Yesterday we were eating lunch. He pushed his plate away and put his face in his hands. I asked him if he wasn't feeling well. He looked up and he was weeping. Tears were coming down his sweet face. I immediately went over to him to hold him and tried to find out what was wrong. He just sobbed and asked me if I was going to leave him We celebrated our 60th anniversary this year. I felt so bad for him. He has never been unsure of himself and this realy made me feel so sad. I told him I would NEVER leave him. He was my dear husband and I loved him so much.
He stopped crying and smiled at me. Then he told me he tought I could probably have done a whole lot better. He needed so much reassurance. Why at this time? I don't know.
Anyway, it only lasted a few minutes and then he finished his lunch. He told me I was a great cook and thanked me for taking such good care of him. Then he laughed and said "I think I might starve to death if I didn't have you to fix these good meals." FHI, it was a sandwich, banana, 2 cookies, yogurt and a glass of juice. Hardly gormet cooking. :)
I'm suprised in reading the different forums these last few months how much of their ability and personality remain and pop out at times. I'm close to stage 6 roughly and we've lost pretty much all the skills and are confused by more and more basic things.
One of the silver linings is how quickly my DW forgets when I got frustrated or upset. She's very good at misplacing anything to do with her having AD but once in a long while is also weeping, worried about what will happen, or worried that I won't be here.
The silver lining is that unlike us where when a worry emerges it stays big time - it seems to be another thing for them that disappears into the ether.
On the other hand my DW always and consistently thanks me. That worries me that she can keep the continuity of events in her head.
Oh, Mawzy, what a sweetheart he is! Mine does this once in awhile too or something similar. I think at some point they lose their self esteem, confidence, etc. And I have found that "gourmet" meals mean something entirely different than it used to! LOL
Mawsy bless his heart. it makes us so very sad to see them to distressed and weepy. the loss to us is overwhelming but they seem to have some internal notions of the losses they are also without. reassurance and hugs is a good thing. yes hes lucky to have you giving him his 'gourmet' meals. goes to show a gourmet sammich is the same one but loaded with love. divvi