Claude went to an "old-fashioned" barber shop. When he got to the point that I couldn't get him there, Donna came to come to the house and cut his hair.
I decided I could cut his hair and save some money, so bought some clippers. I should have known better as I later remembered the "reverse mohawk" I gave my son when he was about 6. I proceeded to butcher his hair. When Melinda, his Hospice aide came the next morning, she groaned and told me to give her the clippers. She cleaned up the mess I had made and trimmed his hair each month until he passed on.
Vickie, I am still thinking of other things to ask for but the barber sounds good! BTW, I put a nightlight in DH's bedroom lastnight and he didn't get up to go to the bathroom!!!!!
I can see the Pacific from my kitchen window..we are up high to begin with but if you have seen the news and the picture of Pismo Beach, we are expecting some high seas. Could wash out or damage the pier and damage any boats there. There is fog out there now so it is hard to see the whitecaps or the waves from our location. It is due to hit here they say near 11:30ish.
I just got home from Bible Study last night and turned on the TV to see the earthquake as it happened on TV. Called my kids in Iceland on skype ( it was 8 am there) and they had a little trouble getting the news there..finally got Sky out of the UK but I held up my laptop to my tv so they could see the action in Japan, by that time it was the tsunami coming in live time, on my TV in CA..Think of this technology! She sees what is going on over skype shown in my tv and she is in Iceland!
Gotta go..got an appt with the Molar Marauder shortly..got to get a new filling..hate having an old one remove..sounds like a jackhammer going on in my ears..yikes..
It's been sort of a 'down' day today (even though KY beat Ole Miss!). DH seems to be getting weaker and weaker. Hasn't played his games on his laptop in over a week. He will sit in his recliner and "work" on his crossword puzzles all day long. Not doing so well as usual with them either. Couldn't really even get interested in the basketball games. Doesn't want to take Millie out for her walks either, which he always loved to do. Not sure what's going on. He's eating good, bathroom is okay, drinking water, etc. Seems in a fairly good mood. It just makes me sad to see this decline so quickly.
I think if the sun would shine we would all feel better!
Ky - good to hear. I love daffodils - something they do not have here in Yuma. The lady next door has a flower bed full of bright orange and yellow flowers plus cacti are blooming. It makes for a pleasant walk around the neighborhood. The temp to day was 88 and we are suppose to be in the 90s next week. I may have to breakdown and use the a/c. Tomorrow is the annual 'lettuce festival' here in Yuma and we plan on going. I am amazed at the amount of lettuce and cabbage that is grown here in the desert. They have an intricate irrigation system all over the city with water from the Colorado River.
It is warming up north so will probably be heading that way sometime next week for my job in Prosser, WA.
Vickie, I hope your DH is doing better and that the sun will shine on both of you.
I am not sure where my DH is. A few nights ago he got up to go to the bathroom and fell. He hadn't turned on a light so two nights ago I put a nightlight in his room. Lastnight I asked him if he had gotten up since I put the nightlight in his room. He started talking about a man trying to get in!!!! I really don't know what he was talking about and I sincerely hope he isn't starting with hallucinations again.
Today he is going to run the vacuum and he doesn't want me here. lol. He goes over whatever section he is vacuuming over and over. I have tried to tell him he doesn't need to keep doing the same spot more than twice. Of course that doesn't register so I am going shopping today and he can vacuum to his hearts content and then tell me he is worn out. If I am lucky shopping I will find some things that fit me!
The other day as I was cleaning the kitchen floor, DH go very angry. He did not want me working so hard. He said he could do it. I think not. The next day I asked him to vacuum. He had some problems and before I knew it the vacuum cleaner fell apart. It was still on. He couldn't figure out how to fix it. I finally got it away from him and put it back together. No more vacuuming for him. He had vacuumed under the dining room table and then could not figure out where to put the chairs back. Later on our daughter stopped by. He gave her something and then said to her, if you want more, just ask my mother where to get them. I guess I am his mother now.
