I have encountered a problem with my DH going to bed at night, he gets in to bed and I switch on his music and turn out the light. Recently he has been getting upset when he goes to bed, and a few minutes later he comes out and says he doesn't know where he is! This is upsetting for both of us, and I am wondering if anyone else has encountered the same problem and what they did about it.
sylvia my thinking is that he may be scared to be alone in the bedroom in the dark. he is obviously missing your presence. if you can find a place to sit and read or do something even maybe get into bed with him til hes asleep it may help. they become very clingy and insecure during some stages. letting him know you are with him may help while he falls asleep. plus maybe something to help him sleep from his dr may be helpful too. divvi
Divvi is right. My husband went through stages where he went to bed at 8, and at 8:30 would come back into the den wanting me to come to bed (I guess he thought it was 10, our usual bedtime). I would tell him that I would be back shortly, and for a while that worked. Then, he started coming back into the den and sitting in his recliner (and sometimes falling asleep there) until I went to bed. Later, he just stayed in the den until I went to bed. He NEEDS to be in the same room with me when I'm home, even though he doesn't know who I am, my name, that I am his wife...what he seems to know is that I am his lifeline. His utter faith in me and the necessity of seeing me is vital to him.
We learned in a bad thunderstorm a few years ago that total darkness petrifies most of them. So I leave the TV on so he always has light around him, and also that I have battery powered lights in case the power goes out again. This is just part of the disease.
Sylvia, for us this was a problem at an early stage and it was temporary: I did what divvi suggested: stayed in the bedroom till he was asleep. he now goes to bed willingly at 8. I tell him I have to .... (fill in anything) and will be with him soon. It always works. He sleeps the clock around.
Many thanks for your kind help, he has a Drs. appointment later this week and I will tell the Dr. and hopefully will be able to get some medication for him - he's not on anything at present. He has a light on in the hallway next to his bedroom and can see and hear that the TV is on in the lounge room next to his room. I am beginning to think like Mary says, it is part of this dreadful disease ! Thanks again for your comments, and hugs to you all