I am so sleep deprieved I can't stand it. My hb stays up most of the night b/c he can't sleep so he keeps me up. He stays on his computer and talking to himself. Does anyone's spouse talk to themselves? I heard him talking at night saying things like" Oh Lord help me" and Oh boy. The other night he said "I don't know what to do" then said "you're right I guess I know the answer. I have no idea what he was talking about and it kept bugging me all day b/c I had no clue what he was referring too. He talks more to himself than he does to me or his sons. Does anyone else have this problem.
He got a prescription for Lunesta but I think a few years back he was taking it to often and I think he may have been addicted to it. I don't like him taking that stuff but he wants to get it again. Is there anything else he can take. The sleep aids over the counter don't do anything for him. He was taking 4 lunesta at one time. That is way too much but it worked for him. HELP!
I sometimes wonder if my dh is starting to have sleep issues. He used to go right to sleep and not wake up to the slightest little noise. Sometimes his sleep is like that but other times he seems to wake up if I turn my little tiny flashlight on just to make sure I don't step on the cat. As to the talking to oneself, if anyone talks to themself, it is me talking to myself..for some kind of meaningful chat when I am all alone in the house....but as long as i don't answer myself......
I don't have any problems with my wife sleeping, but she sure does talk to herself. Sometimes it's long, involved discussion. Other's it sounds more like one side of a telephone conversation. Although most of the words make sense, I can't get anything out of the "sentences". She does not respond to most questions I ask or attempts I make at conversation (so I don't try much anymore).
My DH talks to himself all the time.I never know if he's talking to himself or me.One more thing he either mumbles or talks very loud.If I say something to him in passing sometimes he get's very mad,saying now look what you've done you've intruped my thought and I don't know what I wanted to do.You just can't win.
My DH occasionally talks to himself but he is more likely to whistle under his breath as he is puttering around the house. He does not sleep at night either. Gets up several times during the night and rearranges everything. Moves things out of the bedroom into the bathroom and lines them up or goes into the living room and moves pictures or pillows around. Will spend an hour folding a throw from the back of the chair. I take Trazadone and sleep through a lot of his meanderings. Have never felt groggy. Tried giving him one but it didn't seem to work. I have difficulty trying to take his meds. Can't seem to swallow pills right.
lee012--my husband talks to himself (whispers, actually) quite a bit, while he is pacing. Based on what he says, I think it's actually thinking out loud. Many times he says something like "this is crazy" or as you said "I don't know what to do", "it's not going to work", all negative comments. For me, it is insight into how confused his mind is and how much turmoil he is in. He will not repeat what he says when I ask him--he responds "I'm just taking to myself." Although he sounds worried or upset, when I ask him if he's ok, he always says he is. So I just take it as an expression of anxieties or fears that we "normal" people also have going through our minds, but he says it out loud. If it continues for a while, I try to distract him with a TV show or music, and the whispering usually stops.
Trazodone is working well to keep him sleeping all night.
My hb takes 2 Temazepam (30 mg ea) at 9 p.m. Between 9:30-10:00, he's usually sound asleep. He gets up at 3 or 4 a.m., and I cajole, beg, plead and get him back to bed. He wanders; Phil4:13 describes his behaviors. At least I have a few hours' sleep. During the day he doesn't nap much, wanders, moves stuff, take clothes out of closet (even mine), etc., etc. I can see why a nursing home would want to sedate him night and day:)
I think I might have a different opinion on some of these drugs... I really don't care if my dh becomes addicted to a drug. Please explain why that is a problem? It's not like they are going to get better whether they take a certain drug or not...the drugs just makes it so much easier for us when they take certain drugs and they need us.
My dh is now sleeping probably 18 hours a day. I find it is so much easier now then when he was moody and being verbally hateful to me. I couldn't have taken much long. I say...bring on the drugs!
Lunesta is $200.00 which is not covered by any of his insurances. I don't like the idea of having him drugged up just so I can get some rest. I could have done this by sending him to a facility. I just want something over the counter so he does get some sleep.
OTC didn't work for my hb. I don't mind if drugs are addictive at this stage, either, nor do I mind if he's drugged at night so I can rest and follow him throughout the house and face the rest of his issues during the day.
Sleepless not in Seatle but Amite County Mississippi: could not sleep last nite, 1:30 am I on front porch listening to coyates (sp) then back to bed front bedroom, no sleep there. What I did next was go into bedroom where DH was sleeping and got in other bed and slept like a baby!
Is your hb taking anything to go to sleep or does he not have problems sleeping. I'm glad you finally got some sleep. Are you near where the flooding is going on?
Lee: not near flood areas.do not live in close proximity to amite or bogue chitto rivers. Do have a pond and if that should flood that would be sign to get the ark and gather animals! Seriously we will not be affected by any floods. Nellie
Lee012: DH nor I take anything for sleep. We don't usually have problems sleeping. If I stay up at nite usually watch tv and keep check on DH. I have tried sleeping meds but didn't like effects and melatonin gave me restless legs. If DH severely agitated at nite I give 1ml liquid ativan - he has had episodes of severe agitation. Nellie