Maryd, My DH also called me his Mother sometime and other times he called me by the name of his first wife. I told myself that it mattered not in the least what he called me. He just knew that whoever I was, I was someone who loved him and that I was the one person he could depend on. I have been known to call my sons by the other ones name on occasion. (From the back they look so much alike!) They have always answered - because they were the one in the room. He'd tell the doctor that we had been married for over 55 years when I was 65. Sometime,you just have to let it go!! and laugh!!
My dad always used to call my mom "Mother" and she hated that...she would say ' I am NOT your mother. I am your wife." Thing with my dad was he was terrible with names so when he would see a lady whose name he forgot, he would call her Mother...some didn't mind some did..and my mom wanted to clobber him. ( She and his mother did not get on).
Not to make light of the situation. I do know that at some point, our LO forgets who people are. When my mom got to a later stage of this disease when she would see a picture of me as an adult she didn't have a clue who I was. How I dread the day when my DH won't know me.
Well I went on my shopping trip today and basically wasted 21/2 hours. I bought 2 pair of bras at the mall and went to another departement store and bought a pair of shoes. Couldn't find pants in a 4P which is what I went for in the first place! Oh yes, I bought a nightlight for my bathroom because I put the one I had in DH's bedroom. I got on the internet and have ordered 3 pair of pants in a 4P and 3 cardigans. I know I will have to shorten the pants but as long as the fit my rear end and hips I can handle it!!!! I guess I will just shop online in future.
I've found shopping on-line is the thing for me....Or, we have a great consignment shop here and the owner always calls me when they 4 or 6P of whatever in Talbots, the Loft, etc. She saves them for me! Wonderful lady. I don't mind wearing any of those that have just been lightly worn, and the $$$ saved is tremendous.
Just sit down to relax.....remembered I have a load of laundry in the dryer I need to fold. And frost the birthday cake for DD, she is 15 today! Well I thought I was done for the day:) We are going to my mom's for lunch tomorrow. We are taking the cake. Fried chicken and potato salad, my DD favorite from Grammy.
Worked out in the yard for awhile, it felt good to be in the sunshine.
March madness is correct! hate programming gone due to basketball. Hb has been having 'melt downs' all week. The reality of his losses he is facing. Yesterday the wind blew the satellite dish over and bent it some. He was able to straighten it enough to get one satellite - the one with most of the channels - but that took a couple hours. I kept reminding him even in his good days we would have trouble finding the satellite. If he had nailed it down like he normally does it would not have blown over. It was to wash the motorhome after we arrived her 2 weeks ago but never did. I finally told him when he was complaining he can't do anything that there is things he can still do like:vacuum, dishes, and wash the vehicles but instead he chooses to sit on his back side all day.
He did go out to wash the motorhome but started with the roof - said it was filthy. He spent two hours in the hot sun washing it and of course he was too tired and hot to do the rest. I made him come inside, cool down and drink fluids. the last thing I needed was him with heat stroke. Must be the full moon coming.
We were going to leave today or tomorrow to head up to Washington. Every time we get ready a storm hits the NW and this is no exception: rain and snow in the mountains with snow levels to 4000 feet and we have a lot of passes above that to go over. We may head out anyway in the next couple days and wait it out when we get there.
Bluebirds at my boxes! I set out a basket w/cheese, crackers, fruit and wine to welcome them--along w/worms. Beautiful weather for now. HBs new thing is peeing on bathroom floor. Every morning mopping isn't fun, but others of you do worse. He dumped is omelet in the sink; guess I'm a poor cook. Today the aid comes to help him shower; so I have 3 hrs off. 3 hrs a week that I look forward to.
