This is what was going on. We were both watching Let's make a deal on TV and we hadn't spoken for a long time and then...
DH-I wonder if you dream when you are in a coma?
Me- I don't know, how long have you been thinking about this?
DH- Just a few minutes. I just wondered because we all have a brain.
Me- That's true,does being in a coma worry you?
DH-No, at least it's not a brusha!
Me- What!
DH- At least it's not a brusha.
Me-(a lightbulb went off in my head) Oh! real funny!(burumpa)
After that he went back to not saying anything. I was left to wonder if he was really making a joke or if he really wanted to know if you dream or not when in a coma. For now I think it is a safe bet to think that it was a funny.
I hope that I didn't offend anyone with this but it was kind of a shock that he would think about this. I have never heard of anyone thinking this way. One of my friend suggested that he is trying to prepare me for what might happen. Does that happen, do they actually know what is going on with them to the point that they can (for lack of better word) prepare their LO's for what's to come?
We NEVER talk about it. As far as he is concerned there is nothing wrong with him. When we received the initial DX of early dementia in 2006 he didn't believe it. Whenever I brought it up after that he got angry & insisted that there was nothing wrong with him. So I just stopped trying to explain to him that what was happening to him wasn't his fault.
Thank you for sharing your experience with this, now I know that it is more common. I wish that this was not happening and that he didn't have to prepare me for anything but it is and he does. Our LO's are still protecting us even with all the things that they are going through. It is amazing!
my DH is going downhill very quickly. he constantly says, I don't know anything. Like I'll say, do you want pasta...... the answer, angrily, I don't know, I don't know anything!!!!
chris, it took me a while to figure out what he meant but after I figured it out I thought it was funny too! I told it to a couple of my friends and they did the same thing, they couldn't understand it at first but when I repeated it I did the motion of combing my hair and then they got it. He has a really dry sense of humor. I wonder how long that will last... I will have to just enjoy it as long as it does.
Ok, everybody!.... I'm going to admit it here for all to read. I don't get it. I remember "Brusha brusha Brusha", the old Ipana Toothpaste commercial.. I am not usually this dense...so don't worry. I'm sure a lightbulb will go off in MY BRAIN eventually and I'll get it. I'm embarrassed!
Our loved ones can suddenly be funny out of the blue. Kathryn has a great deal of trouble communicating and doesn't say more than a few words at a time and can't make even a simple decision or follow the simplest instruction. The other day I was going to play golf and told her I had heard that anyone having sex one hour before playing a sport did much better. Without blinking an eye she said It's a shame Your going to lose. I about fell out of my chair laughing and she joined in and laughed for about three or four minites. It was great. Really made my day. And she was right. I lost by 5 strokes.
vickie, I agree that those moments of clarity are precious and I think I enjoy remembering that my DH said this funny thing as much as when he originally said it. For m,e since he has changed so much about what I fell in love with, if I see just a hint of him it makes me feel good.
Jim, that's wonderful! I have friends who send me jokes on-line and my husband still understands them and laughs, but I can't remember the last time he made a joke.
I didn't get it either. It's right there though. It sounds like we are much further along. I remember when my DH was still making jokes and wisecracks. She went through a period that I heard best described as 'teenage antics'. These days mostly when you put your ear up against her you can hear the ocean roar.
I wonder if there are any caregiver timeshare schemes. You know. Dirtpoor hatmaker in Bolivia willing to trade villa in Santa Cruz for week in brick bungalow with DS. Or burnt out mechanic in Butte garage willing to trade week for week in a southern state watching DS. There's got to be something worse than this so that after a week of that I could come back and say "Well, at least I don't have to do that." I'm not holding my breath. Now where is she hiding all that toilet paper?