows for you? The left or the right? ME: The right. That is where I always plant the onions as they would get too much water on the other end, and I only need 7 rows. DH: You always plant potatoes on that end but, whatever. I don't know why you are always changing things. And, it would have sure been nice if you would make up your mind. If you had told me that you only need 7 rows, I could have planned for it. ME: Sorry, I thought that I told you.
Joan, I was such a good girl and didn't say (which I wanted to) I DID TELL YOU 7 ROWS. IT ISN'T MY FAULT THAT YOU DIDN'T HEAR ME AND REMEMBER WHAT I TELL YOU. Oh, how bad I wanted to defend myself. Just once, I would like to say it like it is and not get a fight going by doing so.
Sounds like a dialogue that is repeated all over this country between a lo w/ad and a caring spouse. It is no fun to defend yourself against someone who isn't on your level. You did the right thing at the right time.
DH just called. Wondering how far apart each potato set is planted. I told him 18". he told me that that is too far apart. I told him that once the plants start growing that it is just right. He tried to convince me that it was only 12". I said again 18" and thanked him for helping with the rows. (we dig a rows two feet apart and 6" deep to get started). He is all excited that he is digging the first row. He told me that he isn't going to mess with the potatoes, he lets me do that he said. Boy is he going to sleep good tonight.
Mary In M. I took my DH for an eye appointment this morning and the doctor told him to use baby soap on his eyelids and lashes because of something that was there. I had baby soap from when I had eye surgery a while ago. Took DH and the soap into his bathroom and told him what to do while I stood there. He is using it on his eyebrows! I told him "not your eye brows your eye lashes", he gives a quick swipe and goes back to his eye brows...again I told him "your EYELASHES". Then I tell him to do his lower lids and he is rubbing below the lids. This went on for sometime so I decided to give him a demonstration and did my eyes. He goes right back to his eyebrows and I finally yelled 'FORGET THE EYE BROWS". I ended up walking out of his bathroom and I don't think I want to go through the same thing tomorrow. When he came out he had the nerve to say "it feels good". AAAAAAAAAAAAAAargh!
Jean, I use the Johnson's Baby Shampoo, no more tears stuff...if you have dry eye, which I don't, it helps to clean the lashes. I use it on my eyebrows too..just tell him to wash his face with it like you see the ladies do on TV when they advertise Dove..It does a nice job and your eyelashes and brows are silky afterwards..It gets all the mascara off with out a problem..And your skin does feel ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh so good!!
Mimi, I use the baby shampoo but if DH can't tell the difference between his eyebrows and eyelashes it probably doesn't matter! He wouldn't remember what he has seen on TV either because right after we have seen a show he is asking questions about it. There is a commercial on TV where a daughter is talking to her father through the computer. DH has asked who the man is each time we have seen it. He seems to think he is someone famous.
Jean, my point really was to let him wash his whole face with the baby shampoo..that way he gets the lashes and brows at the same time...that is if he can do that at this point.
Try it yourself in the shower..it will get pollen etc and make up all off and when you go to put on that mascara the next day it goes on without so much clumping.