My dear husband, dick, took a sudden turn for the worse yesterday morning. he had not been eating or drinking, and we had already decided to let nature take its course. He is comfortable, but not conscious, although, he did squeeze me hand while I held it yesterday. He knew we were there. the children came yesterday, with the grandies. I'm about to call his son in Costa Rica now. Of course, you never know, but I'll be visiting the funeral home today to make preparations for him. my pastor will be giving him last rites this morning. Please keep me and my family in your prayers.
I am so sorry Chris. I hope and pray that Dick will pass peacefully and that you and your family will find peace, comfort and strength in the days to come. God Bless.
Chris Praying that you will be comforted in the thought that you have done your best and have cared for him with love. May he feel your comforting hand with him during this time.
You have done such a wonderful job caring for your DH. He will be comforted knowing you are there with him and the loved ones too. He has suffered much and he will slip peacefully into God's arms and be well and whole again. I wish you and your family comfort and peace. Blessings..
Step son is coming in from Costa Rica... Monday. I told him I didn't know if it would be in time, but dick is still holding his own.... no fluid, or food, only oxygen in his nose and morphine for pain, and he keeps on ticking. Maybe he's waiting for his son to get there. Hope he makes it in time to see his father. He's comatose, but his feet are still warm (they tell me cold feet are a sign). Thank you for all your prayers and good wishes.
I hope his son arrives soon too.. I think your DH is waiting for him. Your DH must have a strong heart in more ways than one..Blessing upon all of you in this last mile of this journey..Hugs to you.
Yes the tea dyed look on the lower limbs or a darkened nail are tell tale signs too, also if the back of the arms or back look "bruised" it means circulation in that area has declined and going toward the organs to try to keep things going. If he starts to have some difficulty breathing, roll a small hand towel and put it behind his neck to help hold his head in place more easily. Also if in doubt and you are alone and you are not sure if he is still with you, something my dad, a retired surgeon did to my mom, was to get a dampened cloth and he twisted it so that a few drops fell on her forehead and when she winced, he knew she was " still with us" as he said.
These are sad sad tips but also reassuring when waiting for family members to gather for some time with your DH. All of us here have you in our thoughts.. Hugs...
My husband is also on Hospice as of last week, but his decline isn't so radical....but definitely there. Our son comes to take him to their old haunts weekly..four hour drive on his part...and that is helping both G and our son deal with this phase. They had a car picnic to the airport this week to watch planes come and go (and old favorite when our son was young). So far, G is doing well with these treks as long as they are short.
Chris, I am so sorry. I hope his son makes it in time. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. May his passing be peaceful when it comes.