I don't know where you found this, but it is excellent - It just earned a spot in my resource section on the left side of the website. I will put it up this week - I urge everyone to read it.
Looking back to when my mom had AD, but before she was DX,...my dad was in hospital following surgery for oral cancer ( cigar smokers beware) and in all other facets of her life she seemed to function well. However, when we would be watching to, mainly the news, she would gab through the whole thing..it drove me nuts. Even a normal TV program and the chat had nothing to do with what was on TV. Maybe this was an early symptom? Later when she had the DX and was at the point of needing care givers, one way one of her care givers who was just the best would get her to do things and be interested in things no one else could get her to do. Diane would come in at 8. She would get mom going...first the beauty routine..hair done, make up on, pretty outfit, and would she lavish the praise..She could get mom to do just about anything. She would tell her after lunch it was time to get a little light snooze..they would sit in the TV room in the recliner together. Then at the magic hour, she would get mom her snack and say..." Ya wanna watch some smut?" The Smut was Sally Jesse Raphael show. It was always the time more than the show,, the show could have been Howdy Doody..They would sit there and look at the TV and laugh up a storm and I know mom understood none of it but they sure had a good time and it took care of some of the jabber. Mom's jabber sessions usually strarted in the later afternoon probably as part of the sundowners.
I am sorry you are going through this now. I guess his cussing is a release of frustrations but it is scary. Has he ever got physical with you..such as a punch?
I have a cat too and not long ago my DH, who loves Ebonie and talks sweet to her all the time, got a little rough with her which is a BIG mistake as 2 years ago she was mauled by two weenie dogs nearly to death and she does not take kindly to horseplay, bit him in the arm. He is diabetic in the bargain...he mended just fine but it could have been serious.
I think they don't know what they are doing and have discovered that I have to be watchful even with the cat. Ebonie is not a mean cat and actually is rather shy but rough her up, and it matters not who you are, she will defend herself..it is her instinct now.
Faye - considering how unpredictable they can be with this disease, I personally would not count on mace or wasp spray. It could literally have no effect. You need to heed what others who have been there recommend: I would contact the doctor now, not wait until August. Also, they recommend you contact the local police and fire department so if you call, they will have a heads up on his condition. He may never get actually violent, only threatening, but do you want to risk your like or his that he won't?
Your sentence: ""he has penned my arms down and raised his fist but so far I have been able to divert him from hitting me. After these confrontations he usually tells me he is sorry."" sounds exactly like an abuser. He may never have been, but this disease could rapidly change that.
Faye, call the hot line tonight and tell the social worker what you just told me. She will tell you the right words to use with the doctor, who in turn will tell you the right words to use when you dial 911. He needs to go to the hospital before he hurts you.
Faye, how far away is the nearest VA Alzheimer unit? I would check and that may become your option if he continues to keep 'running'. That is the reason my FIL had to be put in the VA one in Bedford, MA.