My husband’s younger brother also has AD (mid stage) is divorced and lives with my elderly FIL and MIL. My FIL asked my husband to take care of his brother for several days so they can go out of town. I will not be able to take time off work. My husband is in the early stage of AD and is fairly self-sufficient. I have been working 50-60 hours a week and am truly exhausted when I get home. There are nights we don’t eat dinner until 9:00 pm. I know that it is difficult for them to care for a son at their age but I’m worried it will be too much for my husband to handle for several days. Any feedback would be appreciated.

Trish, could you enroll them both in an adult daycare while you work? or have a relative or family member supervise them both? how terrible they both have AD. depending on how your own husband copes with stress- that is what will be of concern with the brother in mid stage, that in itself can be difficult challenge for a regular person much less one with AD himself. working overtime and 2 AD persons in a household doesnt sound good. you need some help asap. your stress factor will hit the roof trying to deal with it all after working all day. try to lineup some extra support now. and yes i bet the poor elderly parents need a break as well..you have your hands full..hugss,divvi

In my area the Agency for Aging also does work for Adults under 60. Even if they are different agencies where you live, call them anyway and ask about short term respite. Ask also where your in laws live. From the sounds of it they should be able to get help based on their own age and the fact that they are caring for a disabled adult child.

The nursing home in my area that does Alzheimer's also is the local polling place. During the last election they had folders out advertising their respite services for AD patients. Something like that might exist where you live as well.