Today was horrible. DH thinks he should have millions and millions of bucks stashed away. Where has it gone? No way we could have spent it. Brought out insurance policy for the car that states amount payable for personal and property damage and where is that money? For hours I listened to this nonsense. Someone is stealing from him. Next time this happens, I will tell him to ask our California son to check into things for him. Hopefully by the next time son calls, dh will have forgotten about this.
Is there any med that can help this? It is church for me tomorrow morning. I need all the help I can get.
shirley, either seroquel or risperdal will help with this. DH started with VERY low dose of risperdal which made him a zombie with tremurs, then was prescribed seroquel which helped without tremors. Depends on the patient. Call his dr and ask which med will help. Good luck.
shirley, my DH also thinks things are being stolen, but he thinks I am the one stealing HIS things. He is on Seroquel, but it only helps him sleep at night, not with the stealing issue. Drives me crazy too. I also will go to church tomorrow, but DH goes with me, thank goodness everyone knows our situation & is very patient with him & listens to him. They also have seen him decline in the past few months.
This is very common. MY DH thought he had to go to California to be awarded a million dollar prize. Be SURE HE DOESN'T HAVE ACCESS TO MONEY or checking accounts or credit cards right now. He's totally irresponsible in that regard now.
My hb steals from me! :) After realizing $ missing from my wallet was going into his hands (I found it in his pocket once, drawer another time), I make sure he never has access to my purse. He doesn't know I've hidden "emergency funds." I've spoken elsewhere of his running up a credit card bill I didn't know he had and the fact that he spent $ as he made it when working. No spouse w/dementia should have access to the till. In earlier stages, I gave him $10 a week to put in his wallet, but that practice is long gone.
Shirley, Lynn went through this stage as well. More frightening was the actual hallucinations. The Seroquel did help Lynn. Often times it is just finding the right medicine at the right dose for our loved ones. Talk with his doctor, best of luck finding the right cocktail for your DH
I can't really call what is going on hallucinations but he is delusional. The geraniums are all broken because of the kids next door (not true). We have all kinds of critters that eat them. He didn't open the garage door all the way and figures someone else did that and replaced the lower part of the door and repainted same. I don't say anything but everytime he thinks something is going on, he makes me stop what I am doing and follow him to area in question. He swears someone comes in the house when we are away and takes his things. This doesn't happen every day but at least every 4 days.
My refrigerator/freezer stopped working while son and family were visiting from Kansas City. He says DIL broke the freezer. Cost of all repairs too much so am buying a new one. Man came to measure the area properly because DH can't even measure accurately anymore. Next day refrigerator stopped working so DH blames it on the man who measured. And he is disappointed in the way I turned out!
Shirley, is he on meds to control the delusions and hallucinations? You don't say. If ot you should contact dr and ask for some meds. DH did well on seroquel. If he's been on meds and they are no longer working you should contact dr and advise him/her of the changes and see what is recommended.
Shirley--my husband was on Seroquel for 4 years, and then it stopped working. One of the biggest changes was that he was very upset by his reflection in the mirror--didn't recognize himself and thought it was a threatening image. As soon as he was put on another anti psychotic (Zyprexa), his reflection didn't bother him at all. Bottom line is, when the brain chemistry is off, all kinds of strange things happen. The medications can get things in line again.
I read about sundowning. In this house the mornings are to be feared. DH came to me and complained someone is getting into our garage and plastering labels on the inside of garage door plus "they" have put a red handle at the end of the rope extending down from the opener to be pulled in case of a power outage. LABELS AND RED HANDLE HAVE ALWAYS BEEN THERE. He complained about this a couple of weeks ago. As we all know their reasoning switch is broken and no sense in my getting in a tizzy trying to tell him no one came in the garage.
Later in the morning he said some "stuff' has appeared near the furnace in the basement and he has no idea what it is. Down I go to check. "Stuff" is a stand holding two lights for painting which the kids gave him for Christmas at least 4 years ago. "Stuff" has been in the same spot for the same length of time. I know he doesn't believe me.
I am at the point where I wonder if I should sit him down and tell him he has a severe memory problem or should I just save my breath? We have never discussed AD. He probably would deny there is anything wrong.
In a moment of desperation, I tried telling Gord that he has Alzheimer's. He laughed and was very angry with me. He said there is nothing wrong with him.
My DH has hallucinations and delusions as well. We live alone rarely have company and our house is very small this morning he told me we had to keep the bedroom door closed because he didn't like "all these people" going into our bedroom. He has hallucinations about animals and bugs that are very real to him but when I finally get him awake he doesn't remember any of it. The funny one yesterday was Robots everywhere.He sleeps most of the time and I'm gratefull for that and hoping we just bypass the angry and wandering stage but thanks to all of you on this board I won't be in shock if it happens. He is not on any meds our Dr says that at his age (86) we will try to avoid that. Ro
ro i surely wont try to change your mind about medications but its apparent your DH is delusional and hallucinating at this point. there are meds , yes most have warning signs for use in the elderly /dementia population but most of us decide to take the risk due to quality of life. even at 86 he can become quite frightened from his visions and they really believe everything they see/hear. it can be very stressful for them too. if he continues you may want to reconsider visiting with his dr about some control over these issues so he can gain some calm and quiet. somtimes the risks involved are worth seeing the comfort and peace they can gain from the medications. but of course thats your choice. divvi