Thank you all for your response. It really means alot to know I finally have someone to talk to and not keep everything to myself. I will summarize the events as to how this came about.
My husband and I had been divorced for 13 years and he had his own law practice. About three years ago he asked me to meet him for lunch. We talked and he told me he was having financial problems and if we could get together again. Prior to us meeting for lunch I had noticed several time that he would forget things and sometimes forgot to pick up the boys at school. I agreed to move in with him in order to keep an eye on the boys and my husband. Turns out I was the only source of income for four people. My salary was not much but it had to do. My husband and children are very high maintenance and it was difficult for my sons to adjust to having nearly nothing. We moved into a rental home because my husbands house was up for foreclosure. We lasted about one month because my husband refused to pay the rent with his social security and we were told to leave. We moved back to his home (foreclosure) before the bank took it over.
Things were getting pretty bad between my husband and I and he threw my sons and I out of his home. We finally got an apartment of our own and had some stability for awhile. My husband moved to another part of the city which was about an hour away. He got a job with a law firm for about a month and got married after two dates with a women he met on the internet. She turned out to be a nurse and I was relieved that at least my ex-husband at the time would be taken care of medically. He is also diabetic. Well the marriage lasted about one month after his wife learned something was terribly wrong with him mentally and she dropped him off at a facility and left him there. Shortly there after they were divorced. He has been to at least 5 different facility because he was kicked out of all of them for his behavior. He would act out like a child not wanting to be there and refusing his insulin.
During all this time I kept in contact with him by phone. Finally last year he was able to stay with us at home for about three months. We finally got remarried in order to place him under my medical insurance at work. He evenually started taking off while I was at work and I would have to leave work to look for him.. This was taking it's toll on me and my sons. I finally asked his guardian to place him back at a facility.
We had a court hearing last month and the judge allowed my husband to come home since I had resigned my position in order to stay home with him. I should write a book.
During this whole time his family and mine did nothing to assist. I am so fed up with my family and his that I have not talked to them in about a years. My husband's brother is a well known professor in a prestigeous college in Boston. What does that tell you.
To make matters worse my husband and his brother are both very narcassistic which makes things even worse. Even with dementia he is so full of himself. Boy, after all of this I should get a high ranking in Heaven. Thanks for listening to my story. It feels so good to know I have someone to listen to my sad stories. Thanks,
It's good to have someone to share our burdens, troubles and concerns--joys, too, for that matter. And this is THE place. Am so sorry you and your sons have gone through so much. It does sound like a thorough exam of your hb and medication might be in order, but it doesn't sound like that will be an easy thing to do. Others here w/more experience w/some issues mentioned here will be along I'm certain to share with and encourage you.
Lee your story shows how much stress AD can cause in a family. but you are not alone in that many here have had serious up/downs in their journeys and relationships prior to getting diagnoses myself included. i hope your DH is seeing a qualified dr specializing in dementia issues as they are the best ones at onset to work out medications and testing. its sad when young kids and teens are involved but they will be a big support to you further down the line. if you havent already you may want to see an elder law attorney who specializes in medicare/medicaid in your state. him being an attorney may have some discounts in this be sure to mention your spouse is an atty as well. its imperative you get him on the right medications so you can handle him at home if this is your intent. they can become quite beligerent as we all know here without proper meds/ i would also hope you have thoughts of getting him to sign durable power of attorneys for financial and healthcare now that you are overseeing his care. i think you said he has a guardian. if so you may need to address his disability income with the guardian and see how to proceed. ' here we find its a blessing to have others to talk to about our situations. family friends just dont seem to understand our needs. divvi
Welcome lee012. sorry things are so difficult. I am one whose husband is easy going, is well aware and co-operative. He has a family history of AD so is not in denial. I am 58, my hb 63 diagnosed 3 years ago now but signs back to 2003.