At times, my husband doesn't recognize me. When he asks me "where's my wife" I usually say I'm her, and he either snaps back to reality and recognizes me or fakes it. However, once he starts he does continue to ask for a while. A few nights ago he said something different, on the order of: "I wish my wife knew where I was, she's probably worried about me." So I decided to try something new that a friend had suggested, I asked him if he wanted me to call his wife and tell her where he is. He got very happy and said yes, so I picked up the phone, dialed the weather recording, and had a little pretend conversation. When I got off the phone, he thanked me profusely and didn't ask one more time about his wife! Have to remember to use that method in the future.
That was a good idea. My DH hasn't reach that point yet. He doesn't know how long we've been married where we met, where I was born, how long he worked before he retired,.....but he still remembers me. Thank heavens!
I don't think it will be long before my DH is doing similar things. He just told me a few days ago that his feelings for me have changed so like some of my friends from here have pointed out he is either in the stage where that is going to happen or it is a temporary confusion and at another time he will feel like he always did. Either way I know that it is coming up. That is a really good idea of yours. Thank you for sharing it with us.
I was amazed at how well and engaged my DH was for his induction into the John Muir Hall of Fame two weeks ago and then again when the kids were just here and on Thanksgiving with some friends in for dinner..Like the good ol DH. Then today he asked what 9/11 was..he didn't remember anything about that.
For those of you whom this hasn't happened yet, from my experience it doesn't have to be traumatic. At times it has been quite humorous when we've been hugging and kissing, then DH tells me something like--you know, I have a wife so I can't stay with you, and proceeds to tell me how great his wife is.
I've been telling DH for months that i spoke to his mothe on the phone, and she's fine. Sometimes I will tell him she was here the other day (if he thought I was her the other day). His mom is dead over 20 yrs, and his dad about 30, but to him they are alive. he'll say, I need to call my mother and let her know I'm staying over night, so I'll tell him I talked to her and she already knows. and she's fine with it. (lol) the other day he was very upset, because of this affair we are carrying on.... he loves me, but he's a married man. Al righty. I think he's going to divorce her, altho I told him it's ok with me if we continue living in sin. LOL