We had our last interview with the LCSW at the VA yesterday, and they have approved DH for full time adult day care. Although I feel some relief, he is fighting it. He doesn't want to go because he thinks I'm going to leave him there. The Social Worker explained that there was no place for him to sleep, so he has to go home everyday. He was up and down all night, and he's just "fretting". I'm not second guessing the decision, but I feel guilty because he's so afraid. I know he's afraid, but it is the best thing for him since I continue to have to work full time. I hate the guilt!
its good to hear he was approved diane. once the initial few times are under your belt you will be able to relax a bit. i know everyone has this feeling about daycare and respite too. keep thinking it will be good for him to socialize and they keep them entertained more than at home. best of luck divvi
Diane, I understand your fear. My husband attends day care three times a week (VA approved) and at first he was worried about me picking him up. I just told him what time I was coming back (adding a half hour to the actual time) and he was always amazed I was early :)
It did take him a while to get familiar with the facility but they allowed him to help put papers together and he sets up the chairs for lunch. Now, he goes very willingly. I hope your husband isn''t afraid for very long and realizes you are not leaving him there forever. It's like taking your child to preschool for the first time and waiting for a phone call that you have to come and pick them up. The first time I took him I cried and went directly home just in case they called (even though they also had my cellphone). He survived and so did I. Now, I don't know what I would do without it.
Now sending him for me to get respite overnight.....I'm not ready for that yet!