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    • CommentAuthorSunshyne
    • CommentTimeJun 13th 2008
     
    Val, like divvi says, I would definitely talk with both.

    The timing is something for you to decide -- I know how hard it has been for you to make the first appointment. Maybe it would be better to make another appointment now, when you've got momentum, but then again, maybe it would be a little much all at once.

    Perhaps the elder law attorney will know of a really good, certified family law attorney. (Uh-oh, I've just given you a reason to procrastinate ... :-) But you'll be seeing the elder law attorney Monday, right? so that's not very long to wait to see if you can get a referral or two.)

    But either the elder law attorney will tell you that you need to consult a divorce attorney, or I think the elder law attorney isn't as good as you need.

    Once you've decided on a course of action, and learned about potential pitfalls in a divorce action when there is a question of mental competency (from the elder law attorney), you will probably switch to working with a single attorney.
    • CommentAuthorKitty
    • CommentTimeJun 13th 2008
     
    No, the appointment is not until July 16th. I am so proud of myself for making the appointment, I know that sounds childish. I will check into a certified family law attorney on Monday, but I thought it best to get the referral from the elder attorney. Should I wait? Seems like he would have inside knowledge about all this & make an appropriate referral.
    • CommentAuthorPatB
    • CommentTimeJun 13th 2008
     
    Val,
    I'm so glad you have made an appt. Dealing with this disease is so hard in so many ways. You've made a great start and have good reason to be proud of yourself!

    You might also try explaining to either or both offices about the urgency of your situation and also ask them to call you if they have a cancellation.

    PatB
    • CommentAuthorKitty
    • CommentTimeJun 13th 2008
     
    Good point, I'll call on Monday & do just that. Thanks. I feel really sad for myself to be proud of such a thing.
    • CommentAuthortrisinger
    • CommentTimeJun 13th 2008
     
    Another voice to chime in and give help!

    When things fell apart around here, I was referred to a financial/retirement planner experienced in senior financial issues, including diabilitating diseases, Medicare-caid, and the like. Wish I could refer you to mine! But if you can find one, my experience was EXCELLENT! And free! They are devoted to helping seniors (and anyone) who needs to know options for their future. They can't help with a divorce, but they can help you understand what you might be facing liability-wise and retirement and all that. I strongly reccommend one! I went to the consult convinced I was in a deep deep hole, and came out realizing I was going to be OK after all.

    yhc
    • CommentAuthorSunshyne
    • CommentTimeJun 14th 2008
     
    ..you mean it isn't July yet? Losing it. Definitely.

    Yes, Val, if it were me, I'd get going on an appointment with a divorce attorney.

    And no, it isn't in the least bit childish to be proud of yourself. Taking a step like this is phenomenally difficult. We are all proud of you!
    • CommentAuthorKitty
    • CommentTimeJun 14th 2008
     
    Thanks! I know there is some senior (am I really a senior? I still get carded when buying wine, ha! They have to check anyone 40 & under) agency in town that I will try to locate Monday. They might have financial advisors, they are volunteers.

    His brother said, why doesn't he just apply for disability? I think the brother has a low IQ or is just socially inadequate. Like you can just go in an fill out an application.

    I wonder what happened to the woman who wanted to know if her husband was just mean or had AD. Hope she's o.k.
    • CommentAuthorLFL
    • CommentTimeJul 28th 2013
     
    ttt for watchful