Just read an article on widows, by Alison Lutermun. It really struck a cord with me.
"Once in a while I take another whack at this Grief Thing, as if this grief thing were a pinata. One of these days, when you happpen to hit it just right it will burst open and the candies of Wisdom, Insight & Acceptance will spill all over. For a long time though, there is just the blindfold and the swinging."
I am leaving this here under Pinata, but I am also moving your comments to the Widows/Widowers section. Do you happen to have the address link for that article?