Bluedaze,I am surprised you didn't see any bluebirds when you lived back East.Right now they come,sit on my car mirror looking for a mate. They are such a beautifut blue.Everytime I see one I think of the song"Bluebird of Happiness",I sing it when things don't seem to be going well,and I'm getting tired of this disease,it does lift me up.I wish things would dry up so they can start our new house,every time things start to dry along comes more rain.
yhouniey I think I have always lived in areas too urban for bluebirds. Where I live now in Florida we have lots of birds of all types to enjoy. The sandhill cranes are my favorite.
ah spring in Michigan,while not really warm the tulips are up about 4 in,the sky is full of geese heading home an this morning the cardinals are singing looking for a mate,that or just happy its that time of year again,made it thru another long cold dreary winter,time to enjoy the yard again
A great morning! Hb cooperated getting up, eating breakfast, letting me help him clean up and dress for church. Slept through church, but that's okay. I didn't; I stayed awake to be his "rock" and prop him up. lol One day last week I told him if he didn't start cooperating getting cleaned up, etc. he couldn't live here. I have been soooo frustrated w/this aspect of his behaviors. Not proud of what I said and will probably remember it always. He's probably forgotten--or maybe he hasn't and that's why he "behaved" this a.m. Who knows.
I am totally ashamed of myself...I have ask God to forgive me, however, I would not blame him if he didn't. My husband was awake from about 1:00-5:30 this morning before he settled down. When I tried to wake him for breakfast at 11:00 he would not wake up. He would eat if offered with his eyes closed, but not wake up. He was wet & needed changed. I tried shaving him & washing his face things he hates, nothing. I found myself yelling at him to wake up in a very loud voice, several times. Finally, he started to get up with my help, however, slid out of the chair on the floor. I tried to lift him...which was totally ridiculous...he weighs 190, I weigh 118. I finally called my neighbor, he helped me take him to the bathroom to change the wet clothing. My husband is sleeping again. I do have a helper coming 3 days a week at around 11:00. I have left a message for her to call. I am going to start having her come each morning at 10:00 to help me get him up. Once he is up, he can normally get out of chairs with help. I knew when I brought him home, it would not be easy. Thanks for listening.
Okay, Kadee, so you're human. You don't have time to worry about the mistakes you made. Forgive yourself and move on. I start everyday with good intentions and very seldon do I live up to my expectations. So, I just keep putting one foot in front of the other and try to make this day a little better. (((Hugs)))
We had two days of sun but cooler temps and today back to rain with snow at the 3000-4000 foot level . In the Corps we would simply say " Same s----------- different day"
Wolf, I was watching the weather this morning, I can not believe how much snow you all are getting. It is 70 here and sunny. Will turn cold tomorrow and stay that way for a few days. But nothing like what you have :(
Do you need to use the snow blower before you till up your garden?
It is warm and sunny here on the coast of SC but we have pollen EVERYWHERE! At least I now have a garage so the car doesn't look like a yellow one. It is supposed to get cooler and so far a 60% chance of rain on Sunday. Maybe it will get rid of some pollen.
Glad I took my 4 hours respite yesterday. It was supposed to be nice, even sunny--when I set it up. It rained. Then got colder and colder and thunder showers all evening and night changing to freezing rain,and now a dash of snow.
We're having more snow!!!! 4 inches on Monday, another 1-2 inches today. I saw a sign at a local business: "Spring has sprung, The flowers have riz. But don't forget Where your snow shovel is!"
I am heartbroken. Last night our DD called and was crying. She confided in me that he husband has decided he is not in love with her anymore but doesn't know what to do. She's been in counseling as I guess this has been going on for a while but she didn't want to burden me with it. They have 2 young children and are keeping up a front for them. When I got off the phone I was upset and DH asked me what was wrong. When I told him he had no idea who I was talking about and kept asking if it was Joe. I kept telling him who it was until I was so upset I just said to forget it.....and I guess he has because no mention of it this morning. This has not been a good week.
phil4 i am so sorry to hear of your DD home problems. it always adds to our own when our kids have unhappy lives. i hope they find a way to salvage the marriage. and you find a way to not stress over it all on top of caregiving. divvi
Houston Tx. has been in the mid 80's with HIGH humidity all week...making it feel even warmer. I have switched the AC over to Cool.... now I'll just wait for those high electric bills. sigh. This winter has been so odd...weather wise.
phil 4:13 We had almost same thing happened here, my DD called the day of DH DX to let us know she was not happy and leaving her DH. I had a one two punch that day. It is so sad, what can you do but cry. If you want I will cry along with you. After the tears I will say a prayer for you all.
