Whenever I tell my dh a new thing that I just learned, he thinks that we have already discussed that ... "didn't we just talk about that the other day?" Is this normal? I'm trying to figure it out.
Also, he's been complaining about having no energy this past week (he is 80). Is this a hallmark of AD?
Oh, dear, dear, dear. I do not have AD, but I am 80 and happy if I have enough energy to go from a nap on the sofa to my bed.
And, yes, I think his thinking that something has been discussed before is normal for AD. They often talk about something that never happened, but they truly believe that it did. It doesn't help to correct them.
Very often my DH will say he has seen a new show before! Then he asks if I have seen it and I say no, he says he must have been alone when he saw it. The only time he is alone is when I go to the store in the morning. BTW, he will be 82 in September and sleeps a lot. I think it is part AD and part Namenda.
There is nothing I can tell my DH that he perceives as new information. He acts like he already knows about anything I have to tell him; like it's old news. It really puts a damper on conversations.
He is on Namenda but I don't thing that's causing this know-it-all behavior. He never liked anyone to be one up on him.
He has enough energy to stay awake if we are doing something or on the go but will fall asleep as soon as he sits down to watch TV. He's only 69 so this must be a window of things to come.
My hb, too, has already seen or done anything mentioned now--sometimes "many times." He, also, was never wrong and had done it all. EXCEPT he didn't say he'd done something if he really hadn't and knew he could be "found out." Now...like I say, he's seen every move, etc.
That is interesting..myDH will say he has NOT seen this movie or that one even though he has seen it 5 times this week alone ( A&E movie station) less so with Turner Classic Movies.
Goes both ways here. Sometimes with a show we've seen numerous times she says she's never seen it. Other times we can be watching a totally new episode and she swears she's seen it already! Doesn't really matter. Five minutes into any show, new or repeat, it's always 'new' to her!
Thanks for your replies. I was pretty sure this had to do with his AD, but wanted to check. If this were only the worst thing to look forward to ... Paranoia also seems to be always lurking close to the surface. I am learning to really think before I say almost anything these days (not my nature at all). I guess this must be God's way of improving my character.
My dh does this thing a lot when we are in the car. I will say "I think I turn here to get to such and such a place" and he will reply...."yes, I think that is right". So one day I tested him and I said I thought I should turn right instead of left and he immediately say..."yes, tha is the way to go to the place". Well...I knew it was wrong...he was just saying it to make me think he knew directions which I knew he didn't.