Daugther an I went to ALH to have dinner with LO,they had an open house for all the families of residents an one family brought the family dog,LO was upset that they let a dog in the restaurent,then when I got up from table she told my daugther that that man is my father,hmmm,I go twice a week to visit so I asked her if Don comes to see her an she informed me that he hadn't been there in a long time,then she wanted a take out box for her leftovers,I'm hoping she was so confused because of all the people there,usually with residents there are never more than maybe ten,thursday there must have been close to fifty,at least with all the commotion she didn't have time to think about her dawg.
That had to have made you feel sad that she didn't remember you being there twice a week. My DH and I have been married almost 61 years. The other day he asked me if I eer saw my first husband. I told him only about as often as he saw his first wife. He just nodded. Their memories are so jumbled up. I hope she is as happy as my DH seems to be.
DH has been in an ALF since Oct. 11 and he's finally settling in, thanks to changes in meds. He went through a combative stage where he kept trying to hit the aides, but now is quite cooperative. I've been over there 3 or 4 days week, as has his daughter, but yesterday he asked if I'd ever been there before. Also asks where I live at least 3 times each visit. I think he's just trying to play host and be sociable, which is new behavior. Some days he knows we're married, others he doesn't and on Thanksgiving looked surprised when he saw me and said he thought I was dead! He seems to be retreating more and more into his own little world and acts sort of silly at times. I'm just so happy to see that he's safe and happy. He no longer talks about walking back to Illinois and doesn't try to escape. I just marvel at the patience of the staff. Yes, I know that they can go home at the end of their shift, but it's still amazing.