I have to share this with someone because I am so amazed. We live in a 2 story town home. Since the master bedroom is downstairs I do not go upstairs every day. DH has his computer up there so he does go up to it several times a week. I went upstairs this morning and found the heat on and it was 85. It was 99 yesterday, here in NC, and another hot day is expected today. I am upset, surprised, amazed to find the heat on. I know DH must have done it. Yesterday, he commented that it was warm up there. I will have to be on my toes and follow him every time he goes up there.
I'm s l o w l y learning that I need to follow hb to see what he's up to or has done. Can't leave anything lying around that I'll need later or that he might "mess" with, i.e. cell phone, keys, a can of cream of chicken soup set out for a recipe to be made later, etc., etc. Having to be on my toes all the time hurts!
My DH doesn't mess with the thermostat but he always leaves the water running in the bathroom. Of course he didn't do it ..the man in the mirror was using it.
So far my husband hasn't messed with the thermostat but if I open a window, he comes behind me and closes them. He tells me he closes them because the wind is getting in. I tell him that is the whole purpose of opening the window on a nice day. I could open the windows he closes all day.
OH Friends! I HATE these roller coaster days. The morning didn't start out very well. He was in a "mood". Kept asking what our next "function" is. (he thinks we have to be doing something or going somewhere all the time) He left his USS Forrestal hat at our daughter's house yesterday when we were there getting the grandkids of the bus. So he keeps asking if I know who took his hat. (It is his identity to him). Then for some reason his mood changed & he was OK. We had a nice lunch & he actually saw that I looked tired. I told him that I felt like taking a nap & he said that he did too. So after lunch I told him that we were just going to take a short nap. Took me a while to fall asleep. An hour & a half later he was awake & wondering why we were sleeping for the last "80"hours. Uh-oh! Silly me....I tried to reason with him & tell him that we just took a short nap. He left the room & went across the street to our daughter's house & myust have told her I was sick cuz sure enough a few minutes later she was in our bedroom asking if I was sick(she pretty much knew I wasn't). I could tell that he was back in his "mood". After she left I got up but I couldn't find him. He had gone back over to her house. Then he came home & we had a few more words. He ten did something he hasn't done before. He went outside & started walking down the street. I called my daughter & she went & intercepted him & they had a discussion about him being mad at me cuz I was taking a nap. He has neve gone out unless he was headed to her house or our neighbor's house. So now I'm wondering if this is the start of him wandering. Right now he is sitting on the couch across from me with that blank look on his face. I feel so empty. Sorry this is so long, but thanks for listening. BTW should I have written this under a different thread?
blue, DH does the same thing. We have a detached garage - and he goes out the back door - leaves it wide open, to get to the garage, comes right back in and leaves it open again. I spend half my days closing doors! It was 91 deg. here today too! But at least this summer he wanted the a/c and fans on. He spent all last summer in his winter jacket, hat and gloves and could not stand the a/c. I suffered then but enjoyed (?) this summer. Now with fall approaching.....I wonder what it will be???
It seems that my hubby doesn't go by outside air temperature but by the colour of the sky-----if it is clear and blue, he will open windows and doors even if it is a cool day. And wear shorts and short sleeves. But if it is cloudy, no matter if it is a warm cloudy day, then he goes around shutting the windows, sometimes turning on the heat, and wears sweaters and jackets. I try to relay temperature info to him but I don't think he can process that well anymore!
Hello sweet friends. The thermostat wars continue with DH at the ALF as well. Hot/Cold Cold/Hot there is no adjustment that is allowed to last. We try our best and I think as long as someone is visiting, he tolerates letting the thing stay on 76. Usually when I arrive, the room is too hot..its a phenomena because he can't stand to be hot..he can't stand to be cold. Our home thermostat has survived years of this..We've opened/closed ac vents..brought in little heaters just for his feet, bought various blankets throws etc.(for his too coldness)..and encouraged cooler clothes, iced drinks, fans and etc for his too hottness. Its a constant issue no matter what or where we are. Sometimes I wonder if he's just making conversation but we all hop around wayy too much trying to make it better.
My husband never let me open a window or a door during the last three years he lived here.We fought over fans constantly. Shades got closed at 4pm most of the year.
My daughter and I literally opened every window and door one cool day while he was in the hospital just to air out the entire house. I have not shut any of the shades since a couple of weeks before he was placed when he forgot what the shades were except for the master bedroom and master bath. I can't see in my neighbor's windows so they can't see in mine.
I am having thermostate problems too. I have to keep an eye on it every day. The way I first was able to tell that something was happening is I would wake up in the morning sweating. I try not to say anything to him, I just go over when he is not looking and change it, most of the time he doesn't even notice the change.
I remember one day last summer when dh was still at home. He went to the attached garage and I being wise to the ways of AD, went out with him. When I asked him what he was going to do, he told me just clean up a little. OK...that should be something to see. He came back in a few minutes later, turned out the light and we watched TV. Some time later I went to the garage for something...and he had opened the freezer door and left it open!!! It was about 100 degrees. I always went back to staying with him. He got in lots of trouble in the garage. I turned my back one time and when I went back to the garage to check him, he was standing there squeezing a grease gun. Sure 'nuff...he had nearly emptied it. That was a mess to clean up. He said he was checking to see if it still worked. IT DID!
Oh Grannywhiskers, if your stories weren't so awful ..they'd be funny. Squirting the grease gun to see if it still worked. Yikes!... We've all had similar stories, though. I betcha every one of us have found water running (maybe or an hour or more) in the bathroom sinks. and open refrigerator doors...yep!, I am so lucky I didn't have the thermostat problem. Maybe because we have the programmable type, and if you don't press "set", it doesn't change just because you clicked it up to 80 or more. We used to have the kind with the little bar that you slide across the top. That would have been too easy for him. It's so odd (or not) that they all pulled the same little stunts!