I don't look forward to the day I must say this too. I feel your loss because I will also lose the love of my life.
I hope for you that you can open your heart to your own life soon and that the time that you have takes on meaning which may be different from what you shared before; but, also be of value. We have our time and we have our life and we can hope that spirit can come back into it - even though we have suffered great loss.
Sincere Condolences Thunder to yourself and your daughter and all your family on the passing of your much loved wife Sharon ,now at peace and whole again God Bless Rosie
So sorry about the loss of the love of your life but I'm also happy that she is free of this disease. One of my favorite songs is "I'll see you on the other side" and the song goes on to say..."I'll be waiting on the far side banks of Jordan.......... I'll be waiting with my arms open wide. And when I see you coming I will rise up with a shout and coming running through the shallow waters reaching for your hand." Not the entire verse but those words are so dear to me. I hope they help you find comfort.
Thunder, I am sorry for your loss of your sweet Sharon. I can relate in a profound way as I lost my Cliff on the 6th of this month. I suspect you take great comfort in the fact that you were with her when she passed...I was with my Cliff and it was the sweetest sense of peace I do believe I have ever felt. I pray that your family will continue to surround you and that you will continue to feel a serene sense of peace.
Thunder, I am sorry to hear you have lost Sharon. I can't imagine what you are going through. From what you have said on here I know you will get through it. I am glad you have family and freinds to help out. My prayers are with you and the others that are going through this with you.
So sorry for your loss, but you can take comfort in knowing that you and your daughter provided her with the best quality of life possible and that, as you said, she died with dignity and on her own terms.
Dear Mark, Sharon is now at Peace, and you and your daughter now have your Guardian Angel watching over you...My prayers are with you..God Bless you both...Rosalie
This is what I read at the celebration of Sharon's life that we held last Sunday. I will miss you forever my love.
I don’t want Sharon to be remembered for the last moments of her life. I don’t want her to be remembered as the tiny ravaged little shadow of herself that she became at the end. Sharon was the antithesis of her final days. She was smart. She was funny. She was strong and healthy... Determined. She was breathtakingly beautiful. She was completely devoted to me and to Kathleen. Her family was her life and her love. Before Alzheimer’s disease took away her memory and her strength she was vibrant and passionate about life and her family and friends.
It must be difficult for those of you who only knew her at the end of her life to picture her as athletic and robust but she was. I got her into running when we were fist dating and she continued that long after I lost interest. When there were far fewer houses on Bull rd and almost no one who jogged...She was known around Rock Tavern as “That blonde who runs”. She was so determined to stay in shape that she took to lifting my weights in the garage in morning before she went to work ... one day she put a dent in the fender of my car with the barbell so I bought her a Total Gym (the exercise machine that Chuck Norris and Christie Brinkley hawk on infomercials) She actually wore it out. She broke the platform off of it and the people in customer service said that no one had ever done that before. They sent her a whole new one.
She was what ever the opposite of a procrastinator is. I learned early on not to start sentences with the phrase “You know what we should do????” because I was gonna damned well end up doing it, what ever it was, and sooner... not later. Kathleen is like mom in that way... Joe. So if you find yourself with a good Idea..... keep it to yourself.
She was a doting and indulgent mother and there wasn’t anything she wouldn’t do for Kathleen. When Kathleen was in Brownies Sharon volunteered “ME” to be cookie mom, so you see she did have a sense of humor. Kathleen has been known to tell people that Mommy never punished her once in her life. Sharon is proof that you can raise a child without raising your hand. She was sincerely gentle, kind and compassionate by nature. She had a beautiful heart.
She was a card carrying member of GRITS.... that is "Girls Raised In The South". And she was proud of it even though she had become an honorary Yankee. Every year when we travelled to Virginia to visit her family and friends as we crossed the Mason Dixon line I could swear her accent jumped up a notch or two.
In the end she could not walk or talk or do for herself any of the simple little tasks that we all take for granted. But that did not matter.. Kathleen and I did them for her. I have been called a hero and a saint. Trust me I am neither. I am just the lucky guy she chose and it has been my sweet pleasure and an honor to care for her.
The look in her eyes when she saw me never changed right up until the end. She could smile with her eyes alone and when she flashed those eyes at me it made me weak in the knees. In the end she did not know who I was exactly, but she knew that she loved me and her eyes told me that she knew that I loved her too.
This world is a significantly better place because she was in it. She believed in God and Jesus. And I hope that she was right.... because, If there is a heaven it is brighter and sweeter and more beautiful because she is in it.
What a beautiful tribute to your lovely wife, Thunder. You can feel the love shine through! Thank you for sharing these lovely sentiments. May you and Kathleen now find your own peace, as Sharon has.
Thank you for that beautiful tribute. I have always planned, if I outlive Sid, to speak of him as he was when I fell in love with him, not how he was when Alzheimer's possessed him. We should all remember our spouses that way.
Thunder, God has put you on my mind lately so please know I am praying for you and for you to have peace at this time. God Bless you as we near this holiday season. Take care.
Hi Mammie, Thank you. I am coping... I think. My daughter is taking it very hard. She was full time taking care of mommy and now she doesn't know what to do. Friday I came home from work and my bed-spread was all rumpled up. I asked Kathleen if the dogs had been on my bed. She said "No, I went in to put some laundry away and the room smelled like mommy so I laid down and cried".
Seeing her sad is what is killing me. She seems so fragile.
Both of you will be in our prayers. I understand about your daughter. We have a son who is handicapped and when he comes down he helps with his father. He gets so upset and won't talk about the end times. He can't. He knows it is coming but he also knows he can't deal with that yet. He visits for a few months at a time and then leaves for about 4-6 weeks. He is a huge help with this father. I am concerned about him and how he is dealing with this now, much less how it will go later. I pray both you and your daughter have a beautiful day and remember the good times, and like your daughter did, the smells. Even tho they hurt now, soon you will be able to remember them and smile and pass the beauty on to someone else in need. Have a great day......