As is look back up to the years prior to diagnosis I realize I have been "mothering" DH for some time now as well as my daughter. Another big kid I guess.
This will be the first year in almost 30 years I didn't get flowers from my son,whom I lost in December. DH did remember that however, and told me he would get flowers for me. I replied that I wasn't his mother. But...I guess I am, so will take him out to get flowers for me!
I really hate this holiday. It just brings to a head, how bad my step son is treating his mom. He will call around 7:00pm before she goes and refuses to offer any help to care for his mom. He tells me that he wants to remember her as she was.
She will be very happy to get what little he is willing to give.
My daughters, are her step daughters and they will not even bother to call.
Yes I do see why this is a painful day for many. I lost my mom to ALZ so I know what it is like when they don't know you anymore other than someone who is good to you..Oddly enough she always knew my younger brother who was her favorite.
My step kids always have remembered mother's day with a card and they send flowers as a group. You can't force step kids to do that so I appreciate that a lot. My DH always used to remember Mother's Day with a nice card and flowers; Last night he heard an ad on the TV about mother's day and said I am taking you out to dinner..where would you like to go? It will be interesting to see if her remembers. He didn't even make a card for Christmas, or my birthday using a scrap of paper and pencil..I bought a present for me from him...and a card too which has sat unsigned for several days now..so at the end of the day I'll just put it with every other keepsake but this time with a note in it about what has happened since last year..
Oh where did I tell him I would like to go for dinner? The airport...at our local airport we have a great restaurant called The Spirit of St Louis and the food there is great and there are the planes to watch coming and going and for an avi8tor it will be something maybe we could talk about..maybe..
Happy Mothers Day to you all too! We'll be going to my parents for dinner today and my daughter and her boyfriend are coming to. We'll see if I hear from my son, who is in South Korea. Probably not, not because he doesn't call, but because he probably doesn't even know it's Mothers Day :)
My husband never did anything for me on Mothers Day as "You're not my mother". But this year his day care gave him a beautiful red rose to give to me for Mothers Day. I took it from him because he had no idea what it was for.
Happy mothers day to all who have kids and those who have 'pseudo kids' meaning a large adult kid:) now to care for. nobody told us in our golden years we would be moms/dads again. also those who have critters in house, know they are moms too! divvi
Happy Mothers Day to all you wonderful, inspiring, courageous women! I am mom to a very independent, stubborn boston terrier who loves to give kisses. And DH of course.
This is the first Mother's Day without my stepmom, Ann, who died 4 days after Mother's Day last year. She never tried to replace my mother, who died 6 years before Ann and my dad married, but she was always there for me as a friend, confindante, and supporter. I miss her.
My son lives 3000 miles away, but he did call this morning and sent a beautiful card.
Sid asked me to drive him to the drugstore yesterday, so he could pick out cards for me. He did a really good job.
Now I plan to spend the day exactly as I want - floating around in the pool and sunshine.
Both our daughters remembered mother's day and sent flowers. One was a hanging plant which I hung on our outside balcony. Within an hour a humming bird had arrived. I imagine we will get phone calls later today, but my wife will not understand what it is about. She does not talk on the phone, so the kids will have to talk to me.
Daughter sent a bouquet of tulips and a small box of candy, which DH polished off before I got a chance to see them! West Coast son sent me a message on FB and will probably call later today. Local son and his girlfriend are fixing dinner at her parents for both sets of parents. Beautiful outside so the day will be perfect! of course DH as no clue but will go along for the ride.
Happy Mother’s Day! I am feeling very lonely today. Oldest son sent a card & Walmart gift certificate, oldest daughter had us over for dinner last night & younger daughter came too with newest granddaughter. SO won’t see any of the kids today. In years past DH used to take care of keeping me smiling on Mother’s Day, cooking dinner & giving me gifts & a card. It isn’t the lack of gift & card from DH, it’s the lack of him “being here”. Oh he is sitting across the room from me, but he isn't really here & you all know what I mean!
Daughter, 1 year old grandson, and 3 1/2 year old granddaughter just left. Today was the first time granddaughter asked about DH. She was wondering why he kept getting into things and why he nods off while sitting in a dining room chair. Daughter went shopping for an hour and I watched the three of them. DH took the most watching. Granddaughter helped me. Bless her soul..
won't hear from my son or daughter - have not gotten anything for most of their life for mother's day. When I did try to make plans one of the would always sabotage them so when they were about 12 or 13 I stopped. Last year daughter-in-law tried to make it special and it was fun with the little ones. This year she is reunited with her parents (since my son whom they hate is on the way out) she will be with them today. I may get a call tonight from the little ones, but won't hold my breath. Received and email to forward to my daughter from her two older kids that she abandoned years ago wishing her a happy mother's day. My granddaughter has inherited one good quality from her mom - she draws real good.
moorsb - I have hated mother's day for years. I would avoid church on that day because pastor's seem to always talk about the joys of being pregnant, pains of childbirth, and holding that baby in your arms. I never had a baby and it was always too painful. I loved our adopted kids from the beginning, but maybe if they had not been so angry and more loving it would have been different, but it was not. Now I am thankful for not having bio kids cause we can't pass this on.
Had a lovely afternoon with my 3 daughters at youngest daughter's home. The sun was out and we ate outside. Couldn't help but remember the last mother's day at her house, 2009 one month before Charlie went into the nursing home. Spent that day trying to keep Charlie from going into the street or trying to climb the steps to her split level. When he wasn't running off he was picking up plates and cups (while people were still trying to eat and drink) and throwing them in the garbage. I missed him today.
I received flowers from m son and dil who live 3000 miles away. Step-son took me out for lunch. That was a nice surprise. Daughter will probably call when she's near a phone. She means well but has serious financial problems.
Sorry for those of you who have problems with your off-spring so don't like Mothers' Day. As expected we got a call from each of our daughters and talked to each of them for over 30 minutes. With the second call I gave the phone to my wife. She carried on a long conversation, to which our daughter responded, but which made no sense to me. After my wife said "goodbye" I asked Christi if she understood anything. She said she didn't, but that her mother at least seemed happpy.
Had a nice day. My son DID call which made he happy. I told him I thought he wouldn't call because he wouldn't remember it was Mother's Day. He was a little miffed by that :)
My daughter and her boyfriend came for dinner at my parents and gave me a cover for my new kindle and a kindle light. Plus, my daughter's cat, who seems to be as close to a grandchild I'm going have, got me the latest Harry Potter dvd which I was seriously told by my daughter that he had picked it out himself online as I know he doesn't go outside of the house. LOL, funny!
We celebrated Saturday night. Met the family and all the grandkids (except oldest and youngest) and played miniture golf, then to the local pizza parlor. DH was quite confused at the golf course and dinner, but when isn't he? It was nice. Quiet day yesterday, but my son and daughter in law and 2 grandsons stopped by and brought me flowers. Hope you all had a great day!
Mother's day is one of the things my husband is convinced he can still do. I'm not sure why he thinks it is his job, never involved our kids who are now 18 and 20. He ordered me flowers online, the best bargain he could find. They were already drooping by mother's day. And he said he would cook but then bought last day of sale meat so I said we needed to eat it Friday. The kitchen was a huge mess when he was done but to my surprise he mostly cleaned it up. I did get a very moving note from my daugher, who is away at school.