We made it to Prosser, WA after 4 days on the road. It was beautiful in Yuma when we left - warm and sunshine. On the trip north we went from sunshine to wind to rain and wind, rain, wind, wind, rain, wind, snow, wind, more snow and wind, rain, a little sun, did I say wind?? - rain, and wind just before we arrived. When we woke up yesterday morning there was 3 inches of snow on the ground - we were in a store parking lot. The locals said they had changed the forecast to snow the next four days so we got out of there. Now we can say our 'home' has driven in all kinds of weather including snow. Last night I could not figure out why the furnace was not coming on - never could get it on. Good thing it worked when we were stopped in the parking lot when it snowed. So I closed the door in the hallway, plugged in the electric heater and we were warm all night. We finished our trip today where there was wind and rain when we arrived. Oh, did I mention wind??
Now I need to find a place to take the MH to find out why the furnace is not working - we need it.
Hb did fine on the trip. My attempt to limit our travels to max 6 hours did not work except the one day in mid Nevada where the winds were horrible so I got him to stop for the night.
Tomorrow, unless I can get the MH into somewhere, I will start my new job. Unfortunately the closest place to go to is 35 miles away. I really do not look forward to packing up and driving in there. Our top gas price was $4.09 and lowest was $3.59. Here where we are it is $3.81 - ugh.
Did I mention we had a lot of wind - strong winds along with the impact of the trucks coming towards us?
Charlotte, I admire you for all the travelling you do. I always wanted to have one of those “bus” size MH, but now I feel I’m too old to drive one. We do have an rpod & I hope to be able to use it this spring & summer to tour around locally. Not sure it will work as my DH gets confused easily, he doesn’t even know where he is when he wakes up in his own bed in the morning.
Lovely sunny weather here in Holland, some days chillier than others. Yard full of daffodils but something (hares?) has been eating my tulips. It's taking a lot longer than I had expected to get dh placed, but in fact it's working out OK. He has been so pleasant and cooperative lately. Ever since I got back from my trip to Disney with the grandkids a couple weeks ago (he was in temporary placement) he's been on his best behaviour. Almost as if he knows there's something afoot and putting his best foot forward. (Lot of feet in there). Everytime we do something together I think "Maybe that's the last time." Like, I'm pretty sure we ate in a classy restaurant for the last time a couple weeks ago.
My hb eats v e r y s l o w l y. Seems like he forgets what he's doing sometimes. So, I prepare a plate for him and put it on a tray by his chair in front of TV. (We NEVER did that before.) AND, he doesn't eat much at all. I was dumbfounded, then, when today at lunch at the Community Center in town he ate EVERYTHING on his plate. Slaw, he's never liked. Barbeque pork sandwich. Ate it all and he's never liked buns. No coffee and 2 glasses of water, which he doesn't usually drink. What's going on here? Friends sitting around us also took note of the change. Took him 45'. Maybe I'll have to sit and chat w/folks while he eats. If we'd been home, I'd have been certain he'd fed the dog his lunch. One woman said "You'll have to mark this on your calendar."
just finished pulling ivy ( how I hate that stuff DH planted because it reminds him of La Canada, CA) out from our neighbor's plants. It wasn't too hard because of all the rain..the soil is nice and soft and some dang big rootballs came up. I have invited every cat in the area to try to kill this stuff but they are just not interested..they would rather play, run up trees and chase around....oh well.
In Oregon and Washington English Ivy is considered a noxious weed and illegal to now sell. they can sell the hybrids that do not spread, but not straight English Ivy - nasty stuff.