After feeling poorly for a couple of weeks, I saw my doctor yesterday. I had been having lower abdominal pain for weeks. He thinks it is diverticulitis and put me on two antibiotics. I have to get a cat scan also. He told me that sometimes surgery is needed. I have been going along thinking I would be caring for my husband to the end. Now, I wondering. He is not able to be on his own. I need to be here to supervise his meds, tell him what to wear, fix his meals, drive him to his appointments. We have children who live nearby, but they have work and families. I am sure they would help out. DH needs to be in his own home. He gets confused when we are in elsewhere. On top of all that, I am having kids and grandkids on Sunday, 19 in all.

maryd, I think I know how you feel. I did have surgery and even though I went home later that same day I am still recovering and am not able to give him the kind of care that he is use to me doing. I have tried to do it anyway (like women all over the world do when they are sick, take care of everyone else first and themselves last) I know that it is making my recovery longer but what can you do when you don't have a choice. Now if I do have cancer we are talking about a different animal and I am going to have to do something else... :( I think the only choice we have is to cross that bridge when and if we come to it and do what we have to do. The one thing I am learning is that if we don't take care of ourself first (which is contrary to the way we are doing) we can't CANNOT! take care of our